To let DD1 wear her Elsa dress to this party?

[MoragG]

DD1 (4) has been invited to a birthday party which had invitations with a 'Frozen' theme. She was looking forward to wearing her Elsa dress, which she loves. Today I got a text from the mum (sent to all the guests) saying that they are welcome to wear fancy dress but that the birthday girl will be dressed as Elsa. Is this a roundabout way of saying no one else should wear an Elsa dress? Would it be really bad form to let DD1 wear her Elsa dress or is the mum being a bit precious?

I think that is what the mum means, yes.

What is it with Frozen though? It's good but people have gone bonkers over it

We had a BBQ for DH yesterday and ended up with 4 Elsa's running around, one of which was a boy! In this case I would probably avoid the Elsa costume just in case the mum wants the birthday girl to be the only Elsa. Yes it is ridiculous and not my style, but it isn't worth risking an upset imo.

Birthday mum has definitely shotgunned Elsa.

Sod her. My DD had a Frozen-themed party last week. She was Elsa. Half a dozen other little girls were also Elsa. Watching all the little blue Elsas belting out 'Let it Go' as one, was an incredibly terrifying joyful experience

It is frozen themed, fancy dress, there are two female characters, therefore likely more then one Elsa dress in a closet. Let her wear it.

she is trying to claim it, but as others have said "sod her"

I would text to clarify what she means.

But if she means that no one else can dress up as Elsa then that's utterly ridiculous .

How good friends are you and her / your DD and her DD?

If not very I would be inclined to let DD wear her Elsa dress if you've already told her she can and she's really excited about it. But if you're all pretty close and it could affect your friendship I would dress DD in something else.

Update as requested! In the end DD1 did not wear the Elsa dress. No one else did either (except for the birthday girl, and the grown up Elsa look alike who appeared at the end!). I spoke to a couple of other mums, and they had interpreted the text in the same way I had, i.e. do not send your DD in the Elsa dress! Elsa cake, cookies, napkins, balloons, but just one little Elsa...

To be fair, they all enjoyed it though, so can't complain!

at Elsazilla

I think you should have sent your DD in her Elsa dress! Especially if she has lovely long blonde hair and the birthday girl doesn't, mwahaha

I feel like I'm the only person in the world who thought Frozen was shit hugely overrated

That is hilarious!

I do love Frozen though....

That is ridiculous.
Even my Ds would go to a "frozen" party dressed as Elsa.

Totally precious. Oh I love mumsnet. Such an eye opener

Today for example I was in the cinema watching malifecent with DC age 6\8pretty scary dark movie for a pg.
There was. Women in there who allowed her baby to cry for half the entire film.

Some people are just plain selfish or have no common sense.

Seem this elsazilla mum is one of them!

A Grown Up Elsa Lookalike?

What really? Is that a thing? Really?

Elsazilla

Made my day

Oh yes Elsa lookalike is a thing!

Friend of mine is one and earns about 1200 over a week (£200 per party then up to 6 a week...has been 10 at one point!!)

She knows it won't last but is revelling in it whilst it does!

Rather bemused by this mother shotgunning Elsa for her DD when inviting a bunch of four year (probably) Frozen fans to her party. Ugh....I'd probably follow some of the more damage limiting advice here, like asking for clarification etc, but really, I'd be making a mental note to distance us from such an entitled mother and her child. Thankfully, I don't know anyone this weird and precious about something like this and all my friends are pretty laid back and couldn't give a flying, lol.

YANBU to think this is weird though.

OMG - the mum went as Elsa too??? THAT was the real issue, if you ask me - she didn't want your kids upstaging HER!!!! Hilarious!

Thruaglass No, not the mum! Best misunderstanding ever though

Isn't Ana the main character?
I thought Elsa wasn't very nice?
Why is everyone wanting to be Elsa?
I have only seen the film once DS3 was waving a gonzo puppet in my face then we may have had a little nap so I don't really get the plot.

What a cow that mum was. A friend recently had a frozen party with an Elsa lookalike. All the girls,we're little Elsas and the.pictures of them all together were lovely.
Fancy sending such a mealy mouthed text and so.last minute too. What if you'd spent a lot on the outfit? Some people are utter loons.

Next you'll find out that the birthday girl was "really, really upset that no one bothered to dress up for her party."

Does nobody else find lookalikes scary?

There is a company locally that does parties, disney princess etc. They turn up dressed as the theme and do games and stuff. I find them really creepy. I'm sure they are perfectly lovely people and the children seem to love the parties. They have obviously got a great little business and are really good at engaging the kids in character but I hate seeing pictures of them all dolled up with the dresses and wigs, it sends shivers down my spine.

I do not get the Frozen obsession! My kids got bored of it! They preferred The Croods.

I do wish someone had sent their child in an Elsa costume, just to see if there was any fallout.

Im contrary id have sent child in elsa costume for hell of it...

Totally reply with 'great dd will be wearing her Elsa dress too'. No one can be that precious surely?