To not feel sympathetic my friend is a single parent?

[TippingtheScales]

The father of her child is a poor excuse of a human being.

They were never officially a couple and he would use her for sex when his girlfriend and mother of his 2 children threw him out (never ending cycle)

She looked through his phone and found out he was also father to another child. He's forced one partner to have an abortion.

My friend got pregnant on purpose and it seems like she did it so she would have a tie to him.

He's not interested in the slightest.

I love my friend and I support her as much as I can but when she moans about how he's not interested and he's a bad father I just have no sympathy because she knew exactly what he was like long before she got pregnant.

Aibu?

Well I don't think YANBU. She knew the score from the beginning yet she still went ahead with getting herself pregnant. She's made her bed as far as I'm concerned.

I can understand OP's frustration with a friend, I often feel frustration with married friends for the crap they tolerate 'just to be married' as though it were a superior state of being.

I am a single parent and I don't need sympathy. Im fine. I agree with what fedupbutfine says. I don't like to read anything that seems to support a given script that all single parents must be in need of sympathy. I actually feel very content.

"If the OPs friend was posting here that she planned to get pg without the knowledge/consent of the father, she would have her arse handed to her on a plate on the grounds that children deserve to be loved and wanted by both parents and that it is wrong to betray trust within a relationship ( assuming she had agreed to be responsible for contraception).

If she then went on to post that said man was a complete waster and a shit parent to the kids he already had, she would be told in no uncertain terms to not do it - that she was beibg irresponsible and selfish."

Ha, this is so true. Probably most of the folk here saying the Op is BU say exactly as stated above. MNetters can be rather hypocritical at times (full of shite).

Yanbu