AIBU re asking this favour of DD?

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I am a single parent to 3 and I work full time.

Last week took kids on foreign holiday and have taken Friday off to take kids to Thorpe Park.

Am getting in from work to find NOTHING has been done not even jobs they are expected to do.

Elder two aged 17 and 15 out all day with mates at beach etc younger one is in most of the time.

17 yr old working tomoz so have asked 15 yr old DD to be here tomoz between 12-1 to let in electrician and be here while he does work (1-2 r job).

She is being a right primadonna about it and saying it's the "one day EVERYONE" is going to the beach :(

Am I being a total bitch?

She's not coming back. Maybe she spontaneously combust(ed).

:o

I am happily spending time with my lovely teenagers.

Polishing your mum of the year award are they?

No Piper, I expect Combust's teenagers are making dinner and running their lovely mum a bath as we speak, before settling down to a bit of Latin revision

Good Lord, am I reading the same threads?

From what I can see, Combust pointed out that she would have treated her DC with respect and not instructed or ordered them to obey her demands.

I happen to agree with her posts.

What a lot of childishly spiteful tosh then followed.

Maybe she struck a raw nerve?

Monte- you're the one who suggested rearranging the electrician- I think you might be the only one who agrees with OP. The rest of us live in the real world

Sorry, I meant I think you're the only one who agrees with combust

How is rearranging the electrician so unreasonable? If my DH arranged a tradesman to come in the middle of my planned day out, I would ask him nicely to rearrange.

Also, the OP said it was the friend of a friend so I also suggested she just leave him a key as he knew what he was doing.

Anyway, looking at the turn the thread subsequently took, we are clearly in a minority.

Like Combust, I try to accommodate DC and respect their arrangements. I live very much in the real world! And in my version thereof, it's fine to put summer days at the beach above dull and rearrange-able door opening duties.

And that's all I have to say. Peaceful Saturday evenings to all.

I'm also going to agree that the best thing would be to rearrange for a time that is convenient for DD. I don't think you are unreasonable for expecting her to help out, but if you expect give and take I think you need to respect her views also and try to reach a compromise.

I am off all holidays and would not take too kindly to DP dictating when I could leave the house - he has a lot of deliveries but we work it out between us.

Where do those of you saying "just rearrange" live that you have such obliging, readily available electricians? round here electricians come at their convenience especially for smaller jobs where they are fitting you in.

Tabby OP

"Tabby" Eh? *YANBU!

Was it childish tosh then when Combust accused me of saying certain things when I had said nothing of the sort, and then based on her completely incorrect assumption invalidated my qualifications and career, as well as her SIL and practically everyone else on this threads parenting techniques and family values?

Is it too late to say YANBU OP, or has the thread moved on too far?!

You're working f/t and presumably they are benefiting hugely from the income you are bringing in. Being part of a family means that everyone contributes, whether that's financially, or with the chores, or with letting tradespeople in, or whatever it is. Unless everyone pulls their weight then resentment builds, and one person has to do more to compensate - which isn't fair.

So she's ranting - let her. So she misses one trip to the beach? Being a teenager does not give you free rein to attend every social event going unfortunately. C'est la vie.

What happened in the end?