To think she should dress down?

[Starry06]

Hi everyone - long time lurker, first time poster!

I recently (3 weeks ago) started a part time business degree at a local university. There is a group of about 15 of us of mixed ages from mid twenties to 50ish and we meet on the evenings.

There is this one girl who must be in her late twenties that always turns up in a full business get-up. And I'm not talking your bog standard skirt/trouser suit and top. She is EXTREMELY smart in obviously very expensive, very conservative 'executive' dress. From what I can gather she is a semi senior position for a Bank or finance company or bank. The rest of us turn up in jeans and jumpers and she looks completely out of place and it makes me feel uncomfortable and that she thinks she is better that the rest of us.

AIBU to have a word with her and tell her to make an effort to dress down a bit? I just think she won't be able to make friends unless she makes a bit more of an effort to fit in.

This thread reminds me of legally blonde, where Elle turns up on her first day of Harvard in pink with blonde hair and not taken serious.

If she holds a senior position in a bank then she's hardly a girl is she more senior than you?
YABU, she might not be bothered about making friends with everyone else on the course, she will have her own.

could you have a word please, and report back to us how it went?

Are you sure you're on a proper course with actual qualifications at the end

I think you might need help with coming to terms with the words 'business dress'

I can't even imagine how loony you are to not want to be friends with someone who dresses smarter than you - that's all sorts of crazy

Tabu. She can wear what she likes. Don't make assumptions about people.

Personally, she sounds put together and knows how to dress well. I'd be taking notes and getting to know her.

Yabu

If this is even real

YABU - why should she dress differently because you feel uncomfortable

What an odd OP

Surely your fellow student is coming straight to college from work, where she's required to dress well?

And what makes you think she's coming to college to make friends? She isn't, I guess. She's coming to college to further her qualifications.

My mentor and previous boss told me to dress for the job you want not the job you have.
Or like my dad, who is nearly always in a smart button down shirt and either suit or smart trousers, maybe that's just what she likes to wear.

Actually my judgypants are actually a pin stripe Armani suit .

Have you always been a bully or is it a new thing?

I agree, it must be a reverse.

Probably a wind up

Or that.

gosh how outrageous of her to wear whatever the hell she wants. You must INSIST she wears casual clothes next time. How dare she?!!

I thought this would of been a lovely wedding thread about mother of the bride or groom wearing a wedding dress how dare you break my heart

YANBU, this is a perfectly, 100% normal thing to want to do.

Ginger - I tried that. I got a disciplinary for my batman cape

it makes me feel uncomfortable and that she thinks she is better that the rest of us

oh dear, someones got an inferiority complex…..

I call reverse AIBU, and I suggest you deal with it by not giving an actual f**k

Reversy-Percy. Must be.

I vote reverse too!

Bonkers! She can turn up in a Shrek costume if she likes. YABU.

I haven't been here too long, what is a reversal?

YABU. Maybe you should make more of an effort...