to start a TAAT? Do you have decent sex?

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Sorry -TAAT!
I've been reading the 'how often do you have sex?' thread.

The variation is massive and I'm jealous of those having it more than me but only if they're having decent sex!

Dp and I don't have a very good sex life atm - infrequent and unadventurous but we're hoping to sort it out.

Sooo - regardless of frequency, do you have good sex or does everyone eventually fall into the 'quick fiddle then piv routine? '

Sorry to be crude - just wondering what 'normal' is!

Yeah my sex life is amazing. It's getting better the older I'm getting. Usually D.P comes around on Wed and Fri but he's working this evening so no shag for me tonight.
He's gracing me with his presence tomorrow afternoon. Going to pounce on him. I'm as horny as hell.

Mine is crap. Once a month lasting around 5 mins.

I've never had an orgasm through inter course, I can through the clitoros but by the time I am about to climax he moves his hand!!

In a nut-shell if call my sex life very frustrating! Been together for nearly 10 years x

I wish. We don't seem to be so in synch these days. He wants it when I'm. Shattered and not in the mood and when I want it he's inevitably pissed me off

I think. The problem. Is me. I've changed, I'm. Working towards things, and my ideas of what I want and how things should be have changed. I can't ignore things and switch it on any more. I need more mental stimulation and he's happy with ten physical side I need both. It's all over far to quickly and feels like he's trying to hard and getting no where.

Very of all of you lot.

Not having an orgasm through intercourse is surprisingly common BingBong.

The next time he moves his hand tell him to put the bloody thing back!

Molly hooper - I do put it back but the switch has gone at that point, bloody annoying !!!

The next time he moves his hand tell him to put the bloody thing back

That never works. I stand yo be corrected if I'm wrong but once it's gone it's gone and if your fed up or pissed off because they didn't care enough to carry on it kind of kills the mood anyway.

Erm, yeah, 12 times would be about normal for me . I can go more, but usually I have to stop because I'm so unfit my lungs start to feel like they are on fire. Sometimes I have fewer if DP get's very excited and can't stop himself. I like PIV more than anything else so I don't really see a point in carrying on if he is "done" as it feels like the moment has passed. We just go again later .

Both me and DP have said we haven't met anybody else who matched us properly sexually, though he had a very low libido when with his ex, didn't enjoy sex anywhere near as much and struggled to maintain an erection. We have never had this problem though. We both feel that our ex's were crap in bed by comparison to each other and rather dull. We have also both improved hugely since we first got together.

Sometimes we have very very good sex, sometimes its a bit rubbish... I am very lucky to have a DP who is very attentive to my needs in the bedroom rather than his own...

However the last few months have been rather sucky, due to being pregnant and my SPD makes it uncomfy and I've got a lower sex drive. Doesn't stop him pulling out all the stops to make me feel sexy though!

I used to think I was defective because I couldn't orgasm from piv, made me miserable for a long time.

And yes, I also lose it when hands etc. are moved or speed is changed at the crucial point, there is no getting it back for me.

Glad I am not the only one who gets the hump re the hand!!! I find it so frustrating that the rest of the session I just want it over and done with, and to be fair it's done and dusted within 10 mins!!!

The he says 'that was nice' and starts snoring!!

Twelve times?

Twelve?

Are you sure it's orgasms you're having?

12 orgasms!!! Wow !!!! Really??

Nope, I cba doing it and I even dont think about sorting myself out.
When we have had sex its all a bit too much effort on both sides.
He never has had a high sex drive and iv obviously got over the honeymoon period.

Are you sure it's orgasms you're having?

i agree with Bingbong, Giles and iwish - once the moment is lost it can't be reclaimed that quickly, if at all.

One of the things that really cheered my up was reading Shere Hite's book, The Hite Report on Female Sexuality. Just discovering that 70% of women find it difficult, if not impossible, to orgasm from PIV sex made me feel so much better and not so much like a dysfunctional freak. I could sometimes, but more often not.

Hang on - after three I think I'd lose the ability to count.

"Four...five...nine...eleventy six...Jesus...nine...I've said nine...have I said nine?"

If they aren't orgasm I should probably see a doctor . When I get to the point of no return then all my muscles inside kind of move of their own accord? and all up my back/sides feels amazing then it kind of goes from my hips down my legs aswell. It's really hard to describe if it's a particularly good one I even get a tingling in my hands. After I've had one having more is a lot easier. I run out of breath and my heart goes a lot faster during every one and need a couple of minutes slower sex recovery time before attempting another one as my whole body feels wrecked.

vanillabird likes to try new things he thinks I might enjoy

Like what? Not being pervy, but, unless you're very new to the business, is there anything new in sex???

overslept Sounds like you're demisexual, I am too, I don't feel sexual desire at all until I feel a connection with someone and then when I do I'm alarmingly horny but for years and years I thought I just had a low sex drive. It's really fragile as well, I have to feel 100% safe or it's gone.

With the hand thing you want to start again and build up very slowly, it does come back, just takes longer than you think or buy a vibrator. Also get him to concentrate on the very smallest most sensitive spot, rather than a wider area.

Ratio probably 10-60-30 Mediocre/good/mind blowing. But we are still technically disgusting newlyweds.

Frigging hell, overslept.

I'll have what you're having.

If they aren't orgasm I should probably see a doctor . When I get to the point of no return then all my muscles inside kind of move of their own accord? and all up my back/sides feels amazing then it kind of goes from my hips down my legs aswell. It's really hard to describe if it's a particularly good one I even get a tingling in my hands. After I've had one having more is a lot easier. I run out of breath and my heart goes a lot faster during every one and need a couple of minutes slower sex recovery time before attempting another one as my whole body feels wrecked.

Why do I suddenly feel I've been doing it wrong all these years?

I've only ever had one like that, from PIV. It was with ex. We were on some stairs. He had very little to do with it. Perfect position I think. Never managed to recreate it.

I love sex, though. Have lots of good stuff. I try not to think about orgasms. I don't like sex as a means to an end. If it happens, great, but I've ruined too many shags hoping I'll 'get there', when in fact, it all feels good, regardless.

See I'm the opposite there as well - once I've had one (if I'm lucky) I'm done. Everything is just too sensitive to the point where it becomes painful if I try to go again straight away, and my bod is definitely of the "you've had one, what more do you want?" school of thought.