To be mildly concerned at school putting girl's knickers on DS1 after a toilet accident?

[RachelWatts]

DS1 is 5.4 and just started Y1.

Despite being dry in the day for quite a while, he has recently started wetting himself - I suspect a UTI so will be booking him a GP appointment tomorrow.

After apparently having an accident at school, someone gave him a pair of girl's knickers. They are pale pink with a picture of a cute dalmation on.

Normally I wouldn't mind - they're only pants - but he had an after school sports club which meant he had to get changed in front of his classmates, some of whom would not hesitate to point it out and ridicule him.

Even worse - his own wet pants are nowhere to be found. DS1 thinks the TA might have put them in another child's bag by mistake. Mortified!

[Primafacie]

thereturn, knowing the difference between boy pants and girl pants is not sexist.

Saying that a girl in boys' pants is okay, but a boy in girls' pants is not, definitely is sexist. Saying gender identity is important for boys, but not for girls, is equally sexist, and frankly irrational.

Piss yourself laughing all you want.

For all those who wave the bullying flag, the fact is that in this instance, the OP's son was not bullied. So perhaps 5 year old boys don't care as much as you think?

[allisgood1]

Nah I wouldn't worry. Dd was sent home in boys underwear last year when she was in reception.

[YourMaNoBraBackOfMyCar]

Dd2 came home in stripy blue and white yfronts which she decided were "Captain Barnacle pants". I still have them somewhere. I'll make sure to send them back and donate my older ds' small pants.

[mooth]

I might send a little tutu in, just to see if they put it on a boy. He could be traumatised as a result though, so maybe I'd better not.

[GoblinLittleOwl]

Not worthy of comment.

[3lovelykids]

Schools don't receive a budget for spare clothes. They are donated by parents or quite often bought by the staff out of their own pocket. And no they are very often not returned either

[Towanda]

When school ran out of knickers and put dd2 in underpants until I could get there with spares (she was 4.4, it was her first and last accident and she was distraught by it) I went out and bought a pack of knickers and gave them to her reception teacher. I also put spares in her PE bag which were never used but good to have there. I now donate all outgrown pants as well as outgrown uniform. I also gave the last of our very small clothes to the nursery class. Most parents at school never bother to return spares so they do need restocking sometimes.

I don't think its worthy of a massive fuss but if your child is upset, perhaps donating some undies is a good idea to hopefully stop it happening again?

[BarbarianMum]

Ds2 had quite a few accidents in Reception and would sometimes choose girls pants (he likes pink). Then he grew out of the accidents and Father Christmas bought him some pink boxers and so we go on.

Honestly, don't sweat the small stuff.

[Lisalisa699]

Am I the only one questioning the hydine issue? My son came back in "communal" undies once ... It was the last time! May be I over reacted but I printed three studies about what nasties survive a washing machine treatment (it was very scary ! From ringworm to general harpies ) and sent it by email to teacher, head, governors and talked to all parents I know.

They changed policy on communal undies :) and asked parants to keep PE kit and spare pans socks for spares. Now my sister has same problem:(

[Lisalisa699]

Oh yeah and my son had a full set of spare cloths including pants socks and spare jacket. It does not cost anything. I just but a size bigger and leaver at school... Easy... Tought my son to say no to spare undies and to say "call my mummy call my mummy I am not allowed to wear someone's cloths or use their hairbrush"

[Hulababy]

This week an EYFS girl had an accident. There were no spare girl's pants in the box. She was given boy's pants to put on, though no one actually told her they were boy's pants.

What was the alternative? If there are no other spares and the child doesn't have a spare pair in their bag then we use what we have.

We start every year with a lot of spare pants, girls and boys. If we use them we do hope to get them back, but we don't always get them sent back in. We occasionally put out requests for people to send in spare pants for our spares box - but there are times when they run low I'm afraid.

Easiest way is to make sure that your own child always has a spare pair of pants in their bag at all times.

[Hullygully]

That is appalling. The humiliation of wearing girl's pants will never leave him. Girl's pants. Gendered underwear for five year olds.

He will probably be homerseckshal

[scarletforya]

I think yabvu. You're supposed to send spares! It's your responsibility, not the schools. It was good of the school to supply any changes of clothes for him, it's very ungrateful to split hairs about the colour!

[Rosieposy4]

Lisalisa, rather an overreaction to a non problem, wait until your DS is in secondary, forgets his pe kit and borrows from lost kit, that will give you nightmares for weeks think unwashed! worm returned muddy and sweaty! borrowed again worn! gets muddier and smellier! out back in lost kit! repeat ad nauseum for the rest of time.

[PesoPenguin]

Well DS was teased by a girl when he was in reception for wearing (his own) boys illuminous pink boxers and now he won't wear them anymore so it does happen.

However, if the school didn't have any other underwear, they didn't really have any choice since yku hadn't sent any spares in.

[GhoulWithADragonTattoo]

My DS once came home in a pair of spare pants from nursery after an accident. They were white and covered in strawberries. I knew they were girl's pants because they were some that I'd donated the year before when my DD outgrew them!

[gregcal]

Sometimes the school does run out of underwear and it is a case of just putting on what is available. Put spares in his bag. Please return the knickers that were given washed. The reason schools run out is because these garments are donated and half the time never returned and in some cases unwashed when they are.

[PiperIsTerrysChoclateOrange]

LOOK AT THE DATE.

[Sunnyshine]

I send both my children with spares yr1 and yr5. You just never know what might happen. Maybe just do that as I'm sure they just used whatever was available to them better that than nothing.

[Branleuse]

my ds has come home in girls knickers before after an accident. I didnt even think anythimg of it, nor did he, but it did remind me to put some spares in his bag.
No big deal.

[BarbarianMum]

When ds2 was in reception they had a spare pants bag in which was a pair of pink flowery pants. These were very popular with girls and boys alike. Pants are just pants in reception.

[ItsAllKickingOffPru]

You bumped a 5 month old thread to say modern washing machines aren't up to washing germs away properly, Lisalisa?

[PurpleDaisies]

Zombie thread alert! Lisa lisa was there some particular reason you decided to dredge this up from last September?!

[Hulababy]

Argh! Missed that is was an old thread - didn't read the dates!
Why LisaLisa?