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Original poster

To have binned DP's microwave?

120 replies

Nohootingchickenssleeping · 27/09/2014 23:27

Spent all day in hospital with a head injury so feeling ill, tired and emotional.

DP cooked fish in my house last night. He's left the microwave filthy and stinking of fish that was out of date when he cooked it. It's stunk my whole house out and the smell has nearly made me vomit and burst into tears.

So I used every ounce of strength and threw the microwave into the wheely bin.

He's gonna kill me, he's had it since he was eighteen and it was lent to me on the condition I look after it. It was on its last legs but he doesn't like throwing stuff out and he'll also be upset that it was just tossed and not recycled.

AIBU to have binned it rather than clean it? I'm vegetarian and I hate the smell of fish above anything.

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TryingNotToLaugh · 27/09/2014 23:31

He's had it since he was 18? How old is he now?

He sounds overly emotionally attached to it anyway. I think you've probably done him a favour, but be prepared for intense separation anxiety.

LifesUPandLifesDOWN · 27/09/2014 23:31

Yup specially cause it wasn't yours,

Sorry to hear about your head injury Thanks

FunkyBoldRibena · 27/09/2014 23:33

Mope. Microwaves are the work of the devil. Good riddance. Hope you are feeling better. X

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Nohootingchickenssleeping · 27/09/2014 23:34

He's nearly thirty.

I have concussion and the house has been unventilated and warm all day. And I can't find the vomit emoticon.

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gentlehoney · 27/09/2014 23:39

Very unreasonable and cruel. Get it out of the bin and clean it.

(I am tempted to ask what brand it is because it has lasted an impressive amount of time)

noblegiraffe · 27/09/2014 23:42

If he wants it then he should clean it himself.

MrsQueen · 27/09/2014 23:43

Of course yabu. It doesn't belong to you. Get it back from the bin - leave it in a porch, or a storage box outside or something and clean it when you feel better.

If you really have a concussion, you shouldn't be alone in your house - can anybody come to stay with you?

steff13 · 27/09/2014 23:46

Can you get it out of the trash and put it outside on the porch or in the yard until he can come clean it? Fish is the worst, but I don't think it's right to throw it away.

noblegiraffe · 27/09/2014 23:46

Why the fuck are people telling the OP that she should clean up her partner's stinky mess?

AgentZigzag · 27/09/2014 23:48

Ouch re your head Thanks How did you manage that?

I can understand throwing things in a fit of anger, I've done it myself, but you chucked something you know means a lot to him (for whatever reason (and I'd love to know more about why he doesn't like chucking things out)).

He's going to be understandably pissed about that isn't he? Regardless of why you did it (even though stinking your house out was very thoughtless of him, did he do it on purpose?).

Even though it was on its last legs it wasn't yours to bin, is it salvageable do you think?

It would be a six to on/half a dozen if it wasn't for you having concussion, and that trumps anything you did that you might live to regret.

squoosh · 27/09/2014 23:48

I love the fact he's had it since he was 18 and lent it to you on the condition you treat it with warmth and kindness. Wow, how emotional does he get over actual family heirlooms?

Hospital attendance due to head injury + microwaved fish odour = you are entitled to do whatever the hell you like.

Hope you're feeling better soon.

SolidGoldBrass · 27/09/2014 23:49

OP, how (approximately) did this head injury occur? To be blunt, did your DP cause it?

Greyhound · 27/09/2014 23:50

I've had my Panasonic microwave since 1994 and it is still going strong.

So, I think YABU !

However, if the thing stinks of out of date fish and is old - I think you are right to dump the bastard micro oven.

MrsTerryPratchett · 27/09/2014 23:52

NBU to wrap it in a bin bag and return. Fish stink and all. VVVU to throw something away that someone lent you, asking you to look after it. It doesn't matter what it is; it matters to someone and they trusted you.

I hope you feel better even though YWBU Flowers

AgentZigzag · 27/09/2014 23:54

If he's had it since he was 18 it's probably a matter of principle to him now, that he's going to stick with the microwave until the bitter end.

That's some reading between the lines SGB.

ByTheWishingWell · 27/09/2014 23:56

^What MrsTP said.

Hope you feel better soon.

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Nohootingchickenssleeping · 27/09/2014 23:57

Oh gosh no, he didn't cause my head injury. I did it at work because I'm a clumsy twat. Hit it on something hard getting up and the rest of the day is a bit of a blur.

He's very much a hoarder. He's kept every bank statement he's ever received in a nice little filing system. I genuinely think he may have HFA, I've been reading about it and it very much fits. But that's a topic for another day.

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DancingDinosaur · 27/09/2014 23:58

YABVU.
Hope you feel better soon.

HavanaSlife · 28/09/2014 00:05

Can you put it in a shed or something? I wouldnt clean it but I wouldnt bin it if it wasnt mine

TeracottaTurtle · 28/09/2014 00:09

OP, how (approximately) did this head injury occur? To be blunt, did your DP cause it? Shock

Seriously, can see nothing in the op to remotely suggest this. Just Shock

BackforGood · 28/09/2014 00:11

Of course YABVVVVU.

You've said and it was lent to me on the condition I look after it - and you think it's acceptable to then ignare that condition and just throw it away ? Shock

Can you imagine the responses on here if her partner had thrown out something of hers that she had lent him on condition that she looked after it ??? Hmm

btw, my microwave is going strong and I bought it in 1990

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Nohootingchickenssleeping · 28/09/2014 00:16

I threw in out at 7pm, opened a window and switched on a Glade Plug-In. It still stinks so bad that I can smell it even upstairs.

Not helping the nausea one bit.

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AgentZigzag · 28/09/2014 00:24

Did he do it out of thoughtlessness or did know full well it'd stink your house out but didn't give a fuck?

AlpacaLypse · 28/09/2014 00:24

You shouldn't have actually put it in the wheely bin. However, hopefully that's not due to be collected for days yet...

If you can face it, hook it back it and stuff it in a binbag and stash it in the house. If not, don't, do it yourself when your feeling less wibbly or get him or a mate to do it tomorrow. You'll be more up for a conversation then anyway.

Then go to bed with some chocolate. Solves most known problems.

DP having OCD, HFA, or being on the spectrum for ASD (all of which sound plausible) can wait for tomorrow.

Gruntfuttock · 28/09/2014 00:26

Buy a new one of your DP's choice a.s.a.p.