To let my 2 yr old son wear a tutu in public

[Onbehalfofmyhusband]

Apologies as I know this has been done to death but I need to settle an argument with my husband.

DS is 2.5 and likes to wear tutus and dresses (often borrowed from his older sister). AIBU to let him wear these in public? It's not every day, just maybe a couple of times a week. DH thinks I am.

Thats what annoys me iwish, there seems to be no objection to girls wearing boys clothes.

iwish, that's just what you hear though, and completely projecting if that's what you want to hear even though that's not what's being said, you have the issue not anyone else.
I chose the vast majority of what my dc wore, based on practicality at the time (seasons, comfort). Dds are older now, they choose their own clothes in the shops and at weekends dress themselves. We still choose ds clothes As he is 2 and would probably otherwise choose to live in a vest and wellies. It's not practical to let him out of the house wearing just that at the moment, so I choose.
If you choose to let your 3 year old choose his own outfits and they just so happen to be dresses, so be it. I don't buy my 2 year old dresses so it isn't an issue.
But we currently live in a world where it isn't the norm for boys to wear dresses, so you will encounter differences of opinions (if people make comments. I rarely notice what other children wear, much less pass comment!).

Anyway, not trying to get into a debate about what boys/girls should/shouldn't wear, but if you're so confident in your choices, have the conviction to follow them through :)

One of my most treasured vids is of ds aged 3 in one of dd's old Disney princess dresses, singing a song showing off like mad and then he laughs uproariously, hoicks his skirts up, and runs off. Love love love it

I don't give a jot what other people wear in public, two year olds don't give a jot what you take them out in. Why do I see these kids everywhere in fairy dresses and wellies? It is not a practical outfit, no one thinks you are a cool parent and your child looks ridiculous.

I have been the parent of three 2.5 year olds and they leave the house in whatever clothing/footwear/outwear is most suitable for that days activity/weather.

Who goes round beating up 2 year olds Username? Fearmonger much?

Maybe beaten up was harsher language than what would happen. But I stand by it. 3 year olds can be mean. I've seen children snatch things/push kids over/mock them and say 'this not for you it's just for boys/girls or make other disparaging comments they've clearly heard at home/or outside.

I wouldn't want my child to be put in that position but I know for others making a point is more important or that they live in the MN world where boys wear dresses and paint their nails. I've never seen this in RL though.

Good gawd, ANOTHER "boys wearing dresses" thread. Groundhog Day strikes again....

Why do I get the impression with some of these 'boys in dresses' threads that there's often a level of stealth boasting going on, as in 'look at my wonderful liberal parenting'.

I've got a number of photos of my children dressed up in strange things, one that springs to mind is of DD2 aged about 2 wearing several long strings of beads, several bracelets, her father's shoes on her feet and a toy bucket on her head. All fine, I have no problem with that but I wouldn't have let her leave the house dressed like that.

"Why do I get the impression with some of these 'boys in dresses' threads that there's often a level of stealth boasting going on, as in 'look at my wonderful liberal parenting'. "

I know what you mean.

Why let a boy OR girl wear tutus in public on ordinary occasions? It's a silly thing to wear unless you are at a ballet recital or a fancy dress party.

I have numerous photos of my son wearing a tutu, he loved it. Used to wear it to the supermarket.

Stealth boasting my arse. If they were dressing up and I needed something from the supermarket, I'd rather pick my battles and let him wear a bloody tutu. Besides, so what? It wasn't a stripper outfit with nipple tassels.

I have yet to see in rl any boy using a dress. It's definitely a mn thing.

If you did you probably wouldn't look twice and just assume it was a girl. So you probably don't know if you have or you haven't.

I refuse to believe that there's a man or boy on the planet, if he has older sisters, who has not been dressed as a girl at some point in his life.
I have a lovely picture of my younger brother at about 9, wearing a purple satin party dress.

Yanbu. Sounds cute.

DS went through a phase of wanting to wear skirts when he was two, and I was clearing out DD's stuff. I just let him (over his trousers) and then the novelty wore off.

"Why let a boy OR girl wear tutus in public on ordinary occasions? It's a silly thing to wear unless you are at a ballet recital or a fancy dress party."

What do you suggest then NewStatesman, business casual dress code for the nursery?

I know a 3 year old boy who wears his blue Frozen dress everywhere. I also know a young man who demanded a barbie camper van for Christmas and played with it everyday for years. He's now 28, a chartered accountant, married with DC of his own.

Aww he would look very cute. Big fuss over nothing IMO.

I was annoyed at the park the other day when two brothers maybe 4 and 6 years old turned up in ridiculously detailed full knights gear (visors down, body armour plating on) and started whacking and stabbing at each other with their swords etc and hitting with the shields. Their dad was massively chuffed with all this.

My littler DC was freaked out by them and the violent play and kept asking what they were doing and what were they holding. I didn't like having to explain that some people like dressing up to pretend to kill each other with weapons.

I usually couldn't care less about gender appropriate gear or fancy dress on whoever, and I do get it about picking your battles when your kid is desperate to wear something and you just need to leave the house quickly... But in that instance I did wish they had kept their (violent, heavily gendered) fancy dress for home.

i wouldnt look twice at what a child is wearing so long as it as approriate for the weather!

I do have a problem with 2 year olds chosing their clothes and being allowed to when it is inappropriate.

One woman in denmark (iirc) who was stopped by the police for having a naked 2 year old in the childrens bike seat. apparently the reason she gave was the child refused to get dressed that morning, so she too her naked.

i do let the children wear dressing up costumes outdoors but sometimes they need coats on

We could all be a bit more like op's ds. Yeah i'm wearing a tutu in public. WHAT OF IT.

I have to say in my years and years of being a parent I havnt really seen many boys out and about in tutus or girls either unless at ballet classes.

It looks as though it's more about being a cool parent than anything else. Tutus aren't a practical outfit got a child to play in.

It strikes me as ridiculous that anyone would let either a boy or a girl wear a frozen dress everywhere.

As others have said I let my kids dress up but to go out they wore what I decided was the most suitable outfit for the weather because i was the parent and they are a child.

Awkward...