To sincerely hope motherhood is not the best thing I will ever do?

[purplebiro]

I'm 12 weeks pregnant, recently announced on FB and an old school friend commented "congrats - it's the best thing you'll ever do". AIBU to really want to reply "I sincerely fucking hope not"?

I know she was trying to be nice and I am delighted about the pregnancy but I am also highly intelligent, ambitious and hard working - if the best thing I'm ever going to do is with my womb, I might as well give up now. AND I doubt anyone would ever say that to a man.

I don't get the "an article to be written" being a bad thing, that's fine, gets it out there

I also agree that any fool can procreate too.

It's what you do after that matters.

The fact that I have said my son is the best thing I have ever done is, like most on here, I have watched him with awe sometimes, become a wonderful human being. He takes my breath away.

bowlers not being funny but are your children really that gorgeous? i pick my 18mth old nice from.nursery and there are quite a few unattractive children. not my neice of.course (my family have great genes but not.something one can really take credit for is it? the human genome?

area have an unMumsnetty hug.

We tried for a very long time to get pregnant. Our lives were in no meaningless before we had our DC. The chances if us having them were do low that we had fully prepared ourselves for life without children.

An honest post area. Thinking about it,I'm assuming my DC aren't going to be con artists, rapists, fraudsters, thieves, criminals. There must be zillions of parents who have hindsight and think it wasn't the best thing they've ever done.

My children are my greatest joy AND my greatest achievement. It nearly broke me both physically and mentally trying to have them, I lost many babies along the way and we all nearly died in childbirth. I am proud that we are all alive, still sane and living life to the full.

I truly appreciate every moment I have them and nothing else I will ever do will compare.

Announcing pregnancies on Facebook.... so gauche.

Oh yes Area they definitely are . They're teens now, and on one hand a bloody pain, but so lovely and good company.

So by 'gorgeous' that is assumed we are talking about the attractiveness of our DC?

aw that's kind blue

i am probably being a.bit negative but growing up in the 1980's all the parents I knew were miserable! and didn't seem to have cracked the 'meaning of life'... it's weird!

Don't be ridiculous, I very much doubt your friend meant that growing a foetus would be the best thing you ever did, being a mother is rather more than that.

As for not saying the same to a man, I think many people do say it to either gender. My dh certainly says being a father is the best thing he has ever done.

Whenever I see an OP I think is goading, I scroll through and see if the OP has been back.
She hasn't.
Wind them up and let them go. It's really hard to know which threads are genuine and which aren't.
Not that I'm stating this one isn't you understand.
Just thinking out loud.

Oops ^^ that kind of life wouldn't have been meaningless either. I'm sure it would have been very full and wonderful.

Posters on the thread are talking about their own personal experience, that doesn't belittle your life in any way.

However having had my twins and some of the strength and grit I've had to find in order to get where we personally are now, are massive achievements to me. Lots of posters agree but some don't.

Maybe the OP will come back in a year and report back on one side if the argument or the other but the point that most people are making is that she can't know now.

There are lots of different ways to live your life, parenthood is just one option but I'm proud of what I've done so far.

Tinks if this is an article to be written it's just very lazy by the journalist? They don't write it - we do it for them. However a pp recognised the OPs name so therefore its genuine. I don't understand why the OP isn't here though. OP come baaaccckkkk

Perhaps the OP is off doing the best thing they will ever do?

You're 12 weeks pregnant. At the moment it's probably more like a permanent nausea bug combined with bone aching tiredness rather than anything baby-related. You may find you feel differently about the statement by the time your baby is 6 months old . There is a reason people say these things...

It is the best thing I have ever done and I am proud to say it!!! How will you even know how you will feel you haven't had the baby yet.

Yabu

Sleeping, Sparkling?

Last chance of that OP

Thinking that having a family is the best thing you ever do doesn't preclude you from doing all sorts of fantastic other things as well.

I know she was trying to be nice and I am delighted about the pregnancy but I am also highly intelligent, ambitious and hard working - if the best thing I'm ever going to do is with my womb, I might as well give up now. AND I doubt anyone would ever say that to a man

The womb part is very short-I am sure the friend meant being a parent. Lots of parents are highly intelligent etc -it still is the best thing I have ever done-beats anything else.
I am a bit baffled as to why you wouldn't say it to a man-it is most probably the best thing he will ever do too.
I'm sure if David Cameron had to choose between his job and his children he would choose his children!

Probably is a wind up.

It is very short anyway when you look back-you can do anything you like with the rest of your life.

I'm sure if David Cameron had to choose between his job and his children he would choose his children!

I wish to fucking god he had so we didn't have to put up with him.

No one says on their death bed...

I wish I had spent more time working

sparkling fair point. all children have gorgeous souls. most adults do too unless poor parenting/genetics or.environmental factors play out unfavourably and the grow up into unpleasant adults

purplebiro I would not imagine she is thinking it is the best thing you will ever do in that your womb is being used better than your brain, I would imagine she is thinking becoming a mother is the best thing you will ever do. For me it has been the best, most wonderful, most exciting thing. Not the only, and not the easiest, but I can think of few other 'things' that I would run into a burning building for, then my children.

No, Cameron would probably choose his job

Any thoughts op?