AIBU not to be grateful for visiting family bringing food?

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My parents and grandparents have come to visit for two days. I didn't ask them to bring any food unless they needed something particularly special (GP has diabetes, DDad has been low-carbing, other GP very carnivorous).

They have brought with them:

5 chicken breasts
4 steaks
2 quiches
3kg of potato
4 bags of salad
Potato salad
Coleslaw
1kg of cornflakes
Granola
Pastries
6 packets of biscuits
2 jars of coffee
2 cakes
6 buns
2 loaves of bread
Tortilla wraps
fruit (peaches, pears, strawberries, oranges)
2 bags of chocolate
Cheese
2 pots yoghurt
6 pts milk
4 cans of beans
2 packets of stir fry
Loads of other bits and pieces

I had already catered. They are here for 3 evening meals.

AIBU to think that this is not actually helpful but is really quite rude? When they arrived I had to spend an hour rearranging the fridge and cupboard and my kitchen is covered in crap.

I hate food waste and do have some food issues. I have thus far been quiet and cooked their food. But I'm not wrong to be hacked off, right?

Do you have a freezer? Cook & freeze the fresh stuff. Take any unwanted packets to a food bank when they're gone.

Get over it, anything you dont use, send back with them.

life is too short to wring your hands in angst at a shopping list

Freezer already quite full as we cook and freeze extra portions.

They won't take anything back with them.

they're trying to help
clumsily, but they're trying
freeze things and use the perishables

I assume they are just trying to be nice, so really its your reaction that is rude. Stick most of it in the freezer and say thank you.

YABU.At least they brought stuff with them and aren't eating you out of house and home.Be grateful.

I'd be grateful for it tbh!

What about my reaction is rude grocklebox?

Food bank suggestion is a good one, thanks. Nearest place is 15 miles but we can get there. Do they take unopened biscuits and cans etc? Presumably not perishables.

Given the responses I am prepared to accept I'm in the wrong. But if they'd told me they planned to bring all this I wouldn't have shopped, planned, or prepared the food I'd already prepped!

I would find this a little difficult too OP. Almost as though they felt you wouldn't be able to cope with their needs. YANBU, but I wouldn't bother saying anything.

(Am grateful for cacao's lone supportive vote)

Oh bless. .

Frog I'm nothing special but I can put together a meal for 6!

Yanbu. Mil brings a home made cake or buns or muffins every time she comes. They always end up in the food waste caddy as we just don't eat much cake. She brought about 12 muffins last time, we threw 8 out.

6 packets of biscuits for three days!

They aren't rude exactly but I can understand your frustration.

That would piss me off. Unless you ask or are offered and accept that kind of donation/gift, it just implies that you can't be trusted to feed them.

I guess it's a gift. Like giving you a hamper.

I wouldn't think anything of it but i'd help to eat it!

We don't normally have cake or biscuits in but I do always buy/make things for their visits. I would have been grateful if they 'd offered to take on one evening meal but they've actually brought more meals between them than they plan on staying for.

...oh god, they're never leaving, are they?

I suppose they just didn't want to put you out. I think it's really kind of them. Just think you won't have to shop next week.

6 packs of biscuits for 3 days? I'd have to pop out for more.

But my kitchen is COVERED in food!

I forgot to mention the ham, bacon, eggs, 12 bread rolls, and sweets

The intention was good .

I would despair a bit though if visitors bought quite that much food with them, although a contribution is always welcome. My problem would be that, if we have guests, the cupboards are full and the fridge is groaning under the weight of its contents. What on earth do you do with all that extra stuff.

I think that's really kind - they are trying to help.