Was I being a cow or not?????

[Fairyfellowsmasterstroke]

I was in town earlier when I popped to the loo in Debenhams.

When I walked in a young chav mum was sanding near the sink area talking on her phone (her side of the conversation featured such immortal lines as " yeah but, fucking bitch, I'll have her, cunt etc etc). I kid you not a docker would have blushed!!!

Her DC looked about 2 and was sat quietly in the pushchair.

Anyhow I went to the loo (whilst listening to every word and profanity that young mum was uttering - including the "c" word being used with astounding regularity).

After weeing visiting the toilet I shimmed past aforesaid young mum (who was now perched on a sink with one foot resting on the pushchair) to wash my hands. I was about to dry them in the "Blade air dryer" when she stopped her phone conversation and asked me to wait because her DC didn't like the noise.

Fair enough I thought, expecting young mum to vacate the toilet. But no she carried on her phone call berating some poor lad who was fucking with her 'ead, clearly causing her some degree of upset.

I waited a moment and then asked her if she was going so that I could dry my hands, she told me to "wait". I did wait for a few moments (out of respect to Dc not her) but she remained perched on the sink with the phone attached to her ear. I finally looked pointedly at her, she half turned away from me and carried on the phone call. At this point I shoved my hands in the dryer causing poor DC to scream - chav mum snatched up the pushchair and stormed out of the toilets calling me a cow.

I stand by my actions but am expecting a MN flaming!!!

Wow. I'm actually working-class, with no aspirations to anything.

My 'chav roots' - they'd be what exactly?

And you can address me directly - I can actually read and write, despite (apparently) having chav roots.

PS - according to some on here, it's chavvy to have a number in your username. Just saying

I would have said, "Let me get the door for you so you can get your child away from the drier then... here you go!"

You weren't being unreasonable. Why do so many people just LOVE to control others and make them bend to their will, over such minor stuff. She needs a lesson in manners.

the future looks orange Tam

Ooh, ooh, I know!

I went blonde last week (so chavvy, I know) - are my 'chav roots' showing already?

I think she is saying you is a guttersnipe.

Is it though, Harold. I is well vexed now.

I don't know, I can't see your hair as that fake Burberry baseball cap is in the way.

Anyway has the OP found some volunteering work yet?.

Maybe she could set herself up as a human towel and follow this poor gel about proffering her services to other toilet users so the poor thing can finish her conversations in bogs without the inconvenience of those nasty driers.

OP I think you were very entitled thinking that you had the right to use the hand dryers

Only in MN would a woman be in the wrong for using services/appli

I'll have you know all my Burberry is completely real - the bloke I bought it from down the pub told me so!

Services/appliances available because another mum was too stupid to go somewhere to chat where her Ds wouldn't w afraid.

If he was scared of water you wouldn't take him to a swimming pool then tell people off for jumping in

Does anyone actually wear Burberry any more?

No, because I have it all in my wardrobe!

Burberry is chic again - but only because the company spent a fortune on marketing/PR to de-chav its image

Was Burberry ever chic, before Daniella Westbrook had a bath in it? I've always thought it was awful.

This young woman sounds as if she was having a hard time; the OP said it sounded as if the call was giving her a degree of upset. For all we know, she could have discovered she had no money to buy essential items or maybe someone she had discovered that someone she loved and trusted had betrayed her.

I certainly wouldn't consider volunteering on the back of this incident but I would have refrained from adding to what was obviously shaping up to be a bad day for the young woman. A smile, or even the offer of keeping an eye on the little one outside the loo while she finished her conversation, might have worked wonders.

I hesitate to say that I might have offered to buy her a cup of tea and given her the chance to chat about what ailed her, as no doubt hilariously sarcastic remarks will come my way from other posters.

Nothing is lost by kindness: at the very least kindness towards the little one could have been displayed and yes, hands could have been dried on a tissue.

Chopinbabe

Are you for real?

However bad this woman's day was there is no excuse for her rudeness and the OP would have come across as an interfering, patronising loon bag if she'd done all the things you suggest.

Offering to mind her child whilst she carried on dropping the c bomb in the loos?

What?

What?

Sometimes there is an excuse to be found but it is a sorry situation if offering to help someone in distress can now be viewed as being a, 'patronising loon.'

Yes, sitting with a child in a public loo on one's own, reduced to swearing into a mobile phone, is an indication of being in distress.

I accept she may have sworn at the OP but she wouldn't have melted and she could console herself with the thought that she had tried to the Right Thing.

I think we have all had bad days but there is no excuse for such language in public or in front of children.

Poor child, can you imagine his/hers language as they copy everything they hear.

YANBU.

People that take calls in the bathroom are going to a special hell.

I would have done it, she knew her toddler didn't like the dryer, so it was her responsibility to get him out to avoid any upset. She can't reasonably expect someone to wait on her stupid phone call.

chopinbabe - are you for real!!!!!!

And please tell me where I've said I'm considering volunteering!!!!

Words fail me.

This is MN gold.

Yes, sitting with a child in a public loo on one's own, reduced to swearing into a mobile phone, is an indication of being in distress.

Or of possibly being a foul-mouthed, nasty piece of work.

We weren't there, so taking it all at face value, I'm thinking it's the latter.