Was I being a cow or not?????

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I was in town earlier when I popped to the loo in Debenhams.

When I walked in a young chav mum was sanding near the sink area talking on her phone (her side of the conversation featured such immortal lines as " yeah but, fucking bitch, I'll have her, cunt etc etc). I kid you not a docker would have blushed!!!

Her DC looked about 2 and was sat quietly in the pushchair.

Anyhow I went to the loo (whilst listening to every word and profanity that young mum was uttering - including the "c" word being used with astounding regularity).

After weeing visiting the toilet I shimmed past aforesaid young mum (who was now perched on a sink with one foot resting on the pushchair) to wash my hands. I was about to dry them in the "Blade air dryer" when she stopped her phone conversation and asked me to wait because her DC didn't like the noise.

Fair enough I thought, expecting young mum to vacate the toilet. But no she carried on her phone call berating some poor lad who was fucking with her 'ead, clearly causing her some degree of upset.

I waited a moment and then asked her if she was going so that I could dry my hands, she told me to "wait". I did wait for a few moments (out of respect to Dc not her) but she remained perched on the sink with the phone attached to her ear. I finally looked pointedly at her, she half turned away from me and carried on the phone call. At this point I shoved my hands in the dryer causing poor DC to scream - chav mum snatched up the pushchair and stormed out of the toilets calling me a cow.

I stand by my actions but am expecting a MN flaming!!!

Would have just said no I can't wait this is a bathroom and I am going to dry my hands before doing just that. Cheek of her.

Yadnbu dont know how anyone can say anything other than yanbu she was but i imagine from her attitude she wasnt concerned abiut the child more about her not being able to hear on her phone clearly!

I just had visions of OP looking pointedly at the Mum while she shoved her hands in the dryer!

Actually WW that's almost what I did but my look was more of an apology rather that one that said:-
"I'm being passive aggressive and I clearly recognise that I should leave my salaried employment and go and do voluntary work with disadvantaged families!!!" (as per heraldgerald).

Oh and what is wrong with calling a spade a spade - she does sound distinctly chav.

You were not a cow. She was completely unreasonable. Forget it!

OP
I am cackling away here!

Obviously you'd rather just mock people using derogatory language on the internet then op

Sorry pictish - haven't got time to reply to you, too busy googling voluntary services in my neighbourhood!!!!

"Couldn't you just have dried them on a tissue or your coat etc"

Hahahaha!

Mumsnet is bonkers

Failing to understand why on earth the OP should not become a volunteer because she was inconvenienced in the loo?? Have I missed something? Am prepared to accept I'm being dense.

That should be 'should become a volunteer'.

Sally - I have no intention of becoming a volunteer for disadvantaged families. It appears to be a career change suggested for me!!!!

Oh god I'm laughing even more now at the OP considering working for disadvantaged families

Oh and what is wrong with calling a spade a spade - she does sound distinctly chav.

Chav is an extremely offensive word - I've been likened to a chav on here (because I let my children wear character clothing, I kid you not!) and it gets bandied around to basically describe someone who you see as socially beneath you.

I think the woman in question sounds awful, but using the word chav is lazy labeling. The behaviour could have been described without using the word - and the fact that it was crossed out shows that the OP knows full well how offensive it actually is.

I don't let my DD (12) use the word so I object to the use of it by adults too.

Chav is not an extremely offensive word - to many it's aspirational!!!

The Oxford Dictionary defines "chav" as an informal British derogatory, meaning a young lower-class person who displays brash and loutish behaviour and wears real or imitation designer clothes.

OMG @ the volunteering suggestion!!

noise from a hand dryer is the least of that poor kid's problems.

Woman sounds horrible.

As my DS1 once said, "If she doesn't like being called a chav why does she dress like one?"

old fashioned but how about uncouth young lady, my dad used to bandy that word around when I was young

sorry if it is mispelt.

OP, I would honestly suggest you have a look at the many, many, many threads on here discussing the word chav and its connotations. Or maybe read the book 'Chavs - the demonization of the working classes' by Owen Jones.

My arse is it aspirational. When you've been called a chav over a really ridiculous thing because someone wants to look down their nose at you or one of your choices (be it your child's name, their clothing, the type of greeting cards you send) then you'll get what I'm talking about.

It's a horrible word, used to insult and demean - but you already know that or why did you cross it out in your first post?

I will always, always point out to someone that it is unacceptable to call someone a chav.

Sunna - do share how a chav dresses then? Because apparently my son dresses like a chav for wearing a fucking Mickey Mouse t-shirt.

The potty mouth mother sounds like my brother's ex.

Op I personally would have called her out about her foul language as I can't stand that sort of language around kids.

If her child doesn't like the driers then don't hang around the loo's.