To think this woman was bloody rude!

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Had a woman ask to come round today in a professional capacity (long story which I can't be arsed to explain). She called me about half an hour before the actual time she wanted to come and when I said that it might be better a different day,, since I was out at the time, she said she could only come today so I agreed for her to come over today.

When we walked in she asked where I was before I got back (as I turned up slightly late), which I was a bit embarrassed about as I am a bit very chubby and had been at the gym.

Told her where I had been and she looked around the front room with distain at the pile of clean clothes on the sofa waiting to be sorted and put away and said 'well don't you think you would have been better off getting exercise sorting this mess out'! I was

Aibu to think that was really out of order for her to say and none of her fucking business a) where I was before I got there and b) how I choose to leave my clean washing?

Rude bitch, not sure why but it really upset me :( Feeling very oversensitive at the moment :/

I would have pointed out I was planning to do it in the half and hour before she was supposed to show up but since she just had to arrive early she will have to put up with it. In my best fuck you voice of course.

She was a bitch, don't let it bother you.

It was extremely rude of her, but you're worse taking any notice of someone like that.

Im not surprised she upset you because she was very rude, she was in your home and you were wrong footed because you had put yourself out to convenience her so her comment was also ungrateful.

Try to ignore her. She is not a nice person.

She sounds rude

Unless she was from social services or something, it's none of her business.

And even then, I don't see what the clothes on the chair has to do with her.

Did the professional capacity in which she came over have anything to do with your health/the house/your welfare in general ie was her rude comment linked to the reason for her visit? Or was it completely unrelated?

Either way she was rude but in the latter she was exceptionally rude.

Please tell me you raised an eyebrow and said you were happy with your choices and the folding could wait

Or perhaps 'fuck off you rude bitch'

Either would suffice

Not social services no, I did get quite cross with her & pointed out that I was planning to do it that evening, I hadn't had time during the day since I had already had 2 meetings that day with the school & the disability team. The gym was the only thing I had done for myself that day and I had cut that short to come and meet with her!

Wibu to refuse to meet with her again? She wants to do another visit on later this week at least she gave me a bit more notice this time

Apparently, according to her, I was BU for being selfish and putting myself first and not sorting out my washing not her exact words but the meaning was very clear!

Do you need to be dealing with her? Can whatever she's doing be done by someone else? If yes then BY GOD WOMAN, tell her to fuck off and then fuck off some more until she arrives at the far side of fuck.

It's hard to say if you would be unreasonable not to meet with her again, because only you know the professional capacity.

If you don't want to, then don't.

But I certainly wouldn't have stood there explaining to her, unless you needed to for whatever reason.

Wibu to refuse to meet with her again?

I don't think anyone on earth could answer that question without knowing far more about why you were meeting in the first place?!

Rude, very rude! Odd behavior for a professional, whatever their capacity. Even ss wouldn't be so blunt. maybe

Do you have to meet with her?

She sounds atrocious. I would complain to her boss and ask them to send someone else (unless they're people you have to stay on the right side of; even then I'd complain. It's none of her business when you sort your washing, whether you go to the gym, or anything.) Rude bitch. I am very on your behalf.

Wibu to refuse to meet with her again?

Of course not - who the hell does she think she is?

And if there is a next time, if she tries such a thing again, just give an icy "excuse me?" In reply. Channel Maggie Smith in Downton.

As a mother with 2 children with disabilities (and it sounds like you maybe in a similar situation??) I would say that it's really important to find time to do things for yourself. The gym will have done you good both physically and mentally.

I haven't been in months . (That should be a sad, fat face!!)

Very rude woman. Try to put it out of your mind.

It is impossible to say if she was out of order or not without knowing why she was there. So no idea if YABU or not.

Id be speaking to her manager and telling them to assign someone else. In very clear fuck off tones.

I think I'm reading this slightly differently to everyone else. You say that you made an appointment for her to come round, yet you weren't in when she arrived and you were late for the meeting?

Also, it's impossible to say whether she was unreasonable because we don't know why she was there. Perhaps she was an estate agent come to photograph your house, in which case she is right that it would be better not to have your pile of washing in your for sale details.

Sonja in what capacity would commenting on clean laundry be a visit requirement from an official?

Weird

What's the professional capacity?

Because if it's some kind of thing where she's being paid to undertake a service that involves communicating with you and your family and working with you, then hell yes I'd be on the phone to her superiors explaining the conversation, her patronising and offensive attitude, and explaining that they'd better set you up with someone else - someone who is able to build good relationships with strangers, and refrain from insulting them in their home.

Seriously - she's just completely failed at doing her job. She's met you - and succeeded in offending you, commenting inappropriately on your lifestyle (so you're already on the wrong foot with her) and leaving you feeling as if you don't want to see her again. Total fail.

Put a rocket up her arse.

She's a twat. I'd contact her boss/work and say you will not have her in your house again, and tell them exactly why. I desperately want to know what capacity she was there in