AIBU to want to get engaged?!?

[Booboosmummy22]

My dp & I have been together nearly 5 years (something he pointed out today) and whilst I have no desire to get married any time soon, possibly never, I would love to get engaged. (I sort of see that as basically married just don't want all the fuss of a big day & none of the legal complications if you break up)

we're 22 & 23 have an ASD ds (3) and have definitely had a full 5 years of richer/ poorer, better/ worse, sickness & health and have managed to stick together and work through any difficulties we've had. Must point out we are very happy and have been stable our whole relationship (just outside situations that have been difficult)

So I put the suggestion forward tonight subtlety and he freaked out saying its way to much of a commitment and the thought of it scares him even though he knows I wouldn't be pushing for a wedding. I fully trust him & know we're both in this for the long run but I just want something a bit more official (albeit socially rather than legally) Aibu?

[redshifter]

I have been married without ever being engaged.

How is this possible?

Surely the moment you agree to marry you are engaged.

[LittlePeaPod]

Red. I assumed they weren't engaged, went on holiday or something and impromptuly got married there and then.

[LittleBearPad]

Maybe a vicar leaped out

[LittlePeaPod]

LittleBear ha ha ha ha ha . That image has just cracked me up.

[redshifter]

Oh! I see. Never thought of that.

But I suppose technically you would still be engaged right before thr point you become actually married even if it is just the 5 minute ceremony or whatever.

[Sallyingforth]

That reminded me of The Pirates of Penzance !

We shall quickly be parsonified,
Conjugally matrimonified,
By a doctor of divinity,
Who resides in this vicinity.