This is weird and inappropriate isn't it? Or AIBU

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Would you find it weird if a v close family member had an obsession with removing your child's nappy?

Then when you told them NOT to do it, the next time they were alone with your child they did the same thing and took photographs?

It's not sinister, the photographs were shown to me along with others but I'm so uncomfortable with it.

When challenged the person said I put pictures of dc on Facebook so apparently this is worse

I'm horrified that my ds's privacy has been invaded. How very dare this person?

Person is older and apparently likes to 'air' baby's bottom. Ds has no nappy rash etc, never has, he's totally clear, I don't see the need. If there was a need, sure it's up to dh or I to do?

I'm really uncomfortable with this situation, expressed my anger and insisted photos are deleted, have been assured nobody else has seen them.

As I say, I don't believe there was any sinister intent, just stupidity but it's makes my skin crawl that this was done to my almost 2 year old (21 months)

Give me some perspective and AIBU?

There is a case for saying that wanting a child's bottom to be constantly encase in a plastic backed nappy ............is itself somewhat repressed, and not good for the baby

This would look very different if you added "whilst outside of their own home or in the care of none parents, wouldn't it

Exactly mallard, I totally agree with you. I am not comfortable with it either, but each to their own and all that. As op is the parent, the buck stops with her. If mil is not able to respect this wish which to op obviously is important, then she should not be looking after dgs.

Any relative of any of my children (other than their dad) who did this would not get within 20 paces of my child ever again.

I have no problem at all with nudity nor airing bottoms but it happens in my home and under circumstances that I can asses and supervise.

If someone else chooses to do things differently with their own child then its nothing to do with me but I'm quite happy with my children knowing that we remain dressed around extended family members