To wear a pillar box red top to a funeral.

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Picture attached. Will be wearing thick black tights and back pump type shoes. A small black headband with a black ribbon. Picture doesn't show true colour of top. It's pillar box red.

See, I'm mid-30s, I don't think I'd wear a bright colour to a funeral unless asked. It's a respect thing. It does vary from family to family, it does vary depending on what the deceased was like, but if you aren't sure, then dark is better. No automatically formal 'mourning wear' and black, but sombre, subdued colours.

Put it this way OP, wear dark colours, and even if it would have been ok to wear bright red, you'll still look ok. If you wear the red top and it's not ok, you'll only find out when you get there.

Your Nanny is going through a terrible time, her DH has died with little warning at what isn't an old age anymore. Don't take the slightest risk you'll upset her.

Borrow another top.

You couldn't possibly bother your nanny with your wardrobe choices.

If I was going to ring and ask then I'd certainly not word it like I was asking for fashion advice.

However I don't need to. I have been assured by lots of people now that the outfit is a good choice. My uncle and my mother have both said it's good to wear bright colours to celebrate my grandfather's life. AND... they're both middle aged. So apologies for the generalisation.

I'm glad you are wearing the red top. I think it is smart. I hope everything goes well and that your family and friends are able to concentrate on remembering and reflecting on your grandfathers life rather than being distracted by being offended by inconsequential details

My granny wears a lovely fuschia blouse with a black trouser suit and black hat to funerals, regardless of whose it is. She looks smart and not inappropriate at all. I like your choice of outfit, I'm glad you're wearing it.

It does look smart, thank you everyone for the input.

It does vary from family to family
I think this must be true. I've never worn all black/dark colours to a funeral. I will usually wear dark trousers/skirt and shoes, but tops have included shirts of various colours (inc. yellow and white pinstripe) and coats of various colours (inc. light pink). I've never been the odd one out, and having been to a family funeral very recently, I can remember what other 'more importnant' mourners wore - certainly not all black.

Oh dear, no. Just no.

Sorry op, but unless people have been specifically asked to wear bright colours, wearing a bright red top to a funeral is just crass, and you'll probably stand out like a sore thumb.

I do think the days of all black are mainly gone now. You'll see lots of variations - greys, browns, muted colours of all shades. But still sombre and dark.

I really wouldn't but our family/friends are quite formal. Smart dress in dark colours with accessories or detail is fine, as is cream, white accents but not actual colours.

The black version of your jumper is down to £20 online too.

Hope all goes well.