Who is bu about splitting the cost of a holiday?

[LilacCroc]

Not a typical AIBU, because I don't want to give away which 'side' i'm on, so that I get un-biased replies.

So the situation...a family of 4 (2 adults, 2 dc) are about to book a holiday. The cost is £500pp and because of free child places, 1 of their dc can go free, so total cost for them would be £1500.

Another couple, very close to the family (the dc's Godparents) will not have their own dc for that week as they are staying with their bio dad. So they put the feelers out about joining them on holiday, the family are more than happy and make them welcome. Fab.

So...now there are 6 people going, 4 adults and 2 dc, that means that overall they get 2 free childs places, so now both of the dc of the family can go free.

So the total cost of the holiday now, for all 6, is £2000.

The family think that each adult should now pay for themselves, £500 pp. The dc don't 'count' as they're both free.

The couple think this is unfair and that as the total cost for 6 people is £2000, the free childs places should be discounted and the total cost should be split 6 ways, with the couple paying £666 for 2 people and the family £1333 for 4 people (ish).

Who is right and who is bu?

How about £1200 to the family with the Dc's and £800 for the other couple if you divide £2000 by 5 (1/2 the adult price i.e £200 each for the 2 children) . The couple with the DC's are still saving £300 overall. Seems about fair, (how old are the DC's as a matter of interest?)

Essentially £500 is being saved by the couple joining the holiday so that saving should be shared out. Both sides have discount of £250.

I say the discount should be split between the families.

Well, if the children are to pay the same as the adults, I guess you should all draw straws to see who gets the bunk beds.. I mean..they paid the same, so it's only fair...

Cross posted with other posters

Th children are free. Stop spiteing them the free child place. It's not a discount that the couple could have benefited from as it's specifically for children.

So don't be petty and pay your £500 per adult.

BUT - are there details we don't know??? Will someone have to have a sofa bed or similar as a consequence of the extra couple?? That could change everything?

I'm wondering if the godparents are only joining the family in the hope of getting a cheaper holiday.

500 each way. Is this going to be problems throughout? With dinners, activities, sounds more of a headache.

Agree that £250 off per paying group seems fairest.

How will the holiday kitty work, splitting food costs etc?

It's a holiday cottage, but charged pp including flights. It's a 3 bedroom place, and 3 double bedrooms so no sleeping on pull out sofas or anything.

Sunbathe, you could equally wonder if the godparents were only asked to reduce the family's costs!

If somewhere had a 2 for 1 offer and jack was going to this place on his own regardless but then james said is it alright if I come along. I'm pretty sure everyone would say you split the cost, rather than well jack is being tight he was paying for his own ticket anyway.
The discount for chid 2 is only available thanks to the couple.
If they decide to go a week later they still pay the 1k but the family now pay 1.5.
Why cut off your nose to spite your face? Both couples can save £250

My BFF and recently went to Disneyland (we go once or twice a year as a 'girls only' trip) and this year she brought her daughter. We split the Disneyland package 2/3 (her) and 1/3 (me) as her daughter wasn't free. However, we did spend a night en route at a hotel where her daughter stayed free. I had no problem with splitting it as my share would have been the same if her DD wasn't with us. I guess that's what I look at; what would it cost ME if the child wasn't there. That's what I would expect to pay. Not whether or not the other person is financially 'benefiting' by my presence causing a child to be free.

But I think I agree that it would be a sour holiday under the circumstances. No matter what is decided, someone will resent it.

Ok so to come clean...i'm actually 'the family'. I'm intrigued as to what made a few posters think I was the Godparents though.

Bland - the godparents put the feelers out...

Of the children are free, they are free.

It should be £500 per adult

DH and I say £500 each adult. The children are free, so it is only the adults who are being charged for the holiday, hence the £500 each.

I think the child free couple are arseholes if they don't believe the family should benefit from the free child place.

However this shakes out, someone is going to be miffed which quite frankly will ruin the holiday. So the family should just go by themselves.

Don't go together end of story.

Financially the fairest way seems to split the discount so family pays £1250 and couple pay £750.

And I agree with pp if you cant all agree on this then don't go on holiday together. It will not end well.

So who are you family or couple?

Agree with £250 off each.

I don't think the holiday is necessarily doomed. Its confusing - there is no clear 'winner' here.

But good luck with restaurants, supermarket shops, taxis, etc...

I'm with the couple. The family were expecting to pay £1500 so are getting it cheaper because the couple are going. I think splitting the £500 is a good compromise. So, family - £1250 and couple - £750. Both getting a discount then.

We often go away with friends. We have 1 child; both friends we go away with have 2. For flights we pay per person. For accommodation we just split in half. For meals etc we normally split bill in half and then friends with additional child pays the tip.

In terms of OP I would split the bill between the two families, even if I was the couple without children.

TBH if there are already disagreements over costs it really doesn't bode well for the holiday itself.

Cross post I typed too slow

Lilac, that must make you extra reasonable at explaining the situation then