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Original poster

To hate Sunday roast dinners.....

218 replies

Toastandstrawberryjam · 09/11/2014 15:03

It's not Sunday big family dinners I hate. It's specifically roast dinners.

Firstly every single time we have one (or I eat one somewhere else) I'm ill afterwards. I have no idea what it is but some part of it sets off an upset stomach followed by days of cramps. I'm ok if I just eat the meat and a few veggies but frankly that's not the most exciting of dinners.

Then there's the stipulation of "roast rules", always in the evening not at lunchtime. Invariably being everybody is tired and the DC barely eat anything. Then there's the "at least 2 types of potato" rule (but preferably 3 - roast, new, mash) and "at least 5 types of veg". It's such a palaver.

Last week I cooked roast chicken with crunchy baked potatoes, ratatouille and nice bread - that to me was perfect. Low fuss, minimal clean up. But it's not classed as a proper roast here :(

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Chrissy41 · 09/11/2014 18:14

I agree - there is so much more going on here than how many variety of veg your toddler of a husband is demanding. Why do you think you deserve to be treated with such contempt I wonder? I also have no idea why on earth you are with him. He sounds like a bullying arse.

You having to explain and justify a food bill and heating costs - have you heard of financial abuse?

Hairtodaygonetomorrow · 09/11/2014 18:14

As everyone says, your husband is an idiot and this colours everything, such as the joy of cooking food or being warm in your own home. He pays- you bow down. My husband would be weeping with happiness if I provided him with a roast with three types of potato and 5 veg but he wouldn't dream of making me unhappy and tired on my one day off a week so we ate frozen pizza this week as we were all too tired to cook.

Your problem is your husband, if he loves the roast so much and knows all the rules, why don't you abdicate responsibility for the sunday dinner and give it to him for the next 20 years (you having done the last). After all, he doesn't work on a sunday so it's a day to equal up the workload.

Hairtodaygonetomorrow · 09/11/2014 18:18

I am also concerned he's happy to insist on a dinner knowing it makes you ill for days. My husband can't eat certain types of food because he has a gastric disorder, so you know what, we don't eat them any more! I agree with everyone you need the Relationships board, this isn't a light-hearted thread about roasts really.

teenagetantrums · 09/11/2014 18:20

I love roast but is hard work(well not the cookinf but the washing up), may have had roast chicken and pots from asda today and just cooked3 veg( as a disclaimer I work at asda and had actually cooked the food before I bought it so figure still cooked by me). if you don't want to cook it just don't /

carlsonrichards · 09/11/2014 18:22

What a total prick. I wouldn't cook him a piece of toast.

HelloItsMeFell · 09/11/2014 18:22

I adore a proper roast dinner. If you hate them then you must be doing them wrong.

First of all, you only need one type of potato and it must be a ROAST potato. The clue is in the name. Hmm Maybe some parsnips in there as well.

Three veg is more than sufficient. In fact two veg is sufficient, but three is better. Frozen peas definitely counts as one, and they take no effort whatsoever. (parsnips are not counted in the veg.)

Always either stuffing or Yorkshire pud - never both. It depends on which meat you have.

Always have the correct sauce/condiment for the meat.

Plenty of decent gravy.

There. Easy. Best meal ever.

Baked potatoes and ratatouille is fine, but I agree with your DH it's not a proper roast. Grin

ZingOfSeven · 09/11/2014 18:23

so no bread sauce and Yorkshire puds? what's wrong with you?Grin Grin

Mammanat222 · 09/11/2014 18:24

Well this didn't go the way the OP expected????

YANBU but you should LTB Shock

Although I completely agree if her "D"H is this demanding about his Sunday roast I am guessing he isn't an easy going, chilled out kinda guyin day to day lifel !!!

Mrsjayy · 09/11/2014 18:26

Can someone explain bread sauce to me ive never had it I dont understand bread made into a sauce Confused btw my 1 tatties 1 veg roast was delicious

Chrissy41 · 09/11/2014 18:28

Bread sauce is heaven - you get half an onion and cover with milk, add peppercorns and bay leaf. Simmer for couple of minutes then switch off and leave with pan lid on to steep. Then couple hours later, strain - add breadcrumbs to the milk, add good dose of nutmeg and knob of butter and just warm up. Is fab.

IHaveBrilloHair · 09/11/2014 18:31

I could happily eat a bucketful of bread sauce, gorgeous stuff

Mrsjayy · 09/11/2014 18:32

What do you eat it with

Hassled · 09/11/2014 18:33

Your problem really really isn't the roast dinners. Your problem is your wanker of a husband.

carlsonrichards · 09/11/2014 18:34

Bread sauce sounds vile.

mynameisnotmichaelcaine · 09/11/2014 18:34

Poultry. It's lovely. I always cook about a million veg for roast dinner, but that's because I love it. I certainly wouldn't be dictated to!

vindscreenviper · 09/11/2014 18:50

Bread sauce is the only thing that makes sprouts edible.

Really stinky farts after though.

BuilderMammy · 09/11/2014 19:00

*Bread sauce is the only thing that makes sprouts edible.

Really stinky farts after though.*
I suspect that's not the bread sauce's fault!

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Toastandstrawberryjam · 09/11/2014 19:05

I have recently been on the relationships board so am aware my DH is a bit of an arse (well I kind of knew that anyhow!).

It was more a standalone question whether I was being unreasonable hating roast dinners when they make me ill and (for me) are so much work.

I'm a good cook so it's not as if I hate being in the kitchen, I'm happy to potter in there for hours but I hate the time ticking away on a Sunday while I wrestle with the veg rather than playing and having fun with the DC.

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carlsonrichards · 09/11/2014 19:08

A bit? YANBU to hate cooking for a man who treats you like a domestic appliance.

I'd tell him him to shove his 'proper' roast up his arse. Fucking roast belongs in the 1950s.

Bet he won't clean any of it up, either. Punishing you for not jumping to his commands.

SlightlyNerdyPianist · 09/11/2014 19:12

I can't stand roast dinners either. Mostly because my abusive ex used to insist on them and they've left a really bad taste in my moth now. They used to take all bloody day, and had all sorts of bloody stupid rules to stick to.
Today I had gnocchi and my daughter had noodles, chicken, and peas. Fucking delicious.

Mintyy · 09/11/2014 19:34

But it patently isn't a stand alone question, toast.

ZingOfSeven · 09/11/2014 19:47

carlson

I suspect you never had bread sauce.

ZingOfSeven · 09/11/2014 19:50

what do you eat it with

ummm with Sunday roast MrsJayGrin
with Christmas lunch/dinner

or just with a spoon out of the saucepan

Monathevampire1 · 09/11/2014 19:54

Roast Chicken, crunchy potatoes and ratatouille!!!! oh I'm drooling.

Summerisle1 · 09/11/2014 19:59

If I presented DH with a roast dinner that included two sorts of potatoes and five vegetables plus the rest of the trimmings he'd look at me with horror and ask how the feck he was supposed to eat that sort of food mountain! But then nobody makes dinner rules in our house.

I shamelessly admit that standard roasts here include frozen roast potatoes, frozen Yorkshires and quite often, Waitrose cauliflower cheese plus frozen peas. I don't skimp on the meat and I do make delicious gravy and bread sauce but I'm really not prepared to give up most of Sunday producing a gigantic meal for two people who don't have huge appetites.

Your DH's diktats about dinners, OP, seem the tip of an iceberg though. Clearly there's more going on here.