I can understand why the Yes voters are so disappointed - they thought things were really going their way, and that there was going to be a Yes vote (I thought there was going to be a Yes vote, so I am sure that people who wanted it must have believed even more than I did that it was going to happen).
Some weeks ago, I wondered, on FB, how Scotland was going to heal after the referendum - it was clear then that, whatever the result was, it was going to be fairly close - which meant that whichever group won, the voters for the other side were going to be a substantial percentage of the population, and whichever side didn't win was going to be really unhappy about it - far, far more unhappy than most people would be about a General Election's results, say.
People did reply, and said that, whatever happened, we would move on into a brave new world - and I hope and pray that that will happen - but I think it is too soon to be expecting that to happen now. The Yes campaign were and still are deeply passionate about independence - it isn't just a political policy, it's a long-held dream - and I can understand why they feel that those of us who voted No have taken away their dream. All the stuff about people only voting No through fear, or because of bullying from Westminster, or because they are traitors, un-scottish, quislings, all the blaming of the elderly voters is a result of this huge disappointment. I guess you could say it is part of the grieving process.
I hope that, in time, the wounds will heal. I hope that Westminster carries through on its promises, and that, with those new powers, Holyrood and the people of Scotland can build a better, fairer society, that is passionately Scottish and proud of it, but is also a valuable and valued member of the UK, benefiting from all that has to offer, as well as bringing so much to the Union too.
But I am still feeling very insecure here. I love Scotland, and would like nothing better than to live out the rest of my life here. But if the emotional atmosphere doesn't get better, or if there are genuine, credible moves either towards another referendum in the not-too-distant future, or towards Scotland suing for independence without another referendum, I don't think we will be wanting to stay here - I couldn't take the stress of another referendum, and am finding it so hard to be, albeit indirectly, the object of the hatred and scorn of Yes voters. And I don't want to live in a country which could set aside the democratic choice of 55% of the voters in the referendum.
I've talked to dh about this - and we are going to see how things go. But if, a year or so from now, things are still all up in the air, we will be looking again at the possibility of moving back to England.