To ask visitors to take their shoes off before coming into my home?

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Including my MIL who clearly didn't appreciate being asked!

As an aside, my cat has just farted! And Bloody hell it stinks!

not to lower the tone or anything [shame]

Ofafrenchmind The recipes for french onion soup I have seen all have grilled gruyere on sliced french bread floating in it, is that not right then? Tastes nice!

Oh, Bogeyface This Is a casus belli if there is one! The 'with cheese' vs 'without cheese' debate rivals the Dreyfus affair in some part of France! I never dared to admit to my mother that i quite like a bit of gruyère in my soup myself...

I thought French onion soup was all about the big cheesy crouton!

elfycat but don't you like to strip out of your day clothes? Would you wear jeans in bed?

Eeew sweaty foot prints on the glossy floor- I'd ask you to put carrier bags in your feet.

Do you actually sleep in your day clothes ? Grim.

I ask people.... Respect my house or don't come in. simple

but you have to wait for ages for the big cheesy crouton to get soft enough to actually pull apart to eat, it's very infuriating, all that yummy soup tantalizingly just out of reach, with this sodding great piece of baguette getting in the way.

I'm with your mum.

I have to agree stalesleeping in day clothes is grim, unless you're drunk and its a one off, or very sick.

I'm just trying to imagine it now....

Nope, feel itchy.

I have two guests who always have slippers in handbag. They take them everywhere.

I wear leggings and tops, my PJs are leggings and tops. Hardly seems worth the bother. I got used to being up as much in the night as in the day while the DDs were small (hours upon hours of back rubbing 18 month olds, rocking on the floor with them, cuddling sick or teething childre - I was always a rapid returner for crying). Why sit up all night in special clothing designed for sleep when you wouldn't get any.

So what do people do if they nap in the daytime? Change fully into nightwear?

If you invite people round for a meal.
They come round dressed in their finery
Do you:
a) Infantiles them: ask them to take off their shoes, or
b) Treat them like adults - allow them to wipe their shoes on the mat and proceed into your home, like the law abiding adults they are.

elfycat Thu 20-Nov-14 18:31:50

Yours sound like mine!

Its a shame your going NC, I would attach a fake verucca to foot and make sure they see it...as you pad about sockless....

b) Treat them like adults - allow them to wipe their shoes on the mat and proceed into your home, like the law abiding adults they are.

B option for me.

I trust my guests, and I would not ask the people that come round to take shoes off I find there is something dogmatic about it.

If I did ever feel so uncomfortable about guests walking in the house in shoes, I would not have guests over.

I invite people round for a meal, they come round dressed in perfectly normal clothes, quite clean and tidy but not 'finery' they automatically take their shoes off when they come in, we socialise in normal clothes and socks.
So neither option a or b apply
Some of us have brilliant socks. I would much rather have am I love your socks conversation than an I love your shoes one.

Most people's carpets are made from petro chemicals and saturated with a million and one toxic chemicals like flame retardants, dyes, fungicides etc etc.

Interesting! And now Harvard bio hazard chemists coming in too .

I can guarantee the house with the most chemicals and pesticides is my MILS with her spotless museum mausoleum where she exists..her and her dh have loads of allergies, ( they sound proud of them when tell you) and constant cleaning going on. I bet is a power house of chemicals.

Iggi999, surely you jest. I can't imagine what was rude about removing footwear at an extremely casual family party with people I've known for 50 years. I don't tell Her to remove her shoes although she knows we all do at our home.

I jest not!
You wrote: I've had the opposite, I have an aunt that tells us Not to take ours off!
and then
I admit we took them off anyway.
So you went again the specific expressed wishes of your host, which is just as rude as someone refusing to remove shoes when you have told them to! I don't care how clean your feet are, I don't want to look at them.

iggy wow! Do you have a foot phobia?

Feet are really interesting!

No, do you have a shoe phobia?

If I was going to your house, I'd ask if there was a conspicuous pile of shoes by the front door. Unless you'd invited me for a party - in which case, if you asked me to remove my shoes I'd probably feel very uncomfortable and make my excuses as soon as possible.

In our house, I don't care. Or carpet is a disgrace. Funny though, because we were mainly a shoes off type of family growing up, although by that I mean we kicked our shoes off in a pile at the bottom of the stairs and left them there. I don't think mum ever asked guests to remove their shoes.

I often go round in bare feet at home, but that's only because it's comfortable. It's not a rule or anything, and it's not necessarily the first thing I do when I'm in the door.

I know very few people who make it a rule in their house, and I certainly wouldn't insist on it-it wouldn't cross my mind, unless they're really muddy, or they've walked into a dog turd or something.

TBH I'd find it odd if someone came to my house and suggested they take their shoes off-I'd be thinking ''eh? You don't live here, why would you?' It just seems a bit weird, but that's my own opinion, like they're being over informal, and I ain't really a formal kinda girl!