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To feel sorry for this woman?

297 replies

Mammanat222 · 05/10/2014 20:01

www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2781377/BREAKING-NEWS-Internet-troll-targeted-McCanns-dead-hotel-room-days-fleeing-home.html

OK so her hobby of internet trolling (and her subjects!!) was a bit dodgy BUT I cannot help to feel quite sorry for how she was treated??

AIBU

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ChippingInLatteLover · 05/10/2014 20:04

YANBU to feel that way. They're your feelings.

I don't share them.

harihippo · 05/10/2014 20:05

Really??

Hassled · 05/10/2014 20:06

I'm sorry she died but I don't have a problem with how she was treated. You don't deal it out if you can't take it - and what she dealt out was vile. Being doorstepped by Sky News hardly compares.

ClapHandsIfYouBelieveInFatties · 05/10/2014 20:06

I don't know. It's very upsetting that she's killed herself...indeed...the internet is in int's infancy still so things like this aren't "usual" but they will become more and more common as it becomes harder to be anonymous online.

I think in the future we will all be forced to be ourselves.....upfront and open...and there will be very little meaness going on due to things like this.

Mammanat222 · 05/10/2014 20:08

She made an error of judgement for sure BUT the way Sky doorstepped her and outed her to the world was plain nasty.

She should have been punished legally and not have a trial by media?

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SpringBreaker · 05/10/2014 20:09

I actually dont know what to think. On the one hand, her behaviour was the sort of thing that drives decent people to take their own lives, however I do feel very sorry for her family who will no doubt be absolutely devastated, and I do think the media should take some blame, as well as other networking sites as they will have played their part in it too.

Very sad waste of her life, and a lifelong hurt for her family.

treaclesoda · 05/10/2014 20:09

any death is sad of course, I'm sure she has family and friends who love her. I don't feel sorry for her as such though, because she was quite happy to cause great pain to others. It's just horrible all around really. There are no winners here.

TheReluctantCountess · 05/10/2014 20:09

It's sad that she felt the need to post the messages in the first place.

SolomanDaisy · 05/10/2014 20:10

You have to feel sorry for anyone whose life has reached a stage where they feel suicidal I think, whatever their previous mistakes. She probably thought that the Internet and real life would never interact for her and was probably never very stable to start with. Happy people with good mental health tend not to engage in hate filled trolling against bereaved parents. However, I still think it is good that the press are willing to expose this type of troll, which will hopefully make them think before they take to Twitter. Or Mumsnet.

Mammanat222 · 05/10/2014 20:10

Being doorstepped AND identified on national news surely wasn't fair?

Couldn't she have been dealt with through proper legal channels? Like everyone else in this country.

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Mammanat222 · 05/10/2014 20:12

Also I am assuming like most forums in general any discussion about "the family" is forbidden here as well?? Hence me not mentioning any names.

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Poppet1974 · 05/10/2014 20:12

Nope I really can't say I feel sorry for her!

fuctifino · 05/10/2014 20:12

The internet is in it's infancy? Confused
It was in a crude form in the 60's hardly an infant!

She may have done wrong but I do have sympathy the way she was tracked down by Sky News.

BitchPeas · 05/10/2014 20:14

She was all billy big balls online, then when caught in the real world she couldn't cope.

She made a choice to troll the mcanns, choices have consequences. She behaved disgustingly. I won't shed any tears.

youbethemummylion · 05/10/2014 20:18

Hmmmm its difficult. Its sad that anyone ever feels suicide is the answer, however she was lucky in a sense (that's probably not the best way to phrase that) that her actions didn't lead to others doing the same.

scousadelic · 05/10/2014 20:19

I feel sorry for anyone who feels hopeless enough that suicide seems like a valid option. What she did was wrong but Sky are hardly blameless when it comes to harassing folk either

Workytypestuff · 05/10/2014 20:23

I don't know what to think.

The way she behaved was terrible, people have taken their lives after bring treated the way she treated the McCann's...

ILovePud · 05/10/2014 20:25

Oh that's awful, how terrible for her family. Yes what she did was wrong but this kind of thing is best dealt with via the courts. I feel really shit now for having thoughts at the time that story was breaking that there was some justice in her getting a taste of her own medicine.

SpringBreaker · 05/10/2014 20:27

She was only posting HER opinions though. Which is something that everyone on here and other sites do all the time. That should not give the press the right to track them to their doorstep and hound them in the way that they did.

Goldmandra · 05/10/2014 20:31

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hormonalandneedingcheese · 05/10/2014 20:32

I feel very sorry for her family and for the McCann's. In regards to her own suicide, it's sad irony because trolling in the manner she did has led victims to suicide. I don't feel sorry for her, she made some very nasty choices and then when they rebounded on her she couldn't deal with them-yet she'd expected others to or not cared if they'd died.

I have to wonder how shit your own life and personality must be to have to purposefully bully and harass and troll.

NotDavidTennant · 05/10/2014 20:36

I have mixed views on this.

One one hand I think that once she put comments into the public domain then she waived her right to anonymity.

On the other hand I don't agree with media door-stepping ordinary members of the public. It may make dramatic coverage, but there's no way of knowing how the person in question is going to cope with the sudden intrusion in their lives.

IndiansInTheLobby · 05/10/2014 20:39

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Flipflops7 · 05/10/2014 20:40

I don't condone what she did but yes, I feel sorry for her, and her family.

FiftyShadesOfGreen4205 · 05/10/2014 20:42

She will be no great loss to society.