to be proud my dh said something to dsis

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We've all been on holiday, last day today. Been lovely apart from dsis treating us like children. Not allowed a key to the caravan, not allowed out on or own for the day without her and dn.

Questioning every time we spend money etc. We've spent the week on the campsite and done nothing we wanted too.

So before we left dh said he was taking DC to spend last 2ps, and she kicked off. So dh said "sorryi forgot this was only dsis holiday"

She's told him to fuck off and to never speak to her again.!

Now had a three hour drive with them not talking at all. Dh is refusihgnto say sorry :(

I am amazed your DH lasted so long.

Even if you earn all the money in your relationship your sister has fuck all right to query what your H spends it on.

Why could he (and you) not have your own key?

I hope he does not apologise and refuses to go away with your sister again.

You need to break away from your unhealthy relationship with your sister before you ruin your marriage.

Now is a good time to make that start and stand up for yourself and your H.

Thanks everyone. Background story:

I'm 24 she's 37. She has major middle child syndrome. She told me on holiday that when our mum died she felt a relief because mum had such a hold over her that she felt free when she died.. Hypocritical much?

She uses guilt to make people feel bad, her friends have even noticed. And she's so damn negative over everything!! But she's allowed her opinion but no one is allowed there's.

I'm definitely going to pull away, I'm fed up with it. She's started checking our disabled dads bank statements online and rings me if he's spent more than normal when shopping and accusing me of making him buy our shopping?! Wtf.

Husband has decided to walk round and drop it off, she's been asking for it all day but he's been out with DC all day.

Husband has decided to walk round and drop it off

Then he's a bloody fool to keep pandering to her!

Maybe he wants to tell her to fuck off face to face?

You sound like your own worst enemy op.
Grow a backbone and tell her where to get off, you're an adult!

Why didn't you all tell her to go fuck herself on the first day of the holiday!

There is no way I'd allow anyone to control our holiday, related or not.

The last few posts - you may as well go and repeatedly shout FUCK out of your front door for all the good you're doing anybody. I love profanity as much as the next twat dickhead but there's just no need.

OP, it sounds as though your DSis has huge emotional issues that began in her childhood. Siblings, especially with a big age gap, can experience the same family in very different ways. I would personally withdraw from the relationship in certain ways (going on holiday together for a start...!) or altogether, if that's what you would prefer - coupled, if you feel able, with a frank conversation about how controlling her behaviour is, and encourage her to get professional help.

Christ no idea what I was up to with the cross out fail there, temporary MN Tourettes. I was going to cross twat out and put person! I did not mean to call anyone but myself a dickhead.

Hoisted on my own petard, indeed.

Tbh I think you're getting treated the way you've allowed yourselves to be treated.

I've hot a rule in life that I treat others the way I'd like to be treated myself and I expected to be treated as I deserve to be. If I'm not, I question why.

I used to be confrontation shy. Funny thing is, I have less confrontation now as I'm very clear in my expectations so issues get nipped in the bud, rather than being allowed to develop into more serious problems.

Ahw just posted on my Facebook wall "never let your twat of a husband walk into my house again, he's lucky my bf didn't get up and twat him one!"

"Husband has decided to walk round and drop it off, she's been asking for it all day"

So, why didn't anyone tell her to pick it up herself?

Maybe I'm too scarednto say anything/ she's the only proper family I have, I have no friends either. And she's the only person who babysits for me if needed

Maybe I'm too scarednto say anything/ she's the only proper family I have, I have no friends either. And she's the only person who babysits for me if needed

What's your husband and child? Scotch mist? THEY are your proper family and your allowing your sister to disrespect your husband. Sorry OP but it's time to grow up and look after your wee family.

What? I'm sorry she is your only close family but do you want someone who threaten your husband in that way to look after your children? What if her boyfriend does attack him next time?

If any member of my family said that about my husband that would be it. We come as a partnership so respect is both or nothing.

Sorry OP I know that sounds harsh, but you should concentrate on your wee family or you run the risk of losing it if your continue to let her disrespect it. Your husband is going to feel second class and start resenting it. Please stand up for yourself as there's no family better than the happy one you build for yourself.

She sounds quite unhinged.

I personally would take some time out from having contact with her.

You're an absolute mug. Sorry to be blunt, but you are. Not just over the holiday, but in general with her behaviour.
She's left her bag, whined and whined for it even though you were poorly, so your dh took it round instead. (Why didn't you just tell her to come get it herself if she wanted it so badly?!)
Then the cheeky cow has a hissy fit as he'd dared to bring it round for her. If I was your DH I'd have been tempted to shove it where the sun doesn't shine.
As for that crap on Facebook, I'd delete it off my wall as I couldn't be doing with any of that public arguing. -
If this is all true, you're a doormat and she's never going to treat you any better as you just roll over and let her walk all over you.
Back away and disengage, she sounds unhinged.

unfriend her rom facebook at once.

that is no "friend"

Defriended and block!! You can't have her slagging your DH on FB!

She's not a 'proper friend' to you either. She treats you like shit. She doesn't act like she likes you. Babysitters can be paid for. Worth it rather than beholden to someone who treats you like this.

Step back from her, think about building other friendships up, and please decline any joint holiday offers again!

(and take her at her word, your DH isn't welcome there, so you don't go round, not take the DCs over, not going to run errands for her, she can come to you.)

She bullies you and your family, your dh snaps, you don't back him up, she whines and whines for her bag, your dh takes it round and to show her gratitude she publicly slags him off on fb?

I think you bloody well need to tell her a few home truths.
The fact that she babysits for you is not a reason to let her treat you and your dh like this.

Bollocks

Apart from babysitting what else do you get out of this relationship?

"I'm 24 she's 37. She has major middle child syndrome. She told me on holiday that when our mum died she felt a relief because mum had such a hold over her that she felt free when she died.. Hypocritical much?"

Were you young when your mother died, OP? I guess what I'm asking is, did your sister have 'mother' status while you were growing up, and that's why you struggle to challenge her?