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to be proud my dh said something to dsis

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Happypenguin2014 · 25/07/2014 12:03

We've all been on holiday, last day today. Been lovely apart from dsis treating us like children. Not allowed a key to the caravan, not allowed out on or own for the day without her and dn.

Questioning every time we spend money etc. We've spent the week on the campsite and done nothing we wanted too.

So before we left dh said he was taking DC to spend last 2ps, and she kicked off. So dh said "sorryi forgot this was only dsis holiday"

She's told him to fuck off and to never speak to her again.!

Now had a three hour drive with them not talking at all. Dh is refusihgnto say sorry :(

OP posts:
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Happypenguin2014 · 26/07/2014 11:56

She messaged me asking to send my 6dd in with the bag!

Thing is though its my dh who takes the kids to see her, she never comes to us. We live in the same town!

She thinks because we don't need to borrow a tenner here and there like we did when we was alot younger that she isn't needed anymore so we dontvwant to know her :/ not that she ever makes the effort with us!

OP posts:
StillStayingClassySanDiego · 26/07/2014 11:59

So how was the journey back?

aliasjoey · 26/07/2014 12:00

You just keep complaining about your sister, instead of listening to the advice on here and doing something about it. What do you WANT to happen?

Sallyingforth · 26/07/2014 12:04

She's still controlling you!

If she left a bag in your car then she should come and fetch it, not demand that you deliver it to her.
If you physically can't come, then tell her to send you the postage.

Tinkerball · 26/07/2014 12:07

Are you actually reading any of these replies?

NigellasDealer · 26/07/2014 12:09

OP have you ever thought that perhaps you might have enabled your sister's behaviour towards you? tell her to fetch the bag herself the lazy mare

KingJoffreysBloodshotEye · 26/07/2014 12:12

Does this bag contain anything she actually needs?

Medication, for example.

If not it can fecking well wait.

Stay in bed. Turn off your phone. Rest.

Hissy · 26/07/2014 12:21

Yeah, stop pandering to her, she's NOT the boss of anyone, let alone your whole family!

diddl · 26/07/2014 12:26

She left a bag so that's her problem tp sort out.

She fetches it or waits until you next visit.

Is it her caravan if not. why does she control the key?/

And not allowed anywhere without her?

Well you just get up & go out!

PigletJohn · 26/07/2014 13:14

I'm told that the "leaving a bag" trick is done so that they can come back/you will go to them to retrieve it.

hamptoncourt · 26/07/2014 13:32

Your poor DH. why is it left to him to tell your sister where to get off? You should be doing this.

Tell her she can come and pick her bag up any time she likes, and no doubt she did it deliberately.

Then never bother with her again.

You sound like a real martyr to be honest.

magpiegin · 26/07/2014 13:38

Just tell her to come and get the bag herself.

Why did she tell you what to do on holiday? Why didn't you just go out? I agree with the others, it's not up to your husband to stand up to her- she's your sister you should have done it.

diddl · 26/07/2014 13:38

Or post it with no stamps...

RabbitsarenotHares · 26/07/2014 13:42

I can understand the situation far too well. She sounds like my sis.

Please don't let anyone take her bag round. Tell her when she can come to get it. And try not to let her continue to bully you. She's right, you don't "need" her, and she needs to learn this.

clam · 26/07/2014 13:51

So not only is she demanding you return to her something she left behind, she is also dictating who delivers it?
She can fuck right off!

Gruntfuttock · 26/07/2014 14:20

"So she left a bag in the cat yesterday and wants it back"

Firstly, it's her own fault for feeding her bag to the cat.

Secondly, tell her to collect it, you're not her servants.

Gruntfuttock · 26/07/2014 14:23

Thirdly, she did on purpose. Don't keep pandering to her.

Gruntfuttock · 26/07/2014 14:23

She did it on purpose I mean

Bogeyface · 26/07/2014 14:25

Tell her to collect her own bag and put a note in there telling her to fuck off!

flyingtrue · 26/07/2014 14:36

You need to stand up to her OP, it shouldn't be up to your DH to have to. Agreeing with her doing it on purpose, you and your DH need to present a united front and by pandering to her you won't be doing that. Which could cause problem with your relationship with DH if he's getting frustrated that she's constantly using you, especially if he starts being more open and she starts playing more gamesto assert herself.

Why does she have such a hold on you? Usually that implies feelings of guilt or regret. Think back and look over yourself from now until childhood, have you always been like this the both of you? Can you see when it started? Are there any times you've stood up to her and did she play games again?

Picklepest · 26/07/2014 14:38

If you are going to be this much of a walkover you deserve what you continue to accept.

ssd · 26/07/2014 14:39

whats the age difference between you two?

maddening · 26/07/2014 14:42

Tell her to pick it up or she can pay for a taxi and if not taken within two weeks you"ll bin it.

MintyCoolMojito · 26/07/2014 14:55

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Sicaq · 26/07/2014 15:03

If I was your husband I'd be pissed off at you as well as your sister' OP. You can accept crap treatment for yourself if you want to, but you should have stuck up for your family. I do hope you are sticking up for DH now, rather than allowing him to be the baddie.