To think she should dress down?

[Starry06]

Hi everyone - long time lurker, first time poster!

I recently (3 weeks ago) started a part time business degree at a local university. There is a group of about 15 of us of mixed ages from mid twenties to 50ish and we meet on the evenings.

There is this one girl who must be in her late twenties that always turns up in a full business get-up. And I'm not talking your bog standard skirt/trouser suit and top. She is EXTREMELY smart in obviously very expensive, very conservative 'executive' dress. From what I can gather she is a semi senior position for a Bank or finance company or bank. The rest of us turn up in jeans and jumpers and she looks completely out of place and it makes me feel uncomfortable and that she thinks she is better that the rest of us.

AIBU to have a word with her and tell her to make an effort to dress down a bit? I just think she won't be able to make friends unless she makes a bit more of an effort to fit in.

Reverse or pisstake?

Yep reverse or a spoof.

OP hasn't been back.

You can't type and rub your hands together.

I know which one I'd hire!

She can wear what she likes.

I am of course assuming that she can see and can therefore see what the others are wearing. If that is the case, then she is making a choice, knowing that she is dressing in a different way, and she has the right to do so.

People don't have to behave like sheep, you know. Presuming there is no dress code or uniform, she can dress how she feels comfortable.

I think that you would be better off not giving a stuff about trivial things that don't affect you.

From what I can gather she is a semi senior position for a Bank or finance company or bank

I call reverse from this sentence alone.

You think she will make more friend's if she dresses differently ? How old are you ? I hope she soon makes some friend's who are far nicer than you.

Perhaps the OP just realises how utterly stupid she sounds

She won't be able to make friends? How do you know this, do you and the others talk about her behind her back? Or do you mean you don't want to be her friend unless she dresses how you want her to...
You sound very young.

It's like being back at school, isn't it? God help you if you don't have the right trainers

I don't know about you lot, but I am too bloody old for all that shit. Good luck to suit wearing woman, that's all I can say

Omg this had made me laugh! Are you/other person (if it's a reverse) for real?!

looks like you've got a case of the Green Eyed Monster OP.....GROW UP!

So u feel inadequate so want he to dress down - she might think u should smarten up

YABU. It's a business course, why would you feel threatened by business attire? Why should she have to dress differently to fit in and make friends? It's a university not a playground! She's probably coming straight from her professional job, of course she's going to be dressed professionally.

Same as everyone else. YABU.

Slightly off topic but what's a reverse?

Answered at 16:12:33 and 16:16:42, Blueberry

A reverse would be if the thread was actually started by the woman who dresses smartly and has been told to dress down by someone to fit in better. People sometimes reverse the situation they're in to see if the other person is as wrong as they think might have a point.

And 18:12

Have we frightened the OP away?

Easily frightened if so. The replies have been positively mild compared to what could have been posted.

OP YABU and judgemental. Assuming this isn't a reverse/wind up try getting to know her instead of judging her on her clothes.

Maybe it's actually a plumbing course and the OP is teed off that her partner won't do anything that might involve getting her smart suit dirty.

Apart from that - are there uni courses with dress codes? My lectures generally had people wearing everything from blazers and hand made shoes to hotpants.

Why would she want to be friends with people who can"'to cope with what she wears?

Op may I direct you to your establishment's Equality and Diversity statement? She can wear whatever she wants, as can you.

You also seem to have failed to grasp the most basic ethos of higher education - which is that people are individuals to be respected regardless of appearance, without judgement.

You really don't get this uni lark do you? Ffs - you're supposed to be educated!