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To not understand why you'd get your baby's ears pierced?

215 replies

Slh122 · 11/08/2014 12:26

On an fb group I'm on there's a post about someone wanting to get her 4 month old's ears pierced. Apparently me asking why she would want to put her baby through pain and at risk of infection makes a 'judgemental bitch'.
AIBU to really not understand piercing a baby's ears?

OP posts:
MorphineDreams · 11/08/2014 23:10

What would you call inflicting unnecessary pain and scarring then theQuibbler

itsazoohere · 11/08/2014 23:10

ICanSee, I repeat, so should I let my 4yr old dd get her nose pierced?

ICanSeeTheSun · 11/08/2014 23:13

no because in the long run it could mean that a career she may want maybe spoiled.

SirChenjin · 11/08/2014 23:16

Another decision made for the child by the adult?

And exactly what career would a tiny hole in the side of her nose spoil for her? Given that tattoos are now mainstream, for example...oh, there's a thought. If she wanted a tattoo on holiday at aged 4 would you let her? Just a small one, somewhere no-one would see it, for example?

Saracarbonera · 11/08/2014 23:16

At the end of the day, most adult women have pierced ears weather they got it done at 6 weeks or 16 years. It's much more accepted than nose piercing so based on that I would say no.

Saracarbonera · 11/08/2014 23:17

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Saracarbonera · 11/08/2014 23:18

If it were a temporary one yes. Earrings can be taken out, tattoos are more permanent

Saracarbonera · 11/08/2014 23:19

In fact if it were a temporary one she could could have where she wants Shock

ashtrayheart · 11/08/2014 23:19

There's a legal age restriction on tattoos for a start.

ashtrayheart · 11/08/2014 23:20

My 3yo asked me today if my tattoo would last until I'm dead Shock

theQuibbler · 11/08/2014 23:21

And what pain and scarring would that be? I've got pierced ears. I happen to have had them done as a baby as opposed to doing it at 16 yrs old.

Although I recklessy decided to pop another hole in when I was 15 armed with ice and a needle - I sterilised the needle, but even so, DIY is not the way to go...

ICanSeeTheSun · 11/08/2014 23:23

As i said earlier women have earrings for all sort of reasons.

I have tattoos myself, love them and would take either of my children to have a tat at 18, because the same with supermarket these are age restricted item and no way would i risk someone reputation and job over some body art.

MorphineDreams · 11/08/2014 23:25

And what pain and scarring would that be

If you've had your ears pierced you know it hurts, and they leave scars even when you take them out.

In any other situation sticking a piece of metal through your child for no medical reason would be abuse. Why isn't this?

SirChenjin · 11/08/2014 23:26

Depends where you go...if you were on holiday in some countries I'm sure you could find someone who would tattoo them. If they wanted it - or your thought it looked nice, that is. Shame we don't have the same rules governing piercings.

ICanSeeTheSun · 11/08/2014 23:26

I have no doubt that my DC will have a tattoo done, heck both me and DH have them.

tattoo are very personal. In fact DD and DS has picked my next one.

itsazoohere · 11/08/2014 23:30

So, if it were legal, would you tattoo your child (if she asked)?
Genuinely interested.

SirChenjin · 11/08/2014 23:30

Yes, but presumably they will make the decision for themselves to have tattoo instead of you or your DH sticking the needle in them before they can speak and give their permission

SirChenjin · 11/08/2014 23:30

Good question itsa

itsazoohere · 11/08/2014 23:32

Why, thank you Sir. Grin

SirChenjin · 11/08/2014 23:32

You are most welcome itsa Grin

theQuibbler · 11/08/2014 23:32

Because it's nothing more than a pierced ear?! I doubt there's a way to reconcile such fundamental differences of opinion. I really don't feel that I was mutilated and it seem way OTT to call it abuse. But if that's the way that some people see it then they won't do it to their children will they, and that's fine for them.

Saracarbonera · 11/08/2014 23:33

itsa no.

SirChenjin · 11/08/2014 23:34

It's nothing more than a bit of ink under the skin and a nice picture - tattoo their backside and no-one will ever see it in public. And heck, they're only a baby, so it's not as if they will remember the pain....

itsazoohere · 11/08/2014 23:36

Or belly piercing?
I'm not trying to be flippant, I just wonder why some things are acceptable, yet not others.

ICanSeeTheSun · 11/08/2014 23:53

Aluminium is used in vaccines so is Gelatin as is egg proteins. not all i will agree.

however since my DD has decided to be a veggie she will never have any thing in her body that goes against her wishes, should i force her to eat meat. Should i bring her up in that the person she trust can not respect her wishes.

I know she is 5 and has alot of growing up to do but this is her body, not mine not her fathers and if she wants to make decsions about it then she can.

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