to be totally pissed off with DB

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I have been seeing my DB for almost 7 months now and in October it was his birthday. I decided that I would take him away for the weekend. I made the effort to look for somewhere really nice and paid quite a bit of money for the room for the 2 nights. I am on a pitiful NHS wage and quite high rent and also have a DS who is alomst 5 so money is tight, dipped into savings for this as I really wanted to do something nice for him. This weekend also fell on our 6 month anniversary.

So on the 2nd night I had booked a lovely restaurant took him out for a birthday meal and he produces me a gift of ear rings telling me its to mark our 6 months, lovely I thought, a guy has actually made the effort to go out and do something like this.

I then find out that there has actually been no effort at all he has bought them off groupon for next to nothing. I am not pissed off at how much they were I am pissed off for the little effort.

When we have date nights we do use groupon and thats fine but AIBU to think that when its for something a little special then some fucking effort should be made!!!

What did you buy him for your sixth month anniversary?

Wow. Who even celebrates a six month anniversary??

He bought you a gift, he made the effort, what more do you want?

Did you ruin his birthday with this nonsense?
He sounds lovely, you sound a bit mad.
If you are a single parent for goodness sake don't be dipping into your savings for a relatively new relationship. You ought to have a more responsible set of priorities with a child to think of.
Six months isn't an anniversary , it's "early days".

I had a date with someone on Tuesday. It's our six day anniversary on Monday. What should I expect, gift wise?

Is it misplaced anger because for one fleeting moment when you saw the box you thought it was a ring OP ? Perfect setting it would have been from the sounds of it.

There's nothing wrong with that and I'm shooting an arrow into the dark so may not be true.

Please don't tell him you're disappointed and try and enjoy your holiday.

So you took him away for his Birthday and are pissed off that he bought you a gift?

I have been out of the dating game a long time but since when has it been compulsory to buy presents to celebrate 6 months or to buy gifts when your partner takes you away?

OK so it cost you a lot of money but surely you got to enjoy the experience as well?

Also have to agree that you probably shouldn't be using savings for such occasions.

Two weeks after we got together, my DH bought me a couple of very cheap trinkets - very cheap fizzy wine, a fabric rose - to mark our second hebdomadariversary. I was thrilled.
He has bought me literally nothing since, except at Christmas or birthday.
We've been together 26 years, and I luffs him.

Special doesn't mean expensive, OP

Sorry, I don't understand your outrage. What does it matter where he got them or how much they cost? What a strange reaction on receiving a thoughtful gift. Sorry, I don't get it.

I will say that my best friend is very picky indeed about where people buy things from and would find this disturbing! It's a trait I find difficult to accept in an otherwise generous, caring, lovely person!

Vitalstatistix makes a good point, those presents bought on a whim are actually really special. It means that the person saw something, thought of you and thought you'd like it so decided to get it for you. No big fuss, no grand gestures, just a little 'because' gift.

Poor bloke!

I'm an extremely thoughtful gift giver (could be from poundland or John Lewis, totally depends...) but I would be clueless about certain dates like our 6 month anniversary. DW and I have enough trouble remembering our wedding anniversary and we are blissfully happy and have been for many years.

Six months isn't an anniversary and who gets pissed off because their partner has bought them a present? Who cares if it's from groupon - one of my favourite presents was a jar of my favourite peanut butter, ffs.

Get a grip before you lose him.

I think the op is being a twerp, I'm not sure it warrants calling her a bitch though.

Each to their own Peppermint

YABVVVU and ungrateful.

Six months is not an anniversary and he didn't have to buy you anything at all yet he chose to and now you're whining because it doesn't match up to some ridiculous expectation you have.

U have to wonder why the op thinks she's special enough to warrant being paid for. And what the usual cost is.

I have to wonder. Not a lazy way of saying you, just missed the I on the phone keyboard.

One of the best birthday presents the DH gave me came via Groupon (from only the day or so before).

It was for a craft experience he knew I would love to try.

It has never occurred to me to be upset that the only effort was to open and email and think "I'm having that for Maurice"... as I was totally chuffed and had a brilliant day

You did go to a real effort for his birthday - which was really lovely of you and I'm sure he will appreciate. However, if he's aware that you're after constant gratitue for it and he keeps feeling the need to say thank you, he may resent it. It should be done with a good heart, which I'm sure it was, and that's the end of it - aside from looking back with fond memories of the weekend in the future.

As for your gift - it was a nice treat on his part - that's all. He probably thought he was being a savvy shopper going on Groupon and getting you a good deal for the money, rather than going straight into XYZ jewellers and buying something similar for double the cost.

I've been with DH for 13 years, married for 3, and I don't think he's ever bought me anything for our anniversary. Or me him. What a miserly bastard, eh?

Really? He produced something for your on your six month anniversary and you're nitpicking it's value?!

SIL's ex got her an ipod shuffle one Valentine's, fully loaded with her favourite songs. She was really into the gym at the time and he really thought she would appreciate it for when she was working out. The xp was a complete twit but he'd actually put some thought into it. She dumped him (temporarily) because he didn't buy her a "big card and flowers".

River on our 12th anniversary of being together (yes, yes, I know) my dh got me a box of out of date chocolates from Wilkos.

Who says romance is dead.

Aww id be made up! I think you are BU. He looked, he found, he ordered, he gave.??