The mum in the NCT group with the incredibly advanced child...

[flingingmelon]

I already know I'm being really unreasonable but I just fancied a whinge.

It's Friday night and I have a headache. Mother of Incredibly Advanced Child has just sent all the other mums in the group a video of IAC doing something the average child would only just be able to manage in another six months or so. This is a regular occurrence.

I know she's proud, we're all proud. I'm proud of my son's 'dancing.' I just wish she'd tell us about something IAC is rubbish at, just for a change.

Just to say, I'm not comparing my PFB to hers, he's way cuter

Just send one back...of your baby dribbling and add a caption "Experts have discovered that the rate of dribble in a baby of this age is comparable to the potential of the child...more dribble equals more intelligence."

Reply and say 'Gosh that's useful, as Age At Which You [insert advanced activity here] is now a section on UCAS forms.

And see if that stops her.

Just smile and nod as if you're just humouring someone delusional. IME even the most sane parents can succumb to IAC syndrome

It's tricky, does she have no social awareness? Does she not have anyone else to share it with? Do you all speak about things you're finding difficult as well as celebrating the good things? I guess if you're all positive, it might be hard for her not to post at all?

Her DC won't be advanced in a areas, and don't let it diminish any of your son's achievements for you. In the long run, it really won't matter.

I'd write back "What an incredible coincidence. Rollo the dog just did the same!"
Add exclamation marks as appropriate.

My PSB (is that even a thing) was still failing to sit up and posseting every few minutes when a couple of the PFBs of other mums in my group were walking (they were all the same age to within a week or two).

Let's just say that things were reversed when it came to school.

There's zero correlation between reaching baby and toddler milestones and achievements later in life.

She is just proud - but it's possible to be proud without bragging, and sending videos to mums whose kids can't yet do whatever it is is bragging.

hah a, just smile and nod. Ive just had to endure a friend of mine telling me how incredibly bright her daughter is and how its ridiculous she has to sit through such easy lessons with children who are far less able ( yes including my own 6 year old dd!!). I actually thought she was winding me up at first but no......

How utterly awful, that woman, the shame of it , to be proud of her child. She should hang her head in shame. Possibly wear some sack cloth.

Aw, I'm sorry, it must be quite worrying to have a child develop physically before their emotional intelligence even has a chance to catch up. Chances are it'll all even out in time - I'll be thinking of you and keep my fingers crossed.

Smile and sound friendly with mild concern thrown in there.

Are you all are friends with people?
You all undermine and be little.

Oh please, there's nothing worse than bragging how PBF is enjoying Canterbury Tales when your own offspring is struggling with the bug on the rug.

She can do it her hearts desire in front of the GPs and be done with it.

Actually, I was in such a group and DD was one if the youngest in the group (29th), so by the time she rolled round to doing things, those born at the beginning of the month had been there, done that, so I think I get it. That said, as they get older, they all average out.

No.
I'm friends with unicorns.

We don't all have GP or many RL friends to be proud in front of.

Or:

No wonder you look so tired and, frankly, exhausted all the time. Don't worry I'm sure things will slow down and even out. And well, if it doesn't, I guess we'll be seeing you on the next series of C4 Child Genius.

(I wouldn't really actually say these out loud)

Embarrassed for her - all the other families in your nct group will be having a right old laugh at her expense. That sort of email should be sent to granny only cannot believe sentient adults don't realise this - cringeworthy!

Does she have much family or many friends? Maybe she just wants to share her daughters achievements, have them acknowledged.

I did have this issue but the other way around my charge was outrageously advanced it was obvious before she was even a year old mother at groups used to harras me and demand to know what I was doing to make her do smart "is it flash cards.....no DVDs.... Wall charts..." It was like I was delibritly holding their DC back before I refused to share my 'method'
No one has a clue why she's such a genius, all be did was play with normal toys!

She's just proud. A little OTT perhaps, but how horrible to think that you are sharing stuff about your DC and everyone else is mocking it.

Deliberately...clearly I'm not a genius.

I missed that: you're mocking her behind her back?

YABVU, childish, and you just sound a bit jealous.

"What an incredible coincidence. Rollo the dog just did the same!"

Brilliant suggestions!

Anyone else feeling sorry for her child. Just enjoy your baby...they all learn everything they need when they do...some concentrate on talking, some walking....

And how is mock concern a reasonable way to deal with this? 'Tis like bloody Mean Girls around here, sometimes!

Our friends dd is a genius though. Dd2 quite bright but this child incredible. Eg dd "want banana". Friends dd "I do like bananas but think today I would prefer grapes". She was eons ahead of every other child her age her age.

She was our friends first and they are so modest and low key they down played it, or possibly didn't realise. She was free reading at 4. Watching with interest to see if she takes over the world or whether everyone else will just catch up!

I can understand it being irritating, but I do think you are being a bit mean.

She maybe needs approval from others.

When my MIL would show off about her favourite grandchild (not one of mine), I would sagely nod and tell her I thought there seemed to be an increasing trend for child geniuses in recent years.

She did at least laugh.