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I go to sleep watching game of thrones, wake up to dp fighting with dp and ex wanting to pick our kids up

102 replies

FoamingAtOnesMouth · 24/10/2014 23:38

Literally that. Today is dp's birthday. I bought him cake, cards, wine ... Everything was fine.

I wake up all of a sudden to screaming, shouting and fighting. The only story I can get is ds split lemonade on the carpet and dp went crazy. I can't get a serious account of events off anyone. I wake up to dp being held back by ds1 trying to get at ds2 (13). I run upstairs, wrestle him back, he tells me we're finished and then ex calls saying he wants to pick up 'his' kids as ds2 has called him and "it's not on". I have no fucking clue what has happened. Nobody will tell me other than the kids saying dp kicked off over lemonade on the carpet. I've just had enough, feel like doing myself in.no idea what's happened. I go to sleep with everything fine, wake up everyone hating me

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Corabell · 25/10/2014 14:59

"Wake up everyone hating me".

Wow. Poor you. Boo hoo. Maybe your sons need you to protect them and step up the the plate.

I really, really hope your boys can stay with their father.

Humansatnav · 25/10/2014 15:10

Agreed Gruntfuttock, her poor dc.

zippey · 25/10/2014 15:11

Does it matter if OP has posted before under a different name? People in any dive relationships sometimes put up with a lot before trying to get out, even then it's not always easy. The OP has posted and we dhould try and support her.

What's going on now OP? It doesn't seem like anyone is too happy in the house, so it might well be time to choose between either your partner or your children. I think your partner is getting to that stage too.

Also, not sure if GOT is family viewing either!

Jolleigh · 25/10/2014 15:13

If I'd woken up to find my DP attacking my DC, regardless of the spark that started the fire, I'd need to ring for an ambulance, not the police. What the fuck are you doing being with a man who thinks it's ok to attack kids?

QuintessentiallyGhoulish · 25/10/2014 15:14

Hopefully your ex has picked his children up and brought them to safety.

Hopefully your ex ensure they report your current dp to the police for assault.

SuperWifeANDMum · 25/10/2014 15:18

Does it matter if OP has posted before under a different name? People in any dive relationships sometimes put up with a lot before trying to get out, even then it's not always easy. The OP has posted and we dhould try and support her.

Zippy This poster has form for periodically changing her name and posting about her abusive 'DP' who also tried to physically abuse her child!!!! So why should people support this poor excuse for a mother?

Another example of cock before children Hmm

DownByTheRiverside · 25/10/2014 15:21

zippey, perhaps she could post in relationships where there are people who would understand her dillema and her inability to prioritise.
Because I can't support her in her response to the situation when she woke up.

'so it might well be time to choose between either your partner or your children.'

Really? I wouldn't have to think once about that, let alone twice.

ADishBestEatenCold · 25/10/2014 15:26

"I wake up to dp being held back by ds1 trying to get at ds2 (13)"

Do you live in your partner's house? If so, you need to make other arrangements as soon as possible and get your children out of there today.

Does your partner live in your house? If so, why is he still there? If he won't go, then call the police and have him removed.

StillStayingClassySanDiego · 25/10/2014 15:37

zippey she has posted a number of threads relating to that twat being a swine to her boys, particularly the younger one who has Aspergers/ Autism iirc.

She is neglecting her children and ignores posters advice yet continues to post stating the same bloody stuff!, it must be intolerable for her boys but she clearly won't kick his arse out and put her children first.

Humansatnav · 25/10/2014 17:34

Pathetic. Woman up and put your kids first.

thejellyfox · 27/10/2014 10:12

I think I recognise this poster as well. Is this the one who's DP is always saying it is over because of stupid things but never actually leaves. He is a horrible twat to the poor kids and resents the kids having holidays because his DC don't get nice things?
So you are still with him then OP...stop moaning and do something about it.

DialsMavis · 27/10/2014 10:18

My DS can be challenging at times, especially to DP (not his father), if DP ever threatened DS with violence he would be out of the door quickly and permanently.
If that didn't happen I would fully hope and expect that ex came and removed DS to safety immediately.
It doesn't matter what started it, there is NO excuse, your poor boys. Your DS1 sounds very brave, I would be proud of him for protecting his brother.

trulybadlydeeply · 27/10/2014 10:27

I hope your ex picked his children up and is continuing to look after them. What happens to you is obviously your choice, but if you want to stay with this "man" I hope your ex is willing to have full custody of his children.

EEVEElution · 27/10/2014 10:29

It is a parent's job to protect their children. At least their father is doing that thank goodness.

GatoradeMeBitch · 27/10/2014 14:52

Please don't stop your ex picking the boys up, they need to be somewhere safe. At the moment, that is not what you can offer. They are not safe with your 'D'P. If eh told you the relationship is over, that should have been the time you told him to pack his bags - but it sounds like you're dithering again. If you can't hep yourself, at least help your children.

RockinHippy · 27/10/2014 15:09

If it were me, I would be calling the police & having your DPs ass dragged out of your home - he won't leave ffsHmm

You need to grow a backbone & put your DCs above this poor excuse for a man - end of!!

motherofmonster · 27/10/2014 15:18

Has op ever came back?

DownByTheRiverside · 27/10/2014 15:20

I don't understand why it isn't simple.
Unless it's the comfort his money brings?
Or that you feel you need a man in your life, however nasty he is?
Or you don't love your children enough to protect them? Are they getting in the way of your new relationship?
You've had the whole weekend now, your sons are probably on half term now.
What are you going to do?

Spindarella · 27/10/2014 15:29

I felt sick reading this thread, and moreso when I realised it apparently wasn't a one off.

Poor poor boys. I hope their dad has been able to be a source of security for them.

FWIW OP, if I was your ex I would fight tooth and nail to prevent those boys going back to your house.

StillStayingClassySanDiego · 27/10/2014 15:31

mother she doesn't come back but look out for a similar twat abusing her kids post in a few months.

Thumbscrewswitch · 27/10/2014 15:35

I hope your ex calls the police on your partner, tbh. He's assaulted your younger son, who appears to have ASD if you are indeed a multiple nc'ing poster, and you're worried everyone hates YOU?? FFS. Grow the fuck up, get rid of your wanker partner and look after your sons as a mother should.

AlbaGuBrath · 27/10/2014 23:50

I've actually just seen the poster updating an old thread under a previous name. Needless to say she is still there, he is still there Sad I feel for the kids involved.

motherofmonster · 28/10/2014 00:08

Omfg..your kidding right?!?

Jolleigh · 28/10/2014 01:27

Anything about whether the poor kids are still there?

AlbaGuBrath · 28/10/2014 06:31

It's hard to tell. It reads as though they are though