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To feel sorry for this woman?

297 replies

Mammanat222 · 05/10/2014 20:01

www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2781377/BREAKING-NEWS-Internet-troll-targeted-McCanns-dead-hotel-room-days-fleeing-home.html

OK so her hobby of internet trolling (and her subjects!!) was a bit dodgy BUT I cannot help to feel quite sorry for how she was treated??

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Onedropoflove · 06/10/2014 00:48

Far too many for me to read. I'm not used to twitter at all. None of it made sense to me.

Caff2 · 06/10/2014 01:02

I read all of it. She seems like a horrible woman. I am not glad she's dead, it's awful, but her tweets don't make an easy to defend legacy.

I do think she must have been unwell to say what she did. But from what she said I think she would have been happy at the McAnns' deaths. So. Tbh, no. I don't feel the sympathy I should, but I may be wrong.

Caff2 · 06/10/2014 09:44

Actually, I've changed my mind. I shouldn't have said she seemed horrible, it seems more likely she was unwell, and of course it's terrible she has died, also, I feel quite ashamed about the lack of sympathy I felt last night. It's someone's mum at the end of the day and of course she didn't deserve a death sentence.

Hoppinggreen · 06/10/2014 09:48

I am sorry she is dead and her family have my sympathy.
However, she could has driven others to suicide with her actions and she was brave enough to send nasty messages when she was anonymous but once she had been named she couldn't deal with it.
She must have been in a bad way to take her own life but she could obviously dish out the abuse but not even face the prospect of receiving it.

Anewmeanewname · 06/10/2014 10:10

BustiKate has hit the nail on the head.

Itsfab · 06/10/2014 10:53

Someone has had their feelings hurt v someone has lost their life and her family their mum, auntie, daughter, sister etc.

Some cold hearted comments here.

JohnFarleysRuskin · 06/10/2014 11:08

What would happen if people now started anonymously sending dozens of tweets to her family saying what crap family they were not to be looking after their mum?

No one is coming out of this smelling of roses.

KneeQuestion · 06/10/2014 11:17

Other than stating her opinions, what was nasty about what she said?

The original report stated there were a number of people saying a number of things, amongst which were some threats. Did she make any threats?

She seems to have been held responsible/blamed for everything that had been said.

I think the definition of 'troll' seems to have morphed into something other than its orginal meaning too, it used to mean a person that posted things simply to stir or cause anger/upset, in this womans case, it seems that what she posted was simply what she thought.

When did opinions become 'trolling'?

handcream · 06/10/2014 11:19

I am not sure she was unwell, she did something really horrible and hid her real name. She has now decided to take her own life. I hope tbh that people look at this internet trolling and think twice before they do it.

You will be tracked down and found out. Perhaps it will stop people doing it.

I have just come back from the Middle East. The punishments are severe and consequently it feels very safe.

hiddenhome · 06/10/2014 11:21

People should think before they write things. Her vicious rant 'opinions' could very easily have driven her target to suicide Sad

She was a churchgoers wasn't she? Well, make sure your sins don't find you out' Hmm

OfaFrenchMind · 06/10/2014 11:23

A troll got trolled. And she could dish the dirt but not take it. Bouhou.

I am only sorry for her family.

Bowlersarm · 06/10/2014 11:24

A troll got trolled. Inclined to agree.

KneeQuestion · 06/10/2014 11:25

So self imposed death penalty for anyone who posts online in a way that you disagree with?

KneeQuestion · 06/10/2014 11:26

Or posts an opinion that differs from yours?

hiddenhome · 06/10/2014 11:30

Where do you draw the line between an opinion and a vicious attack though?

handcream · 06/10/2014 11:32

It wasnt an opinion she gave, she made vile comments and hid her name, why was this case so interesting to her? Why the Mccanns? She then took the cowards way out and let her family pick up the pieces rather than face what she had done.

Bowlersarm · 06/10/2014 11:40

No one killed her Knee she took the decision to take her own life. Happy to dish it out but not accept the consequences. She left her family to do that.

Roussette · 06/10/2014 11:45

This woman obviously had a huge problem - literally anything up to 100 tweets a day, mostly about the McCanns. One of hers says " Anyone, who calls names and gets personal whatever their 'side' should stop it, we are better than this". Yet she writes the most vile things, such vitriol and hate and wanting them to rot in hell, and worse.

I don't think of it as karma, I just think it's terribly sad that someone is so obsessed by something like this. I just wonder whether her family knew how much this had taken over her life because it obviously wasn't healthy and has led to her suicide. If ever I've doubted Twitter and it's effects, now is the time.

KneeQuestion · 06/10/2014 11:53

Where do you draw the line between an opinion and a vicious attack though

Well there are laws covering this sort of thing, people have been charged over tweets haven't they. So what should have happened was that the police be left to deal with it. Not martin brunt/skynews meting out retribution by exposing one person in the way they did.

literally anything up to 100 tweets a day

If you are talking to say, 3 other twitter users, it would be really easy to rack up 100 tweets in an hour let alone a day.

Twitter is short messages, not full blog length posts.

Aeroflotgirl · 06/10/2014 11:55

Yes it is sad she died, but I don't feel sorry for that cowardly troll

KneeQuestion · 06/10/2014 12:02

Are all these 'no sympathy' 'vile person' opinions on this thread trolling?

Her family can read this, what is the difference to what she did?

Thebodyloveschocolateandwine · 06/10/2014 12:02

I find people like this very frightening.

They have a secret desire to inflict pain and hurt on bereaved parents and pretend to be decent people in real life.

Such people are fairly evil really.

She made her own decisions and was responsible for her own actions.

Moreisnnogedag · 06/10/2014 12:17

I'm in two minds. I think it's terribly sad her family are having to face grief in the public eye and having their own image of their mother tainted in this way.

But to those saying she just posted an opinion and how is that so bad. She didn't just get a bit ranty on a thread but it (seems like it) was a sustained attack. So she would actively bring it up again and again. Would we really be this sympathetic about her actions (not suicide) if her victim had committed suicide? Would this be our response to a young adult who was the target of an internet campaign? It's only her opinion and her right to privacy should be maintained?

Aeroflotgirl · 06/10/2014 12:26

Trolls are awful, tgey can inflict devastation and heartache on a family or person. There are trolls that target families of dead chikdren or who have lost loved ones. They do not care one jot, yes it is sad for tge trolls family, but she chose to inflict her vile behaviour on the Macannes

plinkyplonks · 06/10/2014 13:22

I think some of you have no idea what a troll is. She was a lady with opinions you don't agree with. Those opinions if they were unacceptable should have been dealt with by the police.

Now we have two threads running, one in which someone is saying it's OK to call the deceased 'a bitch'. Absolutely unbelievable. I am astonished that these threads are allowed to continue when posters are showing a complete lack of compassion and care here. A family has lost their mother as a result of trial by media. It's totally and utterly unacceptable.

I find it absolutely hilarious that some of you are being so cold, judgmental and cruel - do you understand how much of a hypocrite your being?

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