To enjoy thinking of my OH with others

[Notsureifnormal]

That's it really. I get very turned on thinking of him being with other women. He knows this and we talk about it quite a bit during sex. I also like thinking about it when flying solo. We have a very strong relationship, are very attracted to each other. We have chatted about making this happen in real life but would both want a complete stranger, never to be seen again so it probably won't happen. This is where the internet comes in handy!

I suppose I hadn't thought too much about this but recently a friend said she had spotted her husband checking out another woman and the thought of him desiring someone else made her feel sick. In fairness, my oh doesn't perve over other women in a sneaky way while I'm with him so it's not quite the same but it got me thinking. Aibu to have this as a major turn on? Is it weird?

Couldn't you at least have waited until the sun was over the yard arm before you posted this?

I know it's Friday, but stil...

still

I'm the same as your friend, the thought of my partner being intimate with another woman makes me feel sick.

However I'm quite partial to a few things in the bedroom that most people would deem weird so each to their own and all that.

Welcome to MN OP.

There are tons of sites on t'internet dedicated to just this sort of thing. Go fill your boots.

Salmotrutta that made me splutter, perhaps should have waited til after watershed. Was sitting here thinking no I bet I AM normal, better check with mumsnet.

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Thanks dinosaur, actually joined a good while back, did the famous name change for obvious reasons. Am assuming welcoming post is actually one of suspicion? Can see why you might think that.

When I discovered that someone at DH's workplace seriously fancied him,I saw him with new eyes...he suddenly became much more interesting...it did give our relationship a bit of a boost!

As SillySausage says, each to their own, but I've heard of situations where people do act out their fantasies ony to find the reality left them cold.

Definitely unusual but who cares. So long as you're both happy.

Yes clawdy I get that. And sorryforthetypos I think you might be right there.
See it's an 'us' thing, because if he was unfaithful I would be devastated. And I get no hint that he's interested in pursuing other women outside of our imaginary chats. We can't be alone, surely?

Ok so let's assume this is genuine
Why are you telling us? Are you advertising?
Each to their own and all they but I don't see the need to share

[Biscuit]

And again

It's really self explanatory, did you read the post? I am wondering if any others are the same? Why is that so hard to believe? Advertising!!??
You know the same can be applied to almost every thread on mumsnet 'why are you telling us'. Because its a talking forum and that's what it's for. Alwys astonishes me that people have so much to say about things they claim to have no interest in. There are lots of topics, feel free to not comment on this one.

Some things are better in your head OP. This is one if them where the reality may not match the fantasy.

Think whatever you like. The wonder of your imagination is that it's completely private.

both want a complete stranger, never to be seen again so it probably won't happen. This is where the internet comes in handy!

so, you're actually looking here for a volunteer?

I don't get it. If there is any shagging going on I want to be in on it, not standing by holding a towel. That dogging programme that was on a few months back had a bloke on who was tickled at the thought of loads of blokes shagging his wife, which I don't get either but I think it's slightly more understandable that way around.

Are you a 'cuckquean', OP? I've heard of this. It seems to be a recognised fantasy but it's more common other way around.

Phantom no I don't want a volunteer, that was another way of saying p*rn.
It's a fantasy, I know I can't be alone. Btw folks, I'm not on the uk so you can relax, not looking to recruit.

Lyingwitch never heard if it, will google!