To think she should dress down?

[Starry06]

Hi everyone - long time lurker, first time poster!

I recently (3 weeks ago) started a part time business degree at a local university. There is a group of about 15 of us of mixed ages from mid twenties to 50ish and we meet on the evenings.

There is this one girl who must be in her late twenties that always turns up in a full business get-up. And I'm not talking your bog standard skirt/trouser suit and top. She is EXTREMELY smart in obviously very expensive, very conservative 'executive' dress. From what I can gather she is a semi senior position for a Bank or finance company or bank. The rest of us turn up in jeans and jumpers and she looks completely out of place and it makes me feel uncomfortable and that she thinks she is better that the rest of us.

AIBU to have a word with her and tell her to make an effort to dress down a bit? I just think she won't be able to make friends unless she makes a bit more of an effort to fit in.

Hahaha Jesus OP. If this is real can I suggest you get your head out your arse and focus on your own life?

YABU. People can wear whatever they want. And if she's coming straight from work that explains why she is wearing what she does, would you expect her to take a change of clothes and get changed in the toilets/car/whatever just to appease other people?

Maybe she wishes she could wear jeans and a t shirt but just doesn't have the opportunity to get changed. Why does it even matter what she wears?!

YABU why is it any of your business what she wears. She probably has no time to change after work or is just saving time by not bothering to change. There is no dress code for u I so she can wear what she likes. Get over it.

Is she the only one of your business student colleagues who has a business job?

my first ever biscuit !

long time lurker, first time poster!

First and last time I imagine

If this is real, I think this is actually one of the weirdest things I've read on mumsnet. Why does what she wears matter? It doesn't. You're not going to be friends with her? Lucky escape for her, I think.

Random aside, I hate reverse threads.

You realise just because you are back in a classroom learning something,doesn't mean you need to act like your back in school ??

Grow up. I doubt she wants to make friends with you! YABVVVU and a loon.

Ah, cheers Grunt I must have missed that

Maybe she wishes she could wear jeans and a t shirt

Or maybe she's like me and thinks jeans are the most boring outfit ever and flatter almost no one. This is the most ridiculous AIBU I've seen in a long time.

My first one too..

What the f**k?

Mamman @ 16.26...um...I don't really know what you're getting at tbh. Are you having a pop at me or agreeing?

Why don't you just, y'know, try talking to her in a friendly way, OP?
It may turn out that you like her, despite her smart clothes.

Not often there's such a unanimous response in AIBU...

This is why I love AIBU.

Am I the only person who thinks that this might not be JUST about the way the other woman is dressing but there may be some background behind it? Most grown ups would need a bit more than a posh suit to be made to feel uncomfortable around somebody.

Why should she dress down. i wouldn't I hate the thought of anyone looking nicer than me. I wouldn't care about upstaging the bride. No way I'm looking a scanc for anyone.
If I sound shallow then I'll wear the cap.

Wouldn't even care

Not buying it. No-one is that much of a wanker?

And its WOMAN.

i wouldn't I hate the thought of anyone looking nicer than me

[Hmm]

This is why universities should have uniforms, to stop people feeling left out, making everyone the same - insert other reason for school uniforms and repeat.

hang on, no people at uni are supposed to be adults and not judge others on their clothes.

"KatoPotato

Shout 'Briefcase Bastard!' at her next time?"

Kato :o

Maybe she doesn't want friends who don't make an effort. Maybe she isn't there to make friends but to make the most of her degree.
Yabu.