To hate, loathe and detest when mothers

[Norklessnora]

Call themselves a 'full time mum'. You are either a stay at home mum, or a working mum. All are full time parents and all work bloody hard. Hate it.

Christ - is it not possible to have a lighthearted thread on here? I don't actually get irate/angry about it. Unclench.

OwlCapone I take my hat off to SAHMs. I couldn't do it. You know as well as I do that I mean mothers who go out to work, away from their DC.

You´re not being unreasonable. I´ve never been irritated by it myself, but I see your point.

YOU'RE telling people to unclench when you're getting upset about the words "full time mum?"

It's not the phrase as much as the incredible smugness of some of the women who say it!!

I don't like being called a Stay At Home Mum. That makes it sound like I am lazy and can't be arsed to do anything. I hate that term.

I am a person who has made the decision to have children and actually stay at home to bring them up in the best way possible.

There is a current thread where this phrase has been used.

Yabu to be quite so bothered.

Worra I want to be one of those mums

I work in child care :)

Stupid thread.

Lighthearted my arse.

You know as well as I do that I mean mothers who go out to work, away from their DC.

And you should know as well as I do that "full time mother" simply refers to someone who is with their children all day rather than being at work.

You appear to have missed the point.

It's a phrase that doesn't cause me to eye roll, does it matter really?

Sigh.

I am not upset. Merely trying to have a joke about something that is a very minor irritant. Never mind.

Oh I've not come across any smugness.

I generally just meet people who are content, sometimes striving, sometimes struggling, in the area in which they are working.

Smugness in what sense? Why would they be smug?

I prefer full-time mum to SAHM, which sounds like a mother with agoraphobia.
I work and am not at all offended by full-time mum, as someone else is parenting my child when I am not there and fulfilling the 'mum' role. I am fortunate that the 'someone else' is my partner.

Norkless, it didn't sound like a joke.

It sounded like you were merely having a spiteful pop at sahms.

Oh, a joke?

Ha haa ha h a pfft

No it doesn't matter at all really, but then neither does mindless gossip about celebrities/any other inane chatter that goes on in a forum.

It doesn't bother me - in a society where childrearing is often undervalued, using a term which explains your role simply with a phrase which is generally understood seems sensible. It isn't intended to offend.

How on earth was I having a pop at stay at home mothers? Have I walked into a parallel universe where everyone is sat at their keyboard waiting to take offence?

Oh wait...

OK.

You need to work at conveying a light and humorous tone via the written word. Cos your OP sounded seriously angry. Or you could just do the old MN staple of (lighthearted) which I actually do hate, loathe and detest!

(Lighthearted!)

Silly thing to be bothered about.

When you are at work you aren't mothering at the same time, are you? Someone else is fulfilling that role. Of course you are still "a mother", but you aren't physically carrying out the work.

"Christ - is it not possible to have a lighthearted thread on here? I don't actually get irate/angry about it."

Of course it's possible. But it's highly unlikely to happen on the regular contentious subjects.

I haven't posted on here often, can you tell!!! Was very much meant as being lighthearted. Most certainly not a pop at anyone. Not my style. I have been called a selfish cunt for working, I have no wish to make any other parent feel bad for their choice.

Norkie, you use the words "hate", "loathe" and "detest" in your thread title. You also, unforgivably imo, restricted those feelings towards mothers only, not parents.

You need to work on signalling the lightness of your true intentions a bit better, I think.

Loathe and detest?

Why do you feel like that?