I go to sleep watching game of thrones, wake up to dp fighting with dp and ex wanting to pick our kids up

[FoamingAtOnesMouth]

Literally that. Today is dp's birthday. I bought him cake, cards, wine ... Everything was fine.

I wake up all of a sudden to screaming, shouting and fighting. The only story I can get is ds split lemonade on the carpet and dp went crazy. I can't get a serious account of events off anyone. I wake up to dp being held back by ds1 trying to get at ds2 (13). I run upstairs, wrestle him back, he tells me we're finished and then ex calls saying he wants to pick up 'his' kids as ds2 has called him and "it's not on". I have no fucking clue what has happened. Nobody will tell me other than the kids saying dp kicked off over lemonade on the carpet. I've just had enough, feel like doing myself in.no idea what's happened. I go to sleep with everything fine, wake up everyone hating me

Okay.

Who can you get the most sense out of?

I would ask your dp to leave, immediately and speak to your boys.

I wouldn't necessarily stop them going to their dads tonight but if they do go, make sure you speak to your ex and he understands that you had no idea what went on until it was all in full swing.

Why are they hating you? You haven't done anything!

Sounds as though you think your DP is capable of kicking off at your DS2 like that, maybe saying this isn't a one off thing?

It's probably safe to say it's not about lemonade on the carpet, what are your DP/DS2 usually like when they're together?

Whatever has happened, your DP is not coming out of this well - having to be physically held back from trying to 'get at' at a 13 year old child isn't on. At all. Regardless of what DS 2 has or hasn't done, that must be pretty scary for him.

Is your DP still there? I agree that he should leave immediately and you should speak to your sons when the atmosphere has calmed a bit.

Sorry your having such a shit night.

Has alcohol been involved in any of this?

Has DP been drinking the wine? My ex used to drink a lot and get loud and sweary. When DS was about 13/14 he started to challenge DPs behaviour and the rows started. I would try and get DP to stay elsewhere so you can speak to your sons. Good luck x

Get "dp" out of the house. Try and get a calmer version of events from dc before ex picks them up. I can see why ex or dc do not want to be in the house after that.

Nobody will tell me other than the kids saying dp kicked off over lemonade on the carpet. That sounds like the kids DID tell you what happened. Presumably DP won't because he acted unacceptably and doesn't want to say.

Let your ex pick up the children and make sure you are safe yourself, either by your partner leaving or leaving yourself.
Thank goodness your elder son was there.

He won't leave. Ds2 says that dp just went mental over lemonade on the carpet and started getting in his face etc. ds1 says they both burst into his room fighting and he had to seperate them!! Ex then calls me saying it's not on and he wants to pick his kids up. Meanwhile do tells me we're finished as I stuck up for ds2 over him. An hour ago we were snuggled in front of the tv watching movies together. Wtf is going on.

It doesn't matter who did what. This man tried to attack your son. Get them away from him, and get yourself away. Now.

He says your finished but also that he's not going anywhere? Is it a police call situation? If some lairy bloke was going for my children in their own home then i would be having him removed.

Fuck it.

Let your DP go.

If he gets that stressed out over lemonade he won't cope well when something big happens.

I don't blame your ex for wanting to pick up his sons and remove them from such an atmosphere. Wouldn't you do the same, if you received a call from one of your kids, saying that their step-mother was being physical with them? You'd get them out of there straight off.

I don't think you're going to get any true account of what happened whilst feelings are running so high. Agree to talk again about it in the morning.

It sounds to me like your 'd'p is a dick with a temper who tried to attack your son. What do you mean he won't leave? That says a lot. Tell him to get the fuck out of your house or you will call the police. Anyone who kicked off at my child like that would be out on his arse. Your poor DS!

You phone the police you DP attacked your child .
He should not be near you kids ever again .

And what's with the inverted commas around the ex and 'his' kids? Are they not his?

So your DP was 'fighting' with your 13 year old DS? Is that right? And your older DS then had to break them up?
OP, if that's the case, get your priorities right. Stick up for your son and get rid of your partner. He sounds like a bully.
I wouldn't be 'snuggling up' with someone who'd just tried to hurt my son. Where's your loyalty to your kids?

If I was your ex and your partner does leave now, I take the kids and would not take back to you ever.

Actually I agree with calling the police.

If your older child hadn't stepped in then anything could've happened. Doesn't bear thinking about.

You know what happened a grown man attacked your son the why part is irrelevant. get rid of him

Sorry to sound harsh, but this is all kicking off, your child has been attacked and you are on mumsnet worrying that you cant get to the bottom of what's gone on...perhaps get off the internet and make sure your kids are safe

If he refuses to leave call the Police. Two reasons; safeguarding your children and telling them they are safe in their own home; reassuring their DF that you have their best interests at heart.

Poor children. They must be very shaken up.

let ex come and get the kids if they want. they may like to go somewhere safe to calm down.

what is your relationship like with ex? do you think you can ask him to call the police if dp will not go?

Your partner physically attacked your child.

Get him to fuck.