To do something a bit evil to my stupid stupid DH...

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Having just found flirting emails with a woman in which morning sex etc is discussed. He's doing it from his phone NOW. The laptop I'm using was going to be his but is now mine. It has his outlook loaded though and the messages pop up in a corner.

So this popped up a minute ago:

From DH

Fun sounds good......
Looking forward to giving you a hug...
And you kissing me back.....

The conversation previously started with a selfy of a woman wearing a quite nice going out dress and talk of the time in the morning the message was sent.

DH replied

You will have to think of some methods of waking me up early too then ....;) x

The woman replied

Oh I have my ways ?? don't you just love morning sex !! Xx

DH replied

You will just have to remind me.....
I can't remember the last time I had morning sex:(

The woman replied

This could possibly turn out to be a lot of fun xx

before DH sent the message that popped up

I don't think he's cheated on me. I think he's a prat. I'm sitting here eating a biscuit that DD2 (4) brought for me and drinking tea planning my next move.

Obviously I'm going to shout at him AT LENGTH at some point.

So do I do any of the following - I am a bitchy cow brazen enough to do this.

a) reply to the message chain with. Errr. Hi I'm NCA and my DH is a prat who forgets I have his laptop with his email loaded.

b) Send a friend request to her on FB. After all we have the same taste in men and friendships are based on less.

c) Reply to the text he's just sent me thanking him for taking time out of his day to converse with me rather than just

d) anything else you can recommend bearing in mind all I can find is this convo.

BTW I know that our current lack of intimacy is an issue with him. I am not all that interested in having sex and this has been the case for a few years. We have young DDS and no time to ourselves plus he works away on a regular basis (really works away rather than anything else. He would be able to sneak the odd night away if he wanted but I have his rota and his departure and arrivals home are in keeping with his hours).

So WIBU to reply to them both?

LostPelvic and all the others - stop. I'm blushing

I'm just doing what I have to.

Nothing rams it home than the first night back from working away he doesn't get to see his children. Brilliant.

And don't see him just for bread and loo roll. Someone will bring you some or get on line and have an order delivered.

just sent a text 'btw I really do need the toilet roll and bread. Be a love'

OK that's enough of evil. Back to RL.

You're amazing. Your DDs and very lucky to have you as a role model. Good luck with seeing him when he comes round. He must be having the longest car journey of his life right now.

"I'm just doing what I have to."

Yes, and lot of people wouldn't be able to do that.

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Itsfab. He'll need some bits (and can have 10 mins) as he won't have anything except the clothes he's in.

MIL is a critical cow and I won't have her say I was anything but considerate.

You are just fab. Take care of yourself and get ready for the script when he arrives home.

Wow NCA. Sorry to hear you're going through this. Good luck with confronting him when he turns up (hopefully with toilet roll and bread).

NCA you are being amazing. Front line public sector workers everywhere are waving pom-poms for your disconcertingly utterly evil coolness in the face of such cockbadgery. I guess we always know that 'cool in a crisis' will come in useful. Big hugs. (Can you have a drink now?) x

I'm so sorry OP.. what a prick.

The changing of password and taking the laptop would suggest he has a lot more to hide and doesn't intend to be honest about it.

So sorry to hear you're going through this. Been there, done that, also catching them before they'd actually DTD. It was strung out and miserable for me, hope your story ends more happily or at least more quickly.

Itsfab the tone about children in your message sounds a bit off? She's not using kids to punish him (nor should she, or anyone).

NCA you're my hero. You ARE a sparkly nail!

Another person applauding you.

What he has done is utterly shit. I sincerely hope you get some rl support.

Don't let him manipulate you. Clearly he has intentions to be a twat. Irrespective of you intercepting him. Hope he brings the toilet roll.

Can't believe how calm you are OP. It might be worth phoning MiL though to give her a heads up

Yes, tell the MIL before he gets his sob story in.

Wow, go you!
Hope it all works out for you.

Sweetpea, I wouldn't phone MIL. That would be an aggressive move, and this is a situation where maintaining the moral high ground has value, for the sake of the kids if nothing else.

Wow Wowwowwow god your good!

I would, however, tell him to be honest with his mum or, if you get a whiff of him having bad-mouthed you, you will forward her the whole conversation.

Hope it goes ok when h gets home tonight. Can't believe how strong you are being, well done

Omg hun sorry your not so dh is such a twunt! Stay strong for those lovely children xxxx