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Husband going on holiday and leaving me alone with trouble teen

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Tanya34 · 24/07/2014 11:32

My husband is going on 3 rd holiday this year which I really don't mind . Problem is our teen daughter is in with wrong crowd drink drugs last time he was abroad she was put in hospital by one of her so called friends she was kicked unconscious and had her head stamped on was a awful time that I had to go through alone I begged husband not to go but he did anyways . Now he leaving again for a week and I'm dreading it every night is a drama drunken daughter kicks off has even hit me and smashed up my house this is not a one off it a regular thing I think he is sooooo selfish leaving me to deal with this alone again apperently he "really needs this holiday" I feel like burning his passport does anyone else think he is selfish or am I just jealous and overreacting?

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Tanya34 · 24/07/2014 11:33

Am I unreasonable ??

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Coughle · 24/07/2014 11:33

This is his third holiday alone? That's really odd. Sounds like your family is in crisis. He should not be leaving.

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Tanya34 · 24/07/2014 11:34

My husband is going on 3 rd holiday this year which I really don't mind . Problem is our teen daughter is in with wrong crowd drink drugs last time he was abroad she was put in hospital by one of her so called friends she was kicked unconscious and had her head stamped on was a awful time that I had to go through alone I begged husband not to go but he did anyways . Now he leaving again for a week and I'm dreading it every night is a drama drunken daughter kicks off has even hit me and smashed up my house this is not a one off it a regular thing I think he is sooooo selfish leaving me to deal with this alone again apperently he "really needs this holiday" I feel like burning his passport does anyone else think he is selfish or am I just jealous and overreacting?

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StarSwirl92 · 24/07/2014 11:34

He's selfish, YANBU. You go on holiday, leave him. See how he likes it.

TurboWithAKick · 24/07/2014 11:34

Where does he go? With friends or family?

It's all unreasonable isn't it?

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Tanya34 · 24/07/2014 11:35

My husband is going on 3 rd holiday this year which I really don't mind . Problem is our teen daughter is in with wrong crowd drink drugs last time he was abroad she was put in hospital by one of her so called friends she was kicked unconscious and had her head stamped on was a awful time that I had to go through alone I begged husband not to go but he did anyways . Now he leaving again for a week and I'm dreading it every night is a drama drunken daughter kicks off has even hit me and smashed up my house this is not a one off it a regular thing I think he is sooooo selfish leaving me to deal with this alone again apperently he "really needs this holiday" I feel like burning his passport does anyone else think he is selfish or am I just jealous and overreacting?

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OTheHugeManatee · 24/07/2014 11:35

Did your husband take the last two holidays alone too?

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Tanya34 · 24/07/2014 11:36

Would love to leave and go in holiday but would worry far too much about what's happening at home

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Tanya34 · 24/07/2014 11:37

Yes with his single friend who I really can't stand

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Tanya34 · 24/07/2014 11:37

With friend who I dislike

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Tanya34 · 24/07/2014 11:38

He goes with his friend he seems to think he deserves it because he works hard but so do I

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Finola1step · 24/07/2014 11:39

It's not unreasonable for your dh to need a break from what must be a dreadful situation with your dd. But you need a break too. Book your own break for when he returns.

PeterParkerSays · 24/07/2014 11:39

Tell him he can only go if he takes DD with him.

Finola1step · 24/07/2014 11:40

X post.

If you go away and leave him to it, then he will understand how hard it is.

DejaVuAllOverAgain · 24/07/2014 11:40

YADNBU Your H is being a selfish twunt. You need to point out to him that he is as responsible for your teen as you are and he doesn't have the right to opt out when the going gets tough.

TurboWithAKick · 24/07/2014 11:40

Where are they going?

How old is your dd?

Nanny0gg · 24/07/2014 11:41

It's not unreasonable for your dh to need a break from what must be a dreadful situation with your dd. But you need a break too. Book your own break for when he returns.

They're supposed to be a family. Constant taking of separate holidays when there are issues at home isn't helpful.

I would not be so happy about 3 solo holidays myself.

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Tanya34 · 24/07/2014 11:41

H a ha he would hate that good idea :)

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Tanya34 · 24/07/2014 11:43

I have done many times I think he is that selfish he can't see my point thinks I'm just being a nagg

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Tanya34 · 24/07/2014 11:43

I think I might just do that

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Tanya34 · 24/07/2014 11:44

He is going to turkey my dd is 16

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Seriouslyffs · 24/07/2014 11:44

Can you take her away? Has your not very DH suggested you all go together and she's refused?

Groovee · 24/07/2014 11:44

I would be gutted if my husband did this, especially with the issues you are having with your dd.

Why does he need to go with his "single" friend?

TurboWithAKick · 24/07/2014 11:45

So why is she drinking so much? Who provides and pays for it? And the violence... How are you dealing with all this?

TurboWithAKick · 24/07/2014 11:46

Is it Turkey every time, is he Turkish?

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