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aibu to think maybe I am losing my mind, need some advice please

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fragileyourock · 24/09/2014 20:50

Bear with me please as I think maybe I, m over reacting I dont know. In my bathroom upstairs I have white vinyl tiles on the floor and I am pretty anal about keeping them clean and the toilet. Once a day normally mid morning I clean and bleach the toilet then I wipe the floor with disinfectant wipes. Its just me and my son who is eleven.
In the last two days something weird has been happening in the bathroom please dont laugh as its scarying me. We always and visitors take shoes off downstairs never go upstairs in shoes. But for some reason there have been footprints and hairs on the bathroom floor, tiny curly black hairs. Its not from my son as he is not hairy and its not from me because I use hair remover and did this two weeks ago.
I get a gut feeling that somebody is doing this or maybe my mind is losing the plot. But I, m racking my brains as to a reasonable explaination. I know I must sound deranged but something is not right

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BaffledSomeMore · 24/09/2014 22:12

I think you need to talk to the police.

Hairtodaygonetomorrow · 24/09/2014 22:13

Yes, you can call the police any time you feel under threat. If you think someone is genuinely coming in to your house when you are not there, I would be on the phone tonight and getting them to call round tomorrow to reassess your security. What did they say to you? I find it a little odd that you have had two lots of contact with the police about a threatening man, including an alarm/panic system, but haven't got a plan/phone numbers in place to deal with it.

I would also keep the hair, obviously, for DNA purposes and take photos. But only after I had called the police (which I thought you said you had done).

7Days · 24/09/2014 22:13

TBh I'd be ringing the police in your shoes. All these things adding up, plus your own suspicions that someone in particular is behind it - I think they would help more than us. I know you don't want to hear it but I think it's your next move.

MrsWinnibago · 24/09/2014 22:15

What arsing said. Why are you even on here asking if it's you? A man under your car, tampered locks, footprints and smashed vases? Call them first thing.

Paraibalove · 24/09/2014 22:16

Jesus. you need to move. why is this person doing this to you?

HoldenMcGroin · 24/09/2014 22:20

Please call the police

Sp1rals · 24/09/2014 22:22

Is there somebody you can trust that can do a 'stakeout' with you? Arm yourself with cameras and hide somewhere and wait? To catch them in the act. It sounds awful you have my sympathy. Definitely talk to a police officer about it, have it on record, even if there's nothing they can do at this point.

MokunMokun · 24/09/2014 22:22

I agree that you should call the police first thing.

ArtVandelay · 24/09/2014 22:23

Please call the police - this all sounds very dangerous. Its definitely NOT you being alarmist or a bit mad, i'm sure they'll take it seriously given the (scary) history.

MokunMokun · 24/09/2014 22:24

Don't stake the house out yourself. It doesn't sound safe at all.

madamemuddle · 24/09/2014 22:27

Flipping nora!

Get the police involved and the next time you see pubes on the floor, sweep them into a plastic bag as evidence.

Who was the weirdo lying under your car? I think I'd be investigating in a shotgun personally...

madamemuddle · 24/09/2014 22:28

investing not investigating...

Miss Marple brain on overdrive here!

Sunny67 · 24/09/2014 22:32

Get on to the police! I'm sorry if it sounds alarmist But it's too late when it's too late.

MrsCosmopilite · 24/09/2014 22:32

X-posted with you OP when you mentioned the man under the car.

I recant my 'stake out yourself' advice.

Call the police. This sounds as though someone is deliberately targeting you and it sounds as though you've a good idea too.

Collect the hair on some sellotape and give it to the police to test. Let them know who you think is behind this and why.

On an even more serious note, do you have to stay living there?

Doubtfuldaphne · 24/09/2014 22:36

I hope you've called the police by now.

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fragileyourock · 24/09/2014 22:36

I am scared of the person who I think could be doing this, this person is not of right mind and thinks they are above the law. On both occasions the police attended to my house but hecause there was no solid evidence there was not alot they could do apart from put the panic alarm in. Back story is that for years this person has been a threat to me and other ex partners in a violent abusive way. W/A got involved classing it as high risk hence the panic alarm.
This person has been court ordered to stay away from me for the next two years but that doesnt matter to him. And doing this sort of thing means doing it undetected so as not to get caught red handed. Im weary of calling the police as they will think im losing my mind.

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colapoola · 24/09/2014 22:36

My first thought is, your son is hitting puberty early (a lot do now), maybe he is maybe a bit embarrased about it (and wants to still be same as his peers) so is shaving off the hair as soon as it appears?

This could explain the mystery hair.

Alpacacino · 24/09/2014 22:45

Oh my utter!
Please change your locks. Is there anyone who could stay with you/in your flat whilst you are out?

DS is not linked to scary person?

zipzap · 24/09/2014 22:50

Maybe after a quick talk with ds to double check the hair isn't his... I'd be ringing the police asap - probably not from inside the house. Do you have a friend you could go to or a safe quiet place to do the calling from? I wouldn't want whoever it is that is doing this to know that I was on to them or freaked out about it.

I would be calling the police and getting them to come over - do you still have the evidence there or have you cleaned it away? I'd also be asking for their advice - do they have fingerprints of the man in question on record - if so there shouldn't be any of his prints in the house. Maybe they could dust for prints to see if they found any (or any that aren't yours or your ds or any other recent visitors - it sounds like you clean lots so know that prints would be new unlike me.

I'll admit I've watched a few too many tv cop shows in my time. So I'd also be looking around to see if anything else has been left behind - like a mini camera to record things, bug in the telephone, etc etc. I don't know how easy it is to check for these things - but if someone is determined to mess you around then they seem to be easy enough to buy off the internet. Have you been into the loft recently to check everything is OK there and nothing strange going on... (preferably do this while the police are there!)

Good luck. I think the police will take it seriously given the problems you've had before.

BitOutOfPractice · 24/09/2014 22:50

Oh op I hope you do call the police. It sounds terrifying. It sounds like whoever it is, is trying to phsychologically (sp) terrorise you

I really hope you do call.

Have an unMN hug (((((op))))))

7Days · 24/09/2014 22:54

the police won't think you are losing your mind. Don't let that fear stop you ringing them

BelleateSebastian · 24/09/2014 23:03

stone the crows, this sounds awful, call the police. Have you cleaned up the hairs, if you've wiped them up with a wipe I would go and fish it out of the bin to show the police.

MrsCosmopilite · 24/09/2014 23:05

What 7days says.^^

AlpacaMyBags · 24/09/2014 23:17

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fragileyourock · 24/09/2014 23:20

Honestly son is hair free everywhere on his body. He asks me when will he start to grow hair like a man because he hasnt got any yet. Person does like to emotionally terrorise and gets off on it. I did clean up the hairs with wipes and put them in the bathroom bin in two minds of a gripped fear and the other of dont be silly

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