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AIBU?

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To not understand why you'd get your baby's ears pierced?

215 replies

Slh122 · 11/08/2014 12:26

On an fb group I'm on there's a post about someone wanting to get her 4 month old's ears pierced. Apparently me asking why she would want to put her baby through pain and at risk of infection makes a 'judgemental bitch'.
AIBU to really not understand piercing a baby's ears?

OP posts:

DogCalledRudis · 12/08/2014 10:20

People circumcise baby boys for no medical reason, just because "its their culture". Say something against, and you'll be called an ignorant bigot.

Ear piercing if done correctly is not painful or dangerous.

M27J5M · 12/08/2014 10:27

I'm not saying I agree with this lol just a little fact.........my friend used to live in Spain and the part where she lived they pierced baby girls ears as soon as they were born! She always said she didn't agree with it but it's just so widely accepted there! She's glad she moved back home before she fell preg with her little girl but I'm pretty sure you'd have been able to opt out of it if you wished

SirChenjin · 12/08/2014 10:28

It is painful - watch/speak to anyone of any age get it done, and you'll see that. Whether or not it's dangerous depends on hygiene, making sure the earrings don't get caught and so on - but generally speaking, no, it's not going to cause a loss of life or severe injury

Is that enough of a reason to say it's OK for parents to pierce their babies and childrens' ears without their permission, simply because the adults like the look of it though?

Catsize · 12/08/2014 10:30

I don't agree with circumcision either.

MorphineDreams · 12/08/2014 10:30

Circumcision is vile too and should be banned.

It doesn't hurt? Please tell me how that's true. What a load if rubbish. And this 'done properly' business. Being done with a gun isn't a piercing being done properly. And no matter if it's done with a needle, in the most sterile of conditions the risks are still there. It getting infecting, the body having a reaction, it getting ripped out whilst playing.

MorphineDreams · 12/08/2014 10:31

The funny thing is if you got a different part of the ear pierced people wouldn't find it acceptable. Because they haven't been condition into thinking so.

DogCalledRudis · 12/08/2014 10:41

I didn't get my ears pierced until age 12 because i was so scared it would hurt. Took a lot of persuasions from peers and a beauticians that is does not hurt. It really did not. The only people who said that earrings hurt are from older generation, who did it themselves OR who had them in different parts of the ear.

CalamityKate1 · 12/08/2014 10:46

YANBU. It's a horrible thing to do and of more people were more vocal about it then maybe fewer parents would do it.

If it were a belly button piercing would so many people say "Each to their own" etc?

SirChenjin · 12/08/2014 10:47

The only people who said that earrings hurt are from older generation, who did it themselves OR who had them in different parts of the ear

Utter rubbish.

MorphineDreams · 12/08/2014 10:47

Well you must have numb ears then because I've had mine done a few times and I'm mid twenties so hardly old, and it's hurt, the sort of hurt that would hurt a baby much more!

I've had over 20 piercings and anyone who says they don't hurt is frankly deluded. It's not unbearable pain but it's there.

Catsize · 12/08/2014 10:50

Had mine done at 21. Hurt and then hurt for a few weeks in a dull ache sort of way. but struggling to remember back that far tbh Swelling was there for ages and ages.

ScrambledEggAndToast · 12/08/2014 10:52

Didn't you know OP that if you give an opinion that contradicts what the asker wants to hear then you are automatically a judgemental bitch.

Number one rule of FB

Btw, I completely agree, I would never pierce a baby's ears. Very painful and chavvy.

CalamityKate1 · 12/08/2014 11:03

I had mine done at 17 and it hurt so much I almost walked out after the first ear.

I think anyone who says it doesn't hurt needs to see a GP. A sharp implement going through skin and flesh is always going to hurt. That's what nerve endings are FOR.

fluffyraggies · 12/08/2014 11:06

I had mine done when i was 15 and it really hurt! It was done by my then GP with a gun. She did the holes way too close to the edge of my earlobe and for the next 20 years i wore only the lightest studs or hoops as anything else would have risked a tear.

A few years ago i plucked up the courage to have them re-done a bit further in. This time in a chemist. It bloody hurt again and one got infected for the first few weeks.

My 3 older DDs were allowed to have their ears done at 13. By then they were old enough to do their own hygiene routine, take them in and out for PE/swimming at school (and not loose them) and understand that it would hurt allot to get them done and hurt even more if the ear got ripped or infected - so to take care.

BarbarianMum · 12/08/2014 12:13

I know I'm adding fue to the fire and it's not what you want to hear but I had mine done at a day old and, according to my sister who got to 'help' (she held the potato-old country ways) I didn't even wake up.

Maybe she's lying and I screamed the place down, I don't know, can't remember and have obviously internalised the trauma .

knickernicker · 12/08/2014 13:01

I have never ever heard of a teenager or woman lamenting the trauma and abuse of having their rats pierced.
It really isn't a problem. The govt hadn't set up a working party to tackle the problem yet.

knickernicker · 12/08/2014 13:01

Rats ha ha or ears

SirChenjin · 12/08/2014 13:13

The govt has only just recognised emotional abuse in law...don't rely on any govt for common sense

MorphineDreams · 12/08/2014 13:18

There's no complaints because they don't remember any pain. I suspect if they remember the pain, being upset and scared then there would be complaints.

poorbuthappy · 12/08/2014 13:22

I only read down to someone comparing vaccinations to piercing ears.
That's it, we have to invoke some sort of test before we can let people post on here.

MorphineDreams · 12/08/2014 13:22

ColdTeaAgain · 12/08/2014 19:39

It does hurt, like a very hard pinch and from what I remember it throbs for quite some time afterwards too. Why do that on purpose to a baby when there is no medical need?

Yes calling it child abuse does sound dramatic but abuse is a very broad scale and personally I believe that inflicting any form of unnecessary pain on a child too young to understand is a form of abuse albeit on the very mild end of the scale. Making reference to extreme cases/forms of child abuse in attempt to mock my opinion makes no difference to me.

grannymcphee · 13/08/2014 00:41

Frankly, I think it is cruel to have children's ears pierced. Children are beautiful in there own right and do not need any adornment!

PhaedraIsMyName · 13/08/2014 01:15

She is now 5 and won't leave the house without her earrings in

I find that quite a depressing statement.

PhaedraIsMyName · 13/08/2014 01:18

Earrings on small children look awful. To be honest I'm not keen on earrings on any child younger than 15/16.

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