To be mildly concerned at school putting girl's knickers on DS1 after a toilet accident?

[RachelWatts]

DS1 is 5.4 and just started Y1.

Despite being dry in the day for quite a while, he has recently started wetting himself - I suspect a UTI so will be booking him a GP appointment tomorrow.

After apparently having an accident at school, someone gave him a pair of girl's knickers. They are pale pink with a picture of a cute dalmation on.

Normally I wouldn't mind - they're only pants - but he had an after school sports club which meant he had to get changed in front of his classmates, some of whom would not hesitate to point it out and ridicule him.

Even worse - his own wet pants are nowhere to be found. DS1 thinks the TA might have put them in another child's bag by mistake. Mortified!

[saintlyjimjams]

Chill lisalisa - nothing bad is going to happen from someone wearing some washed undies. I take it you don't go in for buying selling used washable nappies then.

Yep there's usually a zombie alert - maybe it's just on desktop site (I can't see one but am on the phone)

[LonnyVonnyWilsonFrickett]

Bloody harpies. When oh when will schools realise they need bleach and a boil watch AND a zombie thread warning to keep our kids' pants safe?

[DecaffCoffeeAndRollupsPlease]

Gah! Zombie thread. I'm sure I remember there being alerts for zombie threads - was that a different website, only for older threads, before some kind of forum upgrade, I'm totally imagining it?

[Morloth]

Surely you would notice if there were harpies in their undies?

They are quite noisy?

[DecaffCoffeeAndRollupsPlease]

I suspect this is a case of misplaced anger - subconsciously you are upset at yourself for not having had the forethought to send in spare underwear for your DS after knowing that he's started to have accidents, so you are looking for someone to blame. There is no one to blame here though, it was an accident and an oversight on your part for not providing spares. I'm certain that no teacher/ta purposely put your child in the 'wrong' pants - what would they have to gain from this?

Going forward, just be sure to send in a couple of spares to be kept at school for DS, sharpie his name in them and include a bag or nappy bag for the wets to be discretely returned. No problem.

Don't forget to wash and return the pink ones from today so they still have some spares for emergencies.

[ChocLover2015]

I think it's a bit rich to know your kid has a wetting problem, not send him with any spare ones and then complain about the ones they give him!!

[ChocLover2015]

Why a parent would keep pants with the school name emblazoned on them is anybody's guess.
they don't.they bin them to save the hassle of washing drying and returning them

[kungfupannda]

"From ringworm to general harpies"

And you do not want general harpies in your pants. The big, flappy wings are most uncomfortable...

[Hulababy]

Argh! Missed that is was an old thread - didn't read the dates!
Why LisaLisa?

[PurpleDaisies]

Zombie thread alert! Lisa lisa was there some particular reason you decided to dredge this up from last September?!

[ItsAllKickingOffPru]

You bumped a 5 month old thread to say modern washing machines aren't up to washing germs away properly, Lisalisa?

[BarbarianMum]

When ds2 was in reception they had a spare pants bag in which was a pair of pink flowery pants. These were very popular with girls and boys alike. Pants are just pants in reception.

[Branleuse]

my ds has come home in girls knickers before after an accident. I didnt even think anythimg of it, nor did he, but it did remind me to put some spares in his bag.
No big deal.

[Sunnyshine]

I send both my children with spares yr1 and yr5. You just never know what might happen. Maybe just do that as I'm sure they just used whatever was available to them better that than nothing.

[PiperIsTerrysChoclateOrange]

LOOK AT THE DATE.

[gregcal]

Sometimes the school does run out of underwear and it is a case of just putting on what is available. Put spares in his bag. Please return the knickers that were given washed. The reason schools run out is because these garments are donated and half the time never returned and in some cases unwashed when they are.

[GhoulWithADragonTattoo]

My DS once came home in a pair of spare pants from nursery after an accident. They were white and covered in strawberries. I knew they were girl's pants because they were some that I'd donated the year before when my DD outgrew them!

[PesoPenguin]

Well DS was teased by a girl when he was in reception for wearing (his own) boys illuminous pink boxers and now he won't wear them anymore so it does happen.

However, if the school didn't have any other underwear, they didn't really have any choice since yku hadn't sent any spares in.

[Rosieposy4]

Lisalisa, rather an overreaction to a non problem, wait until your DS is in secondary, forgets his pe kit and borrows from lost kit, that will give you nightmares for weeks think unwashed! worm returned muddy and sweaty! borrowed again worn! gets muddier and smellier! out back in lost kit! repeat ad nauseum for the rest of time.

[scarletforya]

I think yabvu. You're supposed to send spares! It's your responsibility, not the schools. It was good of the school to supply any changes of clothes for him, it's very ungrateful to split hairs about the colour!

[Hullygully]

That is appalling. The humiliation of wearing girl's pants will never leave him. Girl's pants. Gendered underwear for five year olds.

He will probably be homerseckshal

[Hulababy]

This week an EYFS girl had an accident. There were no spare girl's pants in the box. She was given boy's pants to put on, though no one actually told her they were boy's pants.

What was the alternative? If there are no other spares and the child doesn't have a spare pair in their bag then we use what we have.

We start every year with a lot of spare pants, girls and boys. If we use them we do hope to get them back, but we don't always get them sent back in. We occasionally put out requests for people to send in spare pants for our spares box - but there are times when they run low I'm afraid.

Easiest way is to make sure that your own child always has a spare pair of pants in their bag at all times.

[Lisalisa699]

Oh yeah and my son had a full set of spare cloths including pants socks and spare jacket. It does not cost anything. I just but a size bigger and leaver at school... Easy... Tought my son to say no to spare undies and to say "call my mummy call my mummy I am not allowed to wear someone's cloths or use their hairbrush"

[Lisalisa699]

Am I the only one questioning the hydine issue? My son came back in "communal" undies once ... It was the last time! May be I over reacted but I printed three studies about what nasties survive a washing machine treatment (it was very scary ! From ringworm to general harpies ) and sent it by email to teacher, head, governors and talked to all parents I know.

They changed policy on communal undies :) and asked parants to keep PE kit and spare pans socks for spares. Now my sister has same problem:(