To hate Sunday roast dinners.....

[Toastandstrawberryjam]

It's not Sunday big family dinners I hate. It's specifically roast dinners.

Firstly every single time we have one (or I eat one somewhere else) I'm ill afterwards. I have no idea what it is but some part of it sets off an upset stomach followed by days of cramps. I'm ok if I just eat the meat and a few veggies but frankly that's not the most exciting of dinners.

Then there's the stipulation of "roast rules", always in the evening not at lunchtime. Invariably being everybody is tired and the DC barely eat anything. Then there's the "at least 2 types of potato" rule (but preferably 3 - roast, new, mash) and "at least 5 types of veg". It's such a palaver.

Last week I cooked roast chicken with crunchy baked potatoes, ratatouille and nice bread - that to me was perfect. Low fuss, minimal clean up. But it's not classed as a proper roast here :(

I don't think the potatoes are what is causing the stomach upset - might be the sheer quantity of brassicas!

YANBU to say that THIS roast meal is torture. Most other ones I have had have been lovely.

Keep reading the relationships boards Toast, they are really useful for recognising what is normal give/take compromises that all relationships require and what is unreasonable behaviour. Your partner doesn't have to exhibit the worst behaviour to still be someone not worthy of your time.
Took me a long long time to realise that myself.

I'd just tell dh to cook it himself. and even in Christmas day my roasts only have 1 type of potato. Although technically I did 5 veg today, parsnip, mashed swede/carrot, broccoli abs cabbage.

yabu though roasts are great

If he wants it that badly, he can cook it himself.

And no, I would never dream of cooking that amount of food as a 'roast' - unless I was entertaining about 20 people.
This is controlling behavior OP. spend time with your kids and enjoy it. If he wants a roast let him cook it himself.

I wouldnt think of having a roast in the evening its lunch for me.

Re. Slow cooker. Apparently it tastes different. So what I do now is cook said meal in slow cooker (eg casserole) then transfer it into casserole dish and oven just before he gets home.

It sounds as if it's all about keeping you in the kitchen.

I'm famous for my roast dinners and I've never done more than two types of potatoes at a time. Roast and new, or roast and mashed. Three other vegetables is plenty. I might make two different stuffings on Christmas Day.

And the cook doesn't wash up!

I love a roast dinner mainly because DH always cooks it.
He is the King of roast potatoes - crispy crunch on the outside, fluffy on the inside. I bow down to his superior skills .
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It isn't the roast dinner that is the problem.

It is the twat you are cooking it for.

We had roast chicken today. One type of potato (roast) cauliflower cheese and baby sweet corn also Yorkshire pudding cos we like them and any left over get eaten with Nutella or jam for pudding

Oh toast your slow cooker explanation just makes me so sad . He is a controlling EA twat of the highest order & the sooner you realise that & stop pandering to his demands the better. It will either make or break your marriage but you can't carry on like this my love

Firstly I'll admit I' haven't read the whole thread. It's a giant thread about a roast dinner after all.

From what I have read it seems you are cooking for someone who doesn't like you very much. What's the point of that?

FWIW I've never in my life seen a roast served with more than one type of potato - that sounds a bit gross to be honest! Sweet potato and normal potato maybe, but both just peeled and roasted. From my point of view, the one great benefit of doing a roast is that it is so simple and easy to prepare!

And to answer your original post, 2 types of potato & 5 veg is ridiculous for Christmas let alone a regular Sunday lunch.

Roast meat & carrots in one tray, roast potatoes & occasionally parsnips in another, boiled peas, gravy and you're done. Bread sauce, stuffing, cauliflower cheese, fancy braised cabbage or anything else time consuming is for Christmas or when we have guests.

The slow cooker thing just shows you how unbalanced the relationship is, OP.

If you enjoy cooking, you plan your meals around your family and what they enjoy, but you don't let one individual call all the shots and then lie to cover yourself.

BTW, you really should go and find out what is making you unwell. It could simply be an ingredient in your gravy that could easily be changed? Why suffer through it when you could just sort it out? Same goes for your prick of a husband, frankly, but that's one you'll have to sort out without medical advice.

I think there's a possibility that its now a reaction to the idea of it rather than anything setting it off. All I've had tonight is the chicken and some brown rice and peas. So nothing to make me feel unwell in theory. But that's kind of OT too!

I hate any kind of 'family' dinner that involves one person sweating their arse off in the kitchen for hours then tons of clearing up to do afterwards.

Where's the togetherness in that?

Can't stand the faff of christmas dinner either and would happily shove a ready prepared joint and roast potatoes in and be done with it.

We eat Sunday lunch together as part of our regular Sunday outing to the library with the DC. Today we went to Subway

Im not one to talk about other people's relationships but this man is irritating me and I don't even know him

He's very indulged, spoilt and sexist to thk you should be in the kitchen doing everything.

I have never done more than one type of potato and I make a mean roast potato if I say so myself and only do two veg for Christmas dinner - and despite being so lax , am considered an excellent cook by people who've been here for dinner

I grew up with a roast every Sunday lunch. We had the joint, roast potatoes in the winter, new potatoes in the summer and one veg. All excellently cooked and delicious. Dh also grew up with a roast every Sunday. The joint, roast potatoes and several veges. All cooked within an inch of their lives and just not very nice. Volume isn't the important thing!

We have roasts quite rarely, and when we do dh is usually the chef and me and the children sous for him. We do the washing up together. It still often seems a lot of hassle for a not amazing meal. I think that's becasue the quality of meat is not that great where we live (Canada)

For Christmas and other big meals we often get together with other families and each bring something. Then there is tons of delicious stuff and no one feels over burdened.

This dh doesn't sound at all nice.

Today we went to Subway

YABU to hate Roast dinners

YANBU to hate the hell on a plate that you DH claims to be a roast dinner.

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