To hate Sunday roast dinners.....

[Toastandstrawberryjam]

It's not Sunday big family dinners I hate. It's specifically roast dinners.

Firstly every single time we have one (or I eat one somewhere else) I'm ill afterwards. I have no idea what it is but some part of it sets off an upset stomach followed by days of cramps. I'm ok if I just eat the meat and a few veggies but frankly that's not the most exciting of dinners.

Then there's the stipulation of "roast rules", always in the evening not at lunchtime. Invariably being everybody is tired and the DC barely eat anything. Then there's the "at least 2 types of potato" rule (but preferably 3 - roast, new, mash) and "at least 5 types of veg". It's such a palaver.

Last week I cooked roast chicken with crunchy baked potatoes, ratatouille and nice bread - that to me was perfect. Low fuss, minimal clean up. But it's not classed as a proper roast here :(

Egg and chips, next Sunday, Toast

Or take a cue from your name, even.

Your DH might be the "breadwinner" but you're not his skivvy. Your his wife and deserve an awful lot more respect. You don't run a cafe. You don't have a team of restaurant staff working for you, behind the scenes. And you're certainly not his mother.

It might be the potato that's bothering you, particularly if you're not used to eating it.

It might be the 6 veg that are just that bit much, if you're not used to eating so much veg in one go (I love veg, but owuld be farting for England, after that lot).

Or it might be something in the gravy.

Or it might be the stress and resentment. It's only food, after all. It's not worth such stress and drama.

You're his wife. So incensed on your behalf that I've forgotten how to use apostrophes

Egg and chips sounds good. Funnily enough chips don't make me ill, or baked potatoes. I think maybe it is the gravy.

We have three types of veg every night anyhow so I think I'm ok with that too (and yeah that's not my rule either!)

He's not talking because I spoilt his enjoyment of the dinner. Somewhat laughable because I don't enjoy it, but that's ok obviously

I'm fine with 2 or 3 veg with a meal. I do stuff like bung sprouts of broccoli in with the carrots, once they've come to the boil, though, so it reduces the number of pans.

But yeah, he only seems to care that he enjoys the meal and sod you. His attitude stinks. (beginning to wonder if you're not married to my ex's brother).

Maybe it's the pressure you "D"H is putting on you every Sunday. It's making me feel pretty ill just reading how he treats you.

No it's def roast dinner that does it, last week I was really unwell after one. Today I'm fine.

Stress does trigger it too but Ive learnt to try and deal with that. Basically it's like a type of IBS but because I apparently have mutiple adhesions inside (told after seeing a ton of drs) if anything starts not working properly it starts irritating all of those. So it's starts as a simple upset stomach but then triggers off bladder spasms and pains. I'm trying to not continually take meds and hold off surgery at the moment. So I need to find ways of stopping this happening.

Dick of a DH aside, does gravy make you feel ill when you have it with other meals?

Can't think of any other time I have gravy.

Are you lactose intolerant? There's often lactose put into gravy powders as a preservative and flavouring - makes me ill every time! I find that a roast is quite a system-stressful meal, lots of fat, veg, etc, and the gravy just pushes me over the edge into IBS, whereas normally I could tolerate the lactose just about.

So,e times red meat gives me IBS type symptoms , sometimes it doesn't. No idea why.

Last week I cooked roast beef and froze half of it sliced in its gravy.

So last night I defrosted it, whipped up some Yorkies and bunged tattles I the air fryer and a bag of ready prepared cabbage in the microwave.

There's enoug left for two of us for tonightas well.

I love it but we don't have it every Sunday , maybe every 6 weeks or so

I really hate to say this toast, but by the sounds of things if its triggered by stress you'd feel a lot better without your husband around.

If you were lactose intolerant, I think you'd notice by such things as milk and yogurt etc, and not from the tiny amount in gravy powder.
Lactose intolerance is a real and sometimes serious thing that deserves better than daft amateur remote diagnosis.

I agree that in OP's case, its more likely the stress.

he sounds like a complete arse sorry

And your dinner plates must be the size of dust bin lids to fit all that on!!

Gosh your DH sounds like hard work. I couldn't live with someone so controlling and sulky! Is he really worth it?

I think it is him that is making you ill.

And all those 'rules' - I never have a roast in the evening, nothing wrong with it at lunchtime.

Well enough has been said about your DH being a bit of an arse and stuff the "rules" etc so I won't add to that (though I agree with it)

What concerns me is why the roast dinner should make you feel as it does. My mum has difficulty with potatoes now but she can digest sweet potato. I see though that even the gravy set you off the other week. Have you been to see your GP? It does seem a shame that you are unable to enjoy something as nice as a roast dinner and surely it would be good to get to the bottom of whatever it is that is making you feel unwell.