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Original poster

To do something a bit evil to my stupid stupid DH...

876 replies

NameChangeAnon · 29/10/2014 16:37

Having just found flirting emails with a woman in which morning sex etc is discussed. He's doing it from his phone NOW. The laptop I'm using was going to be his but is now mine. It has his outlook loaded though and the messages pop up in a corner.

So this popped up a minute ago:

From DH

Fun sounds good......
Looking forward to giving you a hug...
And you kissing me back.....

The conversation previously started with a selfy of a woman wearing a quite nice going out dress and talk of the time in the morning the message was sent.

DH replied

You will have to think of some methods of waking me up early too then ....;) x

The woman replied

Oh I have my ways ?? don't you just love morning sex !! Xx

DH replied

You will just have to remind me.....
I can't remember the last time I had morning sex:(

The woman replied

This could possibly turn out to be a lot of fun xx

before DH sent the message that popped up

I don't think he's cheated on me. I think he's a prat. I'm sitting here eating a biscuit that DD2 (4) brought for me and drinking tea planning my next move.

Obviously I'm going to shout at him AT LENGTH at some point.

So do I do any of the following - I am a bitchy cow brazen enough to do this.

a) reply to the message chain with. Errr. Hi I'm NCA and my DH is a prat who forgets I have his laptop with his email loaded.

b) Send a friend request to her on FB. After all we have the same taste in men and friendships are based on less.

c) Reply to the text he's just sent me thanking him for taking time out of his day to converse with me rather than just

d) anything else you can recommend bearing in mind all I can find is this convo.

BTW I know that our current lack of intimacy is an issue with him. I am not all that interested in having sex and this has been the case for a few years. We have young DDS and no time to ourselves plus he works away on a regular basis (really works away rather than anything else. He would be able to sneak the odd night away if he wanted but I have his rota and his departure and arrivals home are in keeping with his hours).

So WIBU to reply to them both?

OP posts:
DollyDreamboat · 29/10/2014 19:16

Well done, dude. That was brave. I did something similar once, and he too hung up. What was he going to say, really? Nice work Thanks

notagainffffffffs · 29/10/2014 19:16

Have you told dds theor dad is having to make an unexpected stopover instead. Feel so terrible for them :( you are a brave warrior lady nca. They're lucky to have you

guitarosauras · 29/10/2014 19:16

Well done you op.

don't care if cyber hugs aren't allowed on mn, i don't like them much but you blardy need one.

HappyYoni · 29/10/2014 19:16

X post sorry!

Stupidhead · 29/10/2014 19:16

You've done all this AND painted DDs nails? You are Wonder Woman.

magoria · 29/10/2014 19:17

I am so sorry you are going through this Sad

May I suggest you consider an STI test. Just to make sure.

I hope it all works out for you.

Nativity3 · 29/10/2014 19:18

Well done op :)

PumpkinsMummy · 29/10/2014 19:18

OP you are a legend.

momnipotent · 29/10/2014 19:19

Very well done OP. Sending you a hug that you can save for later when the adrenalin wears off.

Original poster
NameChangeAnon · 29/10/2014 19:19

I might need to paint MY nails. I find sparkly nails strangely empowering. I first found this out when I painted my toenails sparkly at work. You can't paint fingernails in operating theatres. If I was having a crap day I would look at the sparkles and figure that if I had sparkly nails life was good.

BRB

OP posts:
badfurday · 29/10/2014 19:20

Take a bow OP, take a bow.
Kudos for balls of steel!!

Luciferbox · 29/10/2014 19:21

Well done NCA!

Itsfab · 29/10/2014 19:22

Wow.

You are awesome.

Has he called or texted you since?

It is likely he will turn up at home so be careful.

Say you are talking bollocks, minimise to only admit what you know for sure, get angry, cry, etc etc it is all in the script.

Be careful.

Original poster
NameChangeAnon · 29/10/2014 19:22

Thank you all for the hand holding so far. I've never needed it though hope I've done my share over the years. I'll make sure to pay it forwards after I get this out of the way.

MN at it's finest. Thanks

OP posts:
Stupidhead · 29/10/2014 19:23

Sparkles are great and very unforgiving for any hand wobbles, everyone should have sparkly toes x

momwhereismy · 29/10/2014 19:23

Just wow. I applaud you

LilyTheSavage · 29/10/2014 19:24

You have balls of steel. I am full of admiration for the way you are dealing with the bastard your "d"h.

Be gentle with yourself though. Wine

Original poster
NameChangeAnon · 29/10/2014 19:24

I've decided he has to go for at least the night. People can be unpredictable when upset. Mind youhe also should consider that.

OP posts:
Desiren · 29/10/2014 19:25

To stay so calm is inspiring!

TheLostPelvicFloorOfPoosh · 29/10/2014 19:26

NCA - you are my new girl crush and I salute you.

Thanks
AcrossthePond55 · 29/10/2014 19:26

More power to you! You are truly mighty mighty!

WeirdCatLady · 29/10/2014 19:26

Definitely paint your toes then NCA

You are magnificent and he is a damned fool!

Humansatnav · 29/10/2014 19:27

Well done, you are fab !

WhereTheWildlingsAre · 29/10/2014 19:28

Well done anon, and big hugs.

DixieNormas · 29/10/2014 19:28

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