AIBU re asking this favour of DD?

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I am a single parent to 3 and I work full time.

Last week took kids on foreign holiday and have taken Friday off to take kids to Thorpe Park.

Am getting in from work to find NOTHING has been done not even jobs they are expected to do.

Elder two aged 17 and 15 out all day with mates at beach etc younger one is in most of the time.

17 yr old working tomoz so have asked 15 yr old DD to be here tomoz between 12-1 to let in electrician and be here while he does work (1-2 r job).

She is being a right primadonna about it and saying it's the "one day EVERYONE" is going to the beach :(

Am I being a total bitch?

Oh give over combust stop being so bloody patronising. I don't have teens but I do work with them and frankly I'm amazed most of them reach adulthood without their parents doing jail time.

piper I am sorry you have to work with dysfunctional teenagers.

Yes, combust, I'm clearly a bad mother. Everyone else here is also a bad parent. Only you and your perfect teens have got it right.

Archery I didn't call you a bad mother. If you feel that way then it's nothing to do with me.

We're all Doing It Wrong apart from you, though, right?

Not at all- I just hate to hear of teenagers being vilified.

Many teenagers are thoughtful, kind, helpful, respectful and want to support and help other family members.
In some families these values are very important.

Staggered by some of these posts - it's amazing what minor details you can get dissected and slammed for while your main point goes completely unnoticed.

YANBU at all, fgs don't reorganise! Being part of a family means responsibilities as well as all the privileges, you're her parent, not her housekeeper, and she's your daughter, not your guest. Five years from now she could potentially be someone's wife and/or someone's parent, she needs to start getting a grip on this idea now and understand that she's getting too old to be so egocentric. Of course she won't like it, she's a teenager, but that just makes it clear she needs a repeat of the explanation about how families work. And ground for chores not done.

"And ground for chores not done." do you ground your teenager?

In some families these values are very important.

And do you seriously imagine that in mine they are not important?

Some of these comments have made me snort rather.

Teenagers just aren't uniformly lovely and caring and responsible at all times. And implying that something has gone very wrong if a teenager isn't perfect 24/7 is horribly parent-blaming.

But I'm not going to waste my breath as its clear these comments were made to prickle people

combust Oh don't feel sorry for me, I love it. But I also love coming home to a teen-free house too.

It's easy to be an expert in parenting teens when you have none.

Oh yeah it was really easy getting my 2 degrees and 10 years experience.

And I didn't say I was an expert.

Or indeed that my work was anything to do with parenting.

"Oh yeah it was really easy getting my 2 degrees and 10 years experience."

And your qualification makes you a parent of teenagers?

You sound like my childless SIL who is a teacher- always giving parenting advice too.

combust perhaps you could share your experience of bring up perfectly behaved teenagers? It would be a great help to those of us struggling with teenagers. .

No. Did you have an education that taught you to read?

Yes and that made me a reader. Your education did not make you a parent of teenagers.

Then the issue must be comprehension. Let me make it clear for you.

1. If you read up-thread you will see that I have not offered any advice on parenting teenagers, just said that occasionally I felt sorry for their parents.

1. Again, reading up-thread will allow you to see that I said 'I worked with teenagers' not that I was an 'expert' or that indeed my work had anything to do with parenting.

Combustion has robots not teens obviously

Combust even

Piper, you haven't been reading the thread properly. Only combust is an expert on this here. The rest of us haven't got the right values.

Oh good god another bunfight, combust so happy for you with your perfect teens unfortunately many parents have to leave instructions for theirs. Most teens are a bit selfish, I expect I was.

My ds had to be nagged to do things, dd is helpful but still sometimes needs reminders. As for instructing dh, I have left a list before if necessary (like if he has a day off work before we go on holiday)

Combust you are perhaps the most smug sanctimonious poster I have ever had the misfortune to come across on here. You must be very shortsighted if you can't see how inflammatory your posts are