To love this buggy!

[curiousgeorgie]

DH got a delivery this morning....

My DD2 is a nightmare. She screams and cries if I put her in the pram, she's impossible to pacify in a restaurant or shopping etc...

So DH says this is the solution.

She's been quiet for 15 minutes!!!!

Yanbu unless your dd is watching it for 12 hours a day! Everything in moderation.

My dcs and especially ds2 (2) watch a fair amount of tv/iPad etc. I also read to them, draw with them, take them for walks etc but sometimes I need them to be sitting down and occupied or in the case of ds2 to sit in his car seat without screaming and making himself vomit after five mins (he hates the car).
If the iPad in the pram hood gives you a bit of peace and quiet and time to have a cup of tea or do something you need to without a baby making your arms ache OP then it is fine.

And more importantly, aww what a cutie. I can't see a problem, I'm sure she isn't going to spend the whole holiday sat in a buggy watching peppa pig

OP, people have made comments about you being unreasonable because you never mentioned the fact it was just for a holiday.

The fact that your daughter had already been in it for 20 minutes when it was barely out of the box is what most people are commenting on.

It did sound like it was for every day use- only you know whether the holiday thing is true or not?

It is absolutely true, I've written on here many times in reference to our holiday coming up, and I believe I've even posted about looking for a small pram for it and asked about how a bugaboo bee folds. Why would I lie? That's just a bizarre thing to say

She was in it because I was testing it out because it just arrived... She was in it for 20 minutes as a test, then she played, then she had some food, now she's having a nap. She's not going to spend her life in it... The iPad is great but it's not magic, it's not got an endless amount of appeal to her.

You're quite rude really aren't you?

She's gorgeous, op!

And i don't understand the commotion. Nothing else works. She's happy.

Thanks

AIBU?
lots of people reply yes; OP calls them rude.
I don't think you've quite got the gist of this!

I'm not being rude- you asked if you were BU to love the pram and you never mentioned a holiday in your OP so it appeared you'd bought it for general use.

I'm also not suggesting that you aren't going on holiday - just pointing out you only brought up the fact the buggy was only for your holidays when the judgey pants came out and only you know if you really have bought it just for your holiday or intend to use it much more.

Adsy - I called one person rude. For appearing to call me a liar about it being for holiday.

I know how it works perfectly well.

That makes me really sad.

Why does it make you sad? After a long day at Disneyland, she can sit in her buggy and watch a cartoon while we have dinner. There's nothing sad about that.

We're taking her on an amazing holiday, aimed totally at making her and DD1 happy... We deserve to be able to eat dinner

Screen time under 2 damages children's brains. There is lots of research. Yabu.

Well DD1 used to play with the iPad in restaurants all the time, and she is amazing and incredibly bright and forward for her age. So, with respect, I disagree.

Er- I think you'll find you are far more rude for calling me a liar OP, when it was pretty bloody obvious what I meant.

I was never doubting you are going on holiday- only that you hadn't really just bought the buggy for your holidays.

Unless you only go shopping and to restaurants on holiday it was pretty clear from your first post that this was the 'solution' as your DH put it, to your daughter not wanting to go in the pram.

My first sentence made no sense at all- too much screen time

Interesting logic OP. My brothers girlfriend smoked 30 cigarettes a day throughout being pregnant with my nephew. He is perfectly healthy. Does that mean smoking whilst pregnant is safe?

In everyday life I can live with it because I limit the amount of time I'm out with her in the buggy. In Florida I won't be able to do that, there will be 14 long theme park days and we've got lots of restaurants booked. He did buy it for that purpose. And you did call me a liar. Which was incredibly rude, actually.

Your initial post never mentioned holidays at all. And with respect I'm not going to search through your other posts to see if you have previously mentioned holidays.

She is your kid so use it if you want but don't be surprised that people don't agree with it as all evidence suggests it's not good for them. Despite how amazing bright your child may be.

iPad is obviously a tool you use to assist in your parenting .

Flip, all research can be argued with.

I've never met a child who has been brain damaged through watching tv.

It's obviously had a terrible effect on me because I watched tv absolutely loads as a young child and I was accepted into Oxford.

My dd who is now about to start secondary school had the tv on in the background all day everyday because that's how we like to live and she has level 6s in every subject and is lively and sociable.

Of course like most families watching tv is part of our lifestyle. We go out lots and do other things too.

All in moderation!

If your holiday is going to be such hard work I think I would have left it another year until it might be easier.

Flip, no as that is proven to be harmful. (Obviously )

I think the iPad is amazing for children. It definitely taught my daughter the alphabet, animal sounds and really helped her motor skills. It's full of educational apps. I'm not saying she doesn't also watch crap on it, she does, but I disagree completely that it damages brains. I'd go so far as to say that's bullshit. I'm sure it's some researchers opinion, but finding a counter opinion would be equally easy.

Nicky - it's not going to be hard work, it's going to be amazing, I can't wait

Another OP who doesn't want to hear that some people might think they are BU. I'm not defending rude comments but really, this is AIBU and some people may not agree with you (politely, of course).

I had a difficult baby. Really difficult, and I certainly did 'martyr' myself to her for the first two years almost. Stuck to my guns about having no screen time (and other parenting choices I'm not keen on) and despite those couple of years being a slog, I am glad I did it. Using something like this would have made me very unhappy even if it had meant a meal out. Sorry.

So I do know what it is like to have a very high needs child. I now have DD2 who at 10 weeks is already seeming to be the 'normal' baby so many of my peers talked about and enjoyed when DD1 was little. Not coming from somewhere inexperienced with either 'type' in the slightest and I still don't like this at all.

We don't have to agree with you, OP. If this suits you, fine, but I am a bit confused as to why you seem so put out by the dissenting opinions of which there are many AIBU isn't the place for asspats.