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to think she should put her hand in her pocket now and then

104 replies

kentishgirl · 19/09/2014 09:06

DP's friend's girlfriend.

I buy rounds of drinks for all of us.
DP buys rounds of drinks for all of us.
DP's friend buys rounds of drinks for all of us.
DP's friend's girlfriend has never bought a drink for herself or anyone else.

It's that whole 'couples count as one person' thing, isn't it. Or it could be that she thinks she is so special we all love buying her drinks and she doesn't need to return the favour.

It boils my piss.

DP says don't worry about, it's selfish of her, but he's not going to make a fuss over it.

WIBU to tell her being blonde and skinny and giggly doesn't excuse you from buying rounds?

OP posts:
Gatekeeper · 19/09/2014 09:08

simple; just say "right, it's your round now Missus"

Vicky5910 · 19/09/2014 09:08

My husband usually gets the drinks for both of our turn. Any couple we are out with does the same. We aren't one person but we do have one bank account! If they only do one round between them you guys should only do one round too :)

StripyBanana · 19/09/2014 09:09

When we go out as a couple usually only my husband will take money!

WeirdCatLady · 19/09/2014 09:09

Next time just say, oh, I think it's your round

iwantgin · 19/09/2014 09:09

YANBU

There are 4 of you out drinking, but only 3 buy the rounds?

So her DP goes to the bar twice out of every four drinks ? or does it fall to you and your DP to sub her?

BeeRayKay · 19/09/2014 09:12

I know when I go out with DH I never take cash unless it's "my treat" (out of my "pocket money") so he always goes to the bar etc....maybe it's something likke that? Or have they not been together that long?

Only1scoop · 19/09/2014 09:15

They just operate the money stuff differently maybe??

Only1scoop · 19/09/2014 09:16

Iwantgin....good point

MrsTerryPratchett · 19/09/2014 09:16

It's either/or, surely? You're both couples or neither is.

whois · 19/09/2014 09:16

I know when I go out with DH I never take cash unless it's "my treat" (out of my "pocket money") so he always goes to the bar etc....

Then he should go twice when in a round situation. Once for you and once for him.

Just say 'got to be your round now' to her next time. Or you stop going to the bar also and you and DP share the cost of your joint round.

tak1ngchances · 19/09/2014 09:17

DH and I buy a round between us. It's most odd for each member of a couple to do their own round surely?

rainbowinmyroom · 19/09/2014 09:17

DH and I operate as a couple as do our friends.

Ididntseeitsoitdidnthappen · 19/09/2014 09:17

I've never bought a drink when out with DH and our friends but that's because our money is joint so it's kinda pointless. It does make me feel self conscious about it but then I realise I'm still paying in just not going to the bar!

WiseGuysHighRise · 19/09/2014 09:17

Her DP is as bad though!

4 people drinking so 4 people buy. Why is he ok with you and your DP subbing his girlfriend.

I would honestly sit there and wait for one of them to get up and buy the drinks and if gets awkward well so be it.

WiseGuysHighRise · 19/09/2014 09:20

Ididntseeitsoitdidnthappen
I've never bought a drink when out with DH and our friends but that's because our money is joint so it's kinda pointless. It does make me feel self conscious about it but then I realise I'm still paying in just not going to the bar

Yeah that's fair enough, but I think OP is saying that her and DP buy 2 rounds to every 1 this other couple buy - that isn't on.

It doesn't matter who out of the couple physically walks up to the bar and hands the money over so long as the ratio is right.

OddFodd · 19/09/2014 09:23

But how many rounds are there? If there's 4 and it goes:
1 - your DP
2 - friend
3 - you
4 - friend

then it doesn't matter does it? You're still alternating rounds, he's just getting 2 rather than one

Daddypigsgusset · 19/09/2014 09:25

Just buy one round of drinks between you and your dp then the man friend then you two. That works out fair unless shes drinking champagne and you lot are on shandy

nbee84 · 19/09/2014 09:30

When we go out as a group there are some couples and some singles so we put into a kitty an amount per person.

Siarie · 19/09/2014 09:33

My DH does this for me, I can't remember the last time I paid for a drink lol! But you know what, he buys bottles and bottles of champagne for everyone so I don't think they mind.

Personally I just don't like having to do it, I don't like cash and standing around a bar waiting. Plus all the couples we go out with work as couples so it works out just fine.

bluejeansandbabies · 19/09/2014 09:34

When we go out only DH takes his wallet. We only have one bank account so makes no difference who physically pays. So if we are buying rounds it goes
Us
Friends
Us
Friends
Regardless of which member of each couple goes to the bar.

bluejeansandbabies · 19/09/2014 09:37

Saying that, on the rare occasion I go out with friends I drive and give people lifts so they buy me lemonade instead of paying for a Taxi.
I haven't been to a bar and bought a drink in my life - I am 31.

Roussette · 19/09/2014 09:38

Why don't you buy as couples and that would sort the problem. You and your DP buy a round. DP's friend and gf buy a round. Sorted.

WitchWay · 19/09/2014 09:41

The friend ought to be going up for alternate rounds then - You, Him, DP, Him & repeat. If not then it isn't fair.

Aherdofmims · 19/09/2014 09:43

Agree with pps - next time buy a round between you and dh.

Kewcumber · 19/09/2014 09:43

But those of you who are saying "Oh but DH and I have one bank account"... why assume that a "girlfriend shares a bank account? Confused I wouldn;t assume that but yes if her BF is paying then not your problem, if not then I think you should say something.