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My friend kept dds money and used Tesco vouchers

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jammyjamjam · 03/09/2014 12:24

Hi, ds had inservice yesterday and a friend (a mum from school) offered to take her, her own dd and 2 others to an amusement park, entry fee was 25 pounds. When ds got back in the afternoon, we chatted about the day and it turns out the mum paid for my dd and the 2 other children with Tesco vouchers, ie, she had redeemed her Tesco points to pay for the 4 dcs and then kept 75 pounds form my dd and the 2 other dc. Surely she could have told us that this place took in Tesco vouchers and I could have used my own points and saved the money? I'm grateful that she took dd but surely she should have been upfront about her intention of using vouchers....AIBU?

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Original poster
jammyjamjam · 04/09/2014 10:09

minion....charging for childcare? Giving my dd her vouchers for free? None of this is the issue here, maybe read the thread

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DamnBamboo · 04/09/2014 10:10

Nor did she pass on some of the saving and maybe suggest that instead of 25 pounds we give her 20 as she was using her vouchers

Good god OP. So now you want her to subsidise you too?

Entrance to the park was £25. You paid £25. If you didn't have the foresight to check and see if you could save money, that is your problem.

And instead of being an internet warrior about and tutting and shaking your head saying ' I wouldn't do it' why don't you call on her on it, if it's such a terrible thing to do.

ABlandAndDeadlyCourtesy · 04/09/2014 10:11

Theatre tokens are like book tokens - you buy a £10!theatre token, you get £10 to spend on theatre tickets.

OP, I think she should have mentioned it but I suspect if you'd said, "well, shall I give you £20 then?" she would have said she 'd keep her points for another visit.

SirChenjin · 04/09/2014 10:13

Internet warrior?!

Nah, friend shouldn't have been so sly and grabby, and should have told her 3 friends what she was planning to do with their money - or used her vouchers herself and paid for the other kids tickets with the cash she had been given for that purpose.

queensansastark · 04/09/2014 10:15

How is she profiting from this when she could gave spent the vouchers on other things for herself. I don't know the ins and outs of tescos vouchers btw.

Why is it that when physical c@$h exchange hands it automatically makes it crass, crude and unclassy. OP just seems petty and ungrateful sorry.

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jammyjamjam · 04/09/2014 10:16

DamnBamboo ...no internet warriors here. I felt my friend had not done the right thing and I came on here to ask the opinion of others. I get the impression that most posts agree with how I'm feeling and see that what my friend did was wrong. Why don't I call her on it? Because I'm not going to have a very uncomfortable conversation over 25 pounds, it's just not worth it. But do I view my friend slightly differently now? Yes I do

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DamnBamboo · 04/09/2014 10:18

Can you please tell us why you didn't check the use of the vouchers first? You've been asked repeatedly by me and others, and have ignored it.
And why should she have only charged you £20 instead of £25 - thus subsidising you with her vouchers.

GhoulWithADragonTattoo · 04/09/2014 10:19

Because the cash value is only 6.25. The amount you'd get in store. You only get more if you spend them on specific activities as agreed by Tesco and the supplier. She is swapping cash for points without passing on any benefit to her friends. Plus OP could have done the same deal if her friend had mentioned it rather than paying full whack. Piss poor.

DamnBamboo · 04/09/2014 10:19

I would say she's probably better off without a friend like to you to be honest!

SirChenjin · 04/09/2014 10:21

It's the fact that she didn't tell her friends and that she benefited from them financially. She didn't have to spend £25 to get the cost of the entry fee, so she wasn't swapping like for like. She was sly, she kept quiet about what she'd done, and made a few quid out of her friends. Sneaky in the extreme.

DamnBamboo · 04/09/2014 10:21

It doesn't matter what the cash value is.
The cash value is the other woman's to boost and use as she sees fit!

She shouldn't have to pass on her own cash value (or her own boosted value) to someone else.

Entrance in =£25. Entrance paid = £25.

Notso · 04/09/2014 10:23

We used £50.00 worth of points to pay for 4 of our DC friends to get in to a Theme Park.
I've just checked online if we had taken up the parents offer of the on the door price they would have given us between them £184.80.
How would it be fair for us to take that much cash when it only cost us £50.

DamnBamboo · 04/09/2014 10:23

I can't believe how worked up people are getting over twenty five flamin' quid.

Original poster
jammyjamjam · 04/09/2014 10:24

Thanks Ghoul :)
Damn... I've never been to this place before and didn't know you could use tesco vouchers for it. It was only when dd mentioned it after she'd come back that I realised I could have used my points for an entrance ticket. My friend obviously knew as she exchanged her points

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SirChenjin · 04/09/2014 10:24

In which case, she should have used her own vouchers for the entrance for her own kids and used the cash she'd been given to pay the £25 entry fee.

No cash profit whatsoever should have been made.

GhoulWithADragonTattoo · 04/09/2014 10:24

Of course it matters cash is more valuable than points. Cash can be used anytime, anyplace, anywhere! Points are much more limited in their use and therefore much less valuable. If people can't get their head round that then maybe they won't understand why the friend is wrong but it is a fact.

DamnBamboo · 04/09/2014 10:25

Ok, so you didn't check is what you're saying and feel bitter that you could have saved some money! How does anybody know what Tesco vouchers can be used for if they don't check? I don't even know what these vouchers are. How do they work

Well at least you know now to check in future.

mamalino · 04/09/2014 10:26

But what does your other friend think, the one that saw her do it?

whatever5 · 04/09/2014 10:26

Friends help each other out (if/when it suits)

OPs friend did help her out though as she took her child out for the day. In return, OP is complaining that her friend benefited from the situation by effectively swapped her tescos days out vouchers for cash even though it didn't effect her in any way.

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jammyjamjam · 04/09/2014 10:27

damn....not worked up at all. But others are just agreeing with me that it was wrong to take my 25 pounds and make a sneaky profit. It's not about the money, it's about being sly and making a profit from your friends

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LatteLoverLovesLattes · 04/09/2014 10:28

I don't see the problem Confused and yes, I have read the thread.

She used them to pay the entrance for your DD (& the others) and she kept your cash. It wasn't a two for one deal or anything. She could have used them to take her DD another day or do something else, they weren't expiring. All she has done is swap them your cash for her vouchers to enable her to use the cash more flexibly than she can the vouchers.

If she had paid the £25 to the theme park, kept her vouchers in her purse then used them to buy her children dinner later on (at the 4:1 places) would that have pissed you off as well?

SirChenjin · 04/09/2014 10:29

Yes, she took her child out - presumably of her own volition. That doesn't give her the right to make a cash profit from it on the sly.

LatteLoverLovesLattes · 04/09/2014 10:30

It's not making a profit though.

I would feel differently if it was a 2 for 1, but she could have used the vouchers for something else so it makes no difference what she used them for.

Lweji · 04/09/2014 10:30

But you'd be making a profit (benefiting) from her hard earned points if she had passed on the discount to you.
Why should she?

Have you shared any discounts from your points with anyone outside the family?

SirChenjin · 04/09/2014 10:31

Because the friend didn't spend £25 in cash cash to get £25 worth of vouchers to then exchange them for £25 worth of an entry ticket.