Husband sulking is he BU?

[mumof2wonderfulboys]

My 4 year old bought a doll in the supermaket last night which my OH was very unhappy about, he says dolls are for girls, he doesn't appreciate the toys he's got and expects too much.

Last night he told our son he is f*cking furious and this morning has ignored him every time he has tried to speak to Daddy.

Is this behaviour being unreasonable?

Total respect to you OP and I hope that this is the beginning of happier times for you and your boys.

Well done :)

I hope you get some permanent housing soon & that you can keep your ex away from your boys.

Great update OP. Good luck for the future.

Well done. Bloody well done. You've done the absolute best thing for your little DSs, and yourself.

It must have been a tough few months for you OP, but you have done fantastically for you and your two boys. Really hope 2015 is the start of a whole new life for you three.

Just read this whole thread, fantastic news mumof, I am so pleased that you are all safe. I hope you get somewhere more permanent to live soon.

I had to read the post several times where you secretly recorded the conversation. I just couldn't believe that he would so readily acknowledge that he was, and would keep on abusing his 4 year old son. That's heartbreaking :(

You know you have saved your children's life don't you

Because of you they will grow up to become the adults they were meant to be not the adults scarred by abuse.

So I will repeat

you know you saved your children's life don't you

Well done and good luck in your new better life.

Wow just read this thread feels very relevant to me what the hell would he do to my son who not only loves dolls & Teddy's but first thing he does during free play at school is to get in the dressing up things!! His Xmas list consisted mainly of things relating to princesses & tea sets!!! Even if my son turns out to be gay what does this mean/ matter in this day & age!!
You've done the right thing how very brave of you to show your boys they are the most important thing in the world to you & you celebrate them for simply being them!

So he was quite prepared to shout at, abuse and disown his son completely for buying a doll, and now he's whinging that he loves and misses him? What a total arsehole.

Glad you've got out. Have you had support about keeping him away from the boys? I hope the recording was useful.

I'm of the male genre. Both my brother and I had dolls.

I had a fairly epic dolls house too. Perhaps that's why I'm gay but not him .

Dolls are dangerous. My liberal leftie parents clearly turned me gay by indulging me! Gracious I had a pink umbrella too...

But on a serious note, this has always baffled me, that parents actually care about gender-specific toys only being played with by certain genders.

I possibly have a different perspective, being a gay man, but I genuinely did prefer dolls and teddies as a child to guns - although things like lego and cars I loved, along with a whole myriad of other 'boys' toys. I'm sure my adult love of motorbikes came from my childhood fascination with them!

Toys are for loving and having fun with. No child should be made to feel guilty for choosing something of the 'wrong' gender.

Oh dear Silent, I think you caught the gay by being allowed to play with girls toys. What were your parents thinking...? (I think it's wonderful that they are so open minded)

I think this pic sums it up nicely.