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To let DD1 wear her Elsa dress to this party?

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MoragG · 09/08/2014 20:26

DD1 (4) has been invited to a birthday party which had invitations with a 'Frozen' theme. She was looking forward to wearing her Elsa dress, which she loves. Today I got a text from the mum (sent to all the guests) saying that they are welcome to wear fancy dress but that the birthday girl will be dressed as Elsa. Is this a roundabout way of saying no one else should wear an Elsa dress? Would it be really bad form to let DD1 wear her Elsa dress or is the mum being a bit precious?

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curiousgeorgie · 09/08/2014 20:44

My DD is having a Frozen party for her 4th birthday and I'm happy for everyone to dress as Elsa... She had an Alice In Wonderland party for her 3rd ( with a much bigger choice of characters) and there were about 7 Alice's...

However, if I got that text, I would not be sending her dressed as Elsa. But her a Disney dress with Elsa on it, dress her as Anna or let her wear a normal party dress.

LaBelleDameSansPatience · 09/08/2014 20:44

Anna's clothes are far more beautiful ... I'd like to wear something as lovely: all embroidered felt ... Also, Anna is the real heroine, as my DD and I have decided.

MollyHooper · 09/08/2014 20:44

If she makes a fuss just start singing 'Let it gooooo, let it gooo' whilst twirling and waving your arms about.

All the kids will join in and you can run out while they distract her.

MaryWestmacott · 09/08/2014 20:45

Can you text back saying "just to check then, are all the other girls to come as Anna or are you ok with others going as Elsa too as there's only the 2 options for fancy dress? Wanted to check before I bought an Anna outfit, we already have an Elsa."

Really, she's not thought it through.

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MoragG · 09/08/2014 20:46

I think I will put the Elsa dress in the boot of the car and see what everyone else does. Thanks all! Just have to work out how to explain it to DD....

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pictish · 09/08/2014 20:46

Seriously...a text like that only warrants being ignored imo.
Put her in the Elsa dress and think no more of it.

TexanKenDoll · 09/08/2014 20:47

I don't think it's bad form. I had an Alice in Wonderland party as a child and my mother asked the invitees not to come as Alice. Seems normal the birthday girl gets first dibs.

Redglitter · 09/08/2014 20:48

I'd pretend I didn't get the text. She's being ridiculous if she thinks no one else will turn up as Elsa. Bet her daughter doesn't care either.

JapaneseMargaret · 09/08/2014 20:48

Yes that's exactly what the Mum means.

I would not send my DD dressed as Elsa, and I would explain to her why, but my God, I'd be eye-rolling to high heaven, and certainly altering my opinion of the Mum.

Who has a Frozen party, and expects 4-year old party-goers to abstain from dressing as a main character...?!?

OP - please update us after the party, with a full Elsa headcount. Grin

IsChippyMintonExDirectory · 09/08/2014 20:48

I would text back asking if it's ok your dd wears an Elsa dress too.

Bloody odd if you ask me if it's an "only birthday girl is Wlsa" rule. That means that pretty much every guest will be dressed as Anna Hmm I have a feeling that today birthday girl had a Verucca Salt "I WANT TO BE ELSA ONLY ME" moment and the mum text in panic

MaryWestmacott · 09/08/2014 20:48

or, can you be "that mum" and send your DD as the reindeer? (who's name escapes me)

PatsysPyjamas · 09/08/2014 20:48

There is no way I would buy a new dress for the party! No way! I would go with pp's suggestion and reply saying 'Fab, DD has an Elsa dress too!'. If the mum is that bothered she will let you know.

HumphreyCobbler · 09/08/2014 20:49

Goodness, how can you expect a lot of four year old girls to go to a Frozen party and NOT dress as Elsa?? I think the mother of the party girl should have told her daughter that the more people dressed as Elsa the better.

WhatchaMaCalllit · 09/08/2014 20:49

Well, there aren't too many female characters that have costumes from Frozen readily available, right? There is either Elsa or Anna or maybe Olaf but if the theme supplied by party mum is "Frozen - fancy dress", then she will have a lot of Elsa's and a lot of Anna's.

Strange idea picking a movie that has only two main (and no other real significant female) parts as the fancy dress theme. There are loads of dress up opportunities for example if you picked "Toy Story" or even "Snow White"....

MollyHooper · 09/08/2014 20:50

There is a lot more fun options with an Alice in Wonderland party for children.

Frozen, not so much. I mean, who wants to be Olaf?

ICanSeeTheSun · 09/08/2014 20:51

I wouldn't allow DD to dress as Elsa this isn't her birthday and quite right the birthday girl should have 1st dibs.

There again I would dress DD as the queen of arendelle

ICanSeeTheSun · 09/08/2014 20:52

Or any of the trolls.

WienerDiva · 09/08/2014 20:53

Of dear. That poor child's mother sounds like a right twat.

My dd is turning 4 in a few weeks and she wants a "Frozen" party (really wishing she was going against the grain at the moment, if I have to "be Anna" and sing First Time In Forever again I'm going to eat my own foot as that would be less painful and more satisfying). Anyway I digress.

There is no way on Earth that my dd would be making demands about her being the only one in "that" costume. I don't think those thoughts even enter their heads at that age, do they? Secretly hoping you'll all say they do and I can bask in the glow that my child is fucking awesome My dd would be wetting herself that her friends all look fab and like princesses.

This is why I conclude that the mother is twat.

And with that in mind, let your child go as Elsa, she hasn't actually stipulated that they can't. It's not like a wedding and she's reminding everyone to not rock up in their wedding dresses on her dd's big day?!?!

scottishmummy · 09/08/2014 20:54

If It's themed I can't see why your wean can't go as elsa?

Blatherskite · 09/08/2014 20:55

DD (4) went to a Frozen themed 4th birthday party a few weeks ago and 90% of the attendees were dressed as Elsa. No-one batted an eye lid and the birthday girl certainly didn't mind.

I do have some amusing photos of a room full of identical little Elsas running around though :)

ihaveadirtydog · 09/08/2014 20:55

Could I be a lone voice saying that that might not be what the mum means?
DD had a frozen party and a few mum's asked me if it was fancy dress - I replied that they could come in whatever they wanted but that my DD would be wearing an Elsa dress - meaning that it wasn't officially fancy dress but they could dress up if they wanted.

I'd be mortified if people had taken it the wrong way!

Blatherskite · 09/08/2014 20:56

Let her go as Elsa. If the Mum complains just tell her to "Let it go"

Grin

Sorry, couldn't resist.

scottishmummy · 09/08/2014 20:57

It's not about dibs,birthday girl doesn't get exclusivity.
and birthday girl not a real pwincess. Despite her mother overbearing demands

fuzzpig · 09/08/2014 21:01

Damn I came on here to say she is being precious and needs to Let It Go

But I'll mark my place anyway as I'm really hoping for an update after the party

Herecomesthesciencebint · 09/08/2014 21:01

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