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To let DD1 wear her Elsa dress to this party?

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MoragG · 09/08/2014 20:26

DD1 (4) has been invited to a birthday party which had invitations with a 'Frozen' theme. She was looking forward to wearing her Elsa dress, which she loves. Today I got a text from the mum (sent to all the guests) saying that they are welcome to wear fancy dress but that the birthday girl will be dressed as Elsa. Is this a roundabout way of saying no one else should wear an Elsa dress? Would it be really bad form to let DD1 wear her Elsa dress or is the mum being a bit precious?

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scottishmummy · 09/08/2014 21:03

Frozen is a huge thing with we lassies

NoSquirrels · 09/08/2014 21:03

Hilarious - I'd be mortified to send a text like that.

We did a Frozen theme party this year - bday girl dressed as Elsa yes, but of course others were too. They loved it. Of course. What's better than one ice queen ... Lots of ice queens singing Let It Go and emoting all over the place.

It's encouraging brattiness to even have the discussion about being the only Queen for the day.

MorphineDreams · 09/08/2014 21:05

It's the birthday girls party so if she wants to be Elsa let her! Im sure others can chose something else. B

scottishmummy · 09/08/2014 21:06

No.thats not the spirit of a good party,imposing what others can/cannot wear

ElephantsNeverForgive · 09/08/2014 21:07

If the party mum is saying only the birthday girl can be Elsa leaving 20 other little girls in tears and their mums frantically searching for something else, when many if them have Elsa dresses she is being stunningly unreasonable and I'd politely decline.

scottishmummy · 09/08/2014 21:08

By all means birthday girl be elsa.same as everyone else
Of course birthday child doesn't get exclusivity on a mass marketed outfit

scottishmummy · 09/08/2014 21:09

I'd not decline,I'd simply let her dress as elsa

Glastogirl · 09/08/2014 21:10

Text the other mums and see what they're doing!

Jennifersrabbit · 09/08/2014 21:14

My DD is having a Frozen party for her 6th. I doubt not that many identical Elsa dresses will be worn.

I have been racking my brains for a form of words that says 'please feel free to send your child dressed as Sven/Olaf/Anna/Elsa/trolls but should they be the last child
In England who hasn't succumbed to this mass marketing craze please do not feel obliged to go to any trouble or give Disney any more money ...

Just possible the text you have received is a clumsily worded version of the above - you could test the water with a 'great, DD has an Elsa dress too' type text?

DD wanting to be the only Elsa would be told where to get off the bus, by the way Grin

tohotnot · 09/08/2014 21:14

Really hope the birthday girls mum is a mumsnetter, and reads this and sees how fucking ridiculous she is being!!

Wolfiefan · 09/08/2014 21:17

We went to a frozen party recently. The invite said to feel free to dress as a princess.
If my DD insisted on being the only Elsa as it was her birthday then I too would be telling her to jog on!
Dress you, your child and the dog as Elsa!!!!

WorkingItOutAsIGo · 09/08/2014 21:19

Is she being an Elsazilla?

EhricLovesTheBhrothers · 09/08/2014 21:21

What the fuck else are the little girls supposed to wear if not elsa? How many small girls have the anna costume rather than elsa? Should they dress as snowmen? FFS.

scottishmummy · 09/08/2014 21:22

Some of you make it also convoluted.texting the mum,texting other mums
Fuck that
Let your girl dress as elsa and that's the end of it

JapaneseMargaret · 09/08/2014 21:24

It's the birthday girls party so if she wants to be Elsa let her! Im sure others can chose something else.

Everyone is letting her. That's not the issue though, is it?

scottishmummy · 09/08/2014 21:26

Birthday girl isn't being inhibited,she is elsa.same as the other wee lassies will want to be

JapaneseMargaret · 09/08/2014 21:28

And expecting people who already have a perfectly functional Elsa costume in-house to go out and buy another, just for this girl's party, is very unreasonable.

AugustaGloop · 09/08/2014 21:30

I think it depends on the precise wording of the text. If it says feel free to dress up BUT birthday girl is coming as elsa, I think she is saying her DD should be the only elsa. If it says Feel free to dress up. Birthday girl is coming as elsa then I don't think it is necessarily saying that others should not - reads more as reassurance that there will be at least one other in fancy dress.
What precisely does the text say?

MollyHooper · 09/08/2014 21:31

That's a good idea Jennifersrabbit.

IAmAPaleontologist · 09/08/2014 21:33

If be pretty pissed off to be told my dd couldn't wear a specific thing to a party and I had to and buy a new dress. Mind you my dd is the only poor deprived child in the world to not own any frozen dresses at all and her party outfit of choice tends to be her fave dinosaur t-shirt. In fact shortly after she attended a princess themed party in her best green skirt over the top of her jeans and her grey dinosaur top it was her own birthday and one of the girls gave her a princess dress. I think they felt sorry for her Grin .

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MoragG · 09/08/2014 21:34

Was a bit reluctant to give exact wording of text but the relevant sentence was 'kids are welcome to dress up if they wish, the birthday girl will be dressing as Elsa tho'. Was the 'tho' that made me wonder...

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Guitargirl · 09/08/2014 21:36

That mother is going to struggle when her daughter starts school.

scottishmummy · 09/08/2014 21:37

Aha,aye the tho,explicit she's expecting her birthday girl be the only elsa
I'm contrary,so I'd ignore the instruction

thatstoast · 09/08/2014 21:40

Am I the only one who thinks Anna is the main character of Frozen?

I would send her as a reindeer, they're better than people.

Fillybuster · 09/08/2014 21:40

I would understand that as trying to reassure parents of children who aren't into Frozen (I'm sure they exist somewhere...) or who don't have a Frozen fancy dress outfit that they can still come in any outfit, but it will still be a Frozen party and that the birthday girl is going down that route. So it would be fine for your dd to wear her Elsa outfit.

My dd had a princess party a few years back and was delighted that other friends came as Belle, so that they could compare outfits Grin.