to be proud my dh said something to dsis

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We've all been on holiday, last day today. Been lovely apart from dsis treating us like children. Not allowed a key to the caravan, not allowed out on or own for the day without her and dn.

Questioning every time we spend money etc. We've spent the week on the campsite and done nothing we wanted too.

So before we left dh said he was taking DC to spend last 2ps, and she kicked off. So dh said "sorryi forgot this was only dsis holiday"

She's told him to fuck off and to never speak to her again.!

Now had a three hour drive with them not talking at all. Dh is refusihgnto say sorry :(

she sounds a bit mad tbh - who is driving not you I hope

Why did you allow her to control the whole week?

You say it's been lovely then go on to list many things which mean it has not been lovely and certainly not the holiday you wanted.
Good on your DH.
She should have been put in her place way before the last day.
Why was everyone doing what she wanted?
Why were you all pussy footing around her?

Please don't holiday with her again.
Give your DH a thumbs up from me!

Yeah were driving.

I don't know, she has some sort of hold over me.

yes good question why did you let her take charge like that? is that what she is used to?

Good on your DH for saying something, although why you all put up for it for the entire holiday is beyond me. You should have said something way earlier.

Why did you go on holiday with someone you don't have an adequate relationship with? And if your husband was forced to say something on the last day, it's no wonder she thinks you're both wet and can't manage your pocket money.

It sounds like you need to take up where your husband left off (although probably not when you are all trapped in a car together!). If she has been treating you all like crap, then you need to show her that it is not going to continue. Your husband has made a start (and that must have been pretty brave considering you seem to have accepted her behaviour) so you need to back him up and not try to smooth things over or placate her - if she wants to treat people badly, then she has to accept the consequences of doing so and now your husband has made a start perhaps it is time for you to share some home truths.

When you say she kicked off over your spending your last 2ps, is that literally the last 2ps? Imaging slot machines in peer amusement arcades.

Anyway, sounds like you'll be better off with little or no contact, although why you didn't say something earlier I can't imagine.

It was your responsibility to say something though, so why didn't you? It's your sister and you've let her bully you and your family all week.

I agree, if it's your sis, you should have said something and should have done so earlier.

Another one here who is having trouble understanding why it took until the last day before anyone pulled your Dsis up on her behaviour.

Is it her caravan, or have you all paid to rent one together? Regardless, you don't go on holiday to be told where you can go and who with, and to not have a key to your accommodation.

You've said she has some sort of hold over you. I hope your DH speaking up against her starts the process of this hold loosening forever.

Not let you have a key to the caravan?

She sounds like a tit.

No he shouldn't bloody apologise and you need to be more assertive, back him up!

You should of drove back days ago. She sounds like an arsehole.

I'm trying to get my head round why she thought it was up to her to decide whether you had a. Key and what you were going to do all week. Was the holiday her treat to you? If you paid your own share then you are a bit daft for not saying something earlier and tbh snapping at her probably wasn't the best way to deal wit the situation. It seems to me that it would have been better to have a civilised discussion on the second day - when it was apparent what she expected, than to let the frustration build up all week, when it became an issue.

How old are you? how old is she? does she have DC?

All very odd

She is your sister, yes?

Why did you not say something to her. You might be proud of your DH but I bet he feels crap now, and as for refusing to apologise, why should he.

Sorry weird thread crossover. Have reported to get it deleted.

Well at least you won't have to endure another holiday with her again.

It's up to her to apologise to your DH now for telling him to fuck off. The ball is firmly in her court now!

YANBU to feel proud of him for speaking out but you'll also need to stick up for him as you shouldn't let your dsis speak to him like that. If it was the other way round and your BIL told you to fuck off you'd be livid if your DH brushed it under the carpet.

Nuts in May.

Soshe left a bag in the cat yesterday and wants it back, but doesn't want my dh to drop it round, she wants me too. I'm ill in bed with the norovirus!!

If you're ill in bed, then your DH can drop this bag off, your sis is not your keeper.

I feel really sorry for your DH and dcs. You should have stuck up for them all. The holiday was trampled over by her and you let it.

If you cannot defend your family when she is around then you need to only put them in situations whetr she cannot do this again -no more family holidays with her, minimal social time with her and tbh dont be surprised if your dh never wants to spend any time with her again.

Tell her to come and get the bag.