To let DD1 wear her Elsa dress to this party?

[MoragG]

DD1 (4) has been invited to a birthday party which had invitations with a 'Frozen' theme. She was looking forward to wearing her Elsa dress, which she loves. Today I got a text from the mum (sent to all the guests) saying that they are welcome to wear fancy dress but that the birthday girl will be dressed as Elsa. Is this a roundabout way of saying no one else should wear an Elsa dress? Would it be really bad form to let DD1 wear her Elsa dress or is the mum being a bit precious?

Yes, the 'tho' definitely has underlying meaning.

Whether or not you choose to obey the underlying meaning, is up to you.

I would, because I'd hate the thought of everyone else obeying, and then my DD being the only one to 'spoil' it for the party girl 's Mum.

As I say though, I'd be rolling my eyes off my head.

I'd send her as Elsa.

Yes the 'tho' says it all.

Definitely don't pander. Send as Elsa.

I think she means "Dress up in whatever you want...Belle, Cinderella, a Pony,..." not that you can't wear Elsa's dress!

I think the Mum would be mortified if she knew what you were thinking!

People are often bad at proofing texts and seeing that some can be read in more than one way.

So she means "The party is Frozen themed but you're not expected to stick to that."

Like when my sister had a pirate party but didn't make them stick to it.

The tho,to me implies frozen theme.but birthday girl is the elsa
The rest will have to dress as other characters
I would fastidiously ignore,and chuckle as i assisted the other elsa get dressed

I think if the Mum wanted Elsa exclusivity for her dd she should have said so on the original invite. If I'd been out and bought a costume which happened to be an Elsa one on the strength of the original invitation and then received this text, I'd be pretty pissed off.

I bet there will be loads of Elsa's there

Ridiculous

When is the party?

I would take that to mean your dd can wear whatever she likes, but birthday girl is dressing up so she won't be the odd one out if she wears fancy dress to. All the girls will want to be Elsa or Anna so there's no way she would have a party and expect everyone to be Anna. I'm panicking myself now as sent a text along those lines about my own dd's party and certainly didn't mean no one else could come as Elsa!

How precious , does party mum think her dd is the bride? I would ignore the text and send her as a Elsa anyway.

How weird. My DD has an Elsa dress and we went to disney with her wearing - every other little elsa stopped to eye up and chat and make friends, it was lovely! Her best friend has one too and they love both being elsa.

More about the birthday mum rather than the birthday girl I think.

Surely we've all been to costume parties where the host or 'birthday girl' has reserved an outfit as it's her day? I don't see a problem with this at all. I don't have kids though so might not be able to see it :)

If it was a general fancy dress that would be fine to have an outfit just for the birthday child, but as it's 'Frozen' theme there is really only Elsa or Anna. When is the party? Really hoping this isn't about me!

Ignore my posts completely. Didn't realise the theme was frozen. There's hardly any characters! What are the kids supposed to go as, the sledge? A tree? Fgs.

She could always go as "George Washington" Elsa:

jezebel.com/kids-wait-hours-to-meet-elsa-get-angry-george-washingt-1617113198

There is a 5 year old boy in my son's class who gets very upset if someone else wants to be, or dresses up as, Spiderman. In every other way he is lively but I think he really believes He Is Spider-Man :o So the birthday girl might be that precious.

Not sure what I'd do though, apart from thanking God I've got boys and hoping they won't ever like a Frozen. :o

I doubt that many of the girls have anything but an elsa dress - she can't expect all these parents who have trawled over hot coals to get their hands on an elsa dress to go and spend more money on a costume their dc do not want while they have the perfect costume - also surely this is why they want the dress - to go to frozen parties in?

Anna is way better, why does everyone think boring socially inept elsa is the dogs bollocks?

It's as mad as preferring William to Harry.

That being said, send DD as Elsa. It's either miscommunication or partymumzilla.

Oh yes, please go as an adult elsa!

I wish I could have a frozen party I'm 28

I think that text is capable of being interpreted as 'please dress up if you want to but don't feel obliged, just to let you know what's happening my DD will be Elsa (so at least one person will be dressed up).

I think you'd do both your DD and the mum a favour by texting to check - imagine if the poor mum didn't mean it that way, wonders why there are 20 very resentful reindeer at her party, and gets labelled as ElsaZilla mum for the rest of her DDs school career!

I think the mum is being micro managing!

I agree with Jennifersrabbit. I think she is saying it's up to you if your child wears fancy dress or normal clothes but the birthday girl will be dressing up.